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“Sympathy & Light, Part Two”

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“Sympathy & Light, Part Two”

One thing I love about having my own blog is that it helps me in the same way that having a JOURNAL used to help me back when I was a teenager. I kept a journal and it helped me to get thoughts OUT of my head… it helps to keep one detached from the incessant dualistic nature of the evil brains we are all plagued by.

Someone recently posted something on the support forums about his ongoing court battles to get his daughter back from his ex-wife, who currently holds all the cards, despite her obvious incompetence as a mother. She’s like the Britney Spears of motherdom.

He mentioned in passing that “Right now, doing the 5D Compassion is not an option” because he was feeling too emotional. I told him that it’s PRECISELY during these hard times that we MUST do the 5D Compassion, not just for the benefits of transcending anger/blame, but also because it is in these hardest times that we earn our own self-esteem the most. I told him that if he could pull through this and come out on top, it would help him to earn his own trust back, because mastery over Self is the ultimate self-worth enhancement tool that we have.

In times of “super stress”, I suggest to students to use Shamanistic “Primal Screams”. That is, you think about that which is stressing you out, you let the energy build inside, and then you let it out in a terrific (and horrific) scream.

^^This little trick has done WONDERS for me, and it is also an awesome Girlfriend Training tool.

All of us are repressed - you MUST be to survive in this world. You can’t exactly tell your boss to go fuck himself whenever you feel like it. You can’t ram your car into the guy in front of you just because he cut you off. So all day long we repress, and it’s so unhealthy that it causes cancer and heart dis-ease unlike anything else. Cigarettes and whiskey are better for health than repression.

Primal Screams! rrrrrrrrrrrrAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRR RRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!

You’ll feel better ;)

THEN you can meditate. Otherwise we tend to have too much “brain static” to go quiet and become aware.

Once the emotion is OUTSIDE of your body, THEN you can sit down and run 5D Compassion to expand your consciousness. Works MUCH better than pot and hash joints. And better than wine. Especially if you have SEX afterwards…

SYMPATHY & LIGHT PART TWO
“Overcoming Poverty Consciousness”

I’ve had to make big strides this year to overcome Poverty Consciousness, or “working guy” paycheck consciousness. Last night I peeled off a HUGE layer, something semi-conscious that has been driving me in the wrong directions.

I started working “jobs” when I was 14, and I have had some pretty amazing (and shitty) jobs. Most jobs are pieces of shit if you ask me. A few of the memorable ones…

-Stockboy jobs, age 14 to 16

-Night shift gas station attendant (robbed at gunpoint 3 times, then I got fired because they assumed that I set the robberies up with friends, which I did not do. So I lost all my friends, my girlfriend at the time, etc. and my reputation. EVERYBODY turned on me, and I had guys coming up to me in clubs and doing things like punching me in the stomach by surprise, threatening me, etc.)

-Maxi-pad factory, 12 hours a night from 7pm to 7am, working the assembly line on concrete floors. 7 days on, one day off. Now THAT job fucking sucked.

-Machinist, at least 2.5 years. Big fucking loud machines, and as you work, little razor sharp metal shards enter your skin, poisoning you. But nobody ever told us it was so bad for our health. And the people who work in that field? Idiots (the employees) and super-assholes (the bosses). Like everywhere. In every job, people are always doing whatever they can to make others feel useless and stupid, have you noticed? Nothing is ever good enough, nothing.

-Sales jobs GALORE, because I really excelled in sales. I was pretty good at it, even earning #1 in Canada for the top Internet company out here. That is a BIG badass sales position, and I got a lot of validation, expereince, and JEALOUSY… holy shit people HATED me.

-I sold shoes as well, really expensive shoes that start at $300 a pair. I would sell those things to people while the 20-year-experienced guys would watch it all go down, and God did they hate me. I was just a “young punk”, what did I know? I knew how to CLOSE! I was passionate, I believed in the product, and I would sell not only the shoes, but MYSELF to some of the female shoppers ;)

^^ I’m sure most of you can relate to what it’s like out there in the business/job world.

During this time I also had tons of girlfriends, and as you know girls can stress a guy out to the point of suicide. Combine bratty girlfriends with crappy jobs, and you have some really nice depression and a very well-fed painbody.

Here is where this gets interesting:

This painbody of mine, I used to daydream a lot about having a better life. I’d imagine winning the lottery, then buying a huge apartment complex and giving free rent to all of my friends. That way, we could all get good educations and become a “somebody”! Stick it to our parents! Yeah.

I also had a REALLY shit home life, but I won’t bore you with the details.

So I used to have little daydreams about saving all my friends from the working world of stress, and at the time, I didn’t realize how much those little daydreams would ultimately POISON ME later on in life.

I’m now going on 32, and while I can’t say this for sure, I’m probably the big success story from my entire high school. Most, if not all, of my old friends are still stuck in the rat race, working shitty jobs, they all have crappy relationships filled with Dragon Butter and pain, kids they don’t know how to raise, and everything else that makes life too hard.

And me?

I fuckin’ TRANSFORMED. My entire life is *perfect* - my relationships are way beyond what most humans can even concieve of, I mean, I show up to greet old buddies with at LEAST one young-awesome-hottie-who-worships-me by my side, sometimes two or three of them. I don’t have to hold “jobs” anymore, I’m a successful entrepreneur who now travels the world to teach his life passions. It’s pretty insane how happy I am. Ghita cries once a day minimum, FROM HAPPINESS. I’m living THE life I always wanted… actually, I’m already way past my old dreams (except I still can’t afford to buy sky-scrapers for all my friends, sorry guys, but you’re on your own).

I will *eventually* be able to afford that old “skyscraper” dream of mine, but last night I realized just how badly I need to let that dream go. These types of images have been stewing in the back of my subconscious mind for so long that I was barely aware of them, although they have been fueling my efforts in a big way. It is the wrong kind of motivation, Steph, really man… let that crap go now. You can’t be Superman, take your own advice.

(I’m *solid* in the context of GIRLS, I don’t know anyone who is more solid than myself when it comes to relationships, but the rest of my life is still in need of catching up. Fortunately, if you can handle WOMEN, you can pretty much do anything from that point on, haha.)

I have to let that old superman bullshit go, TODAY. “I freely let go of what I don’t need and welcome change”. STILL working on Sacral Chakra - is it just me, or is that not the TOUGHEST CHAKRA to heal? I call it “The Eckhart Tolle Chakra” because you have to be on Eckhart’s level to say “My Sacral Chakra is perfectly open”. Yikes!

My mind is very calm and quiet MOST of the time, but let’s be real, I’m still stuck in it. It’s going to take me a lifetime or more to get all the way out. To live ONLY in the Chakras is tough, and we need to be READY for this, it takes time. One thing I’m self-satisfied about is although I’m still stuck in my head, I’m also very detached from it when I need to be. I’m good at being “the little man” in the back of my head, The Silent Witness comes pretty easily to me now. I would be nothing without re-identification with Silent Witness, which is the single most important thing I have ever learned.

ideaGasms would be nothing without Chakras, holy shit. I would still be applying for sales jobs if not for those Chakras…

Which brings me to where I’m at today. IG (ideaGasms) is growing, and it’s about to explode when BGTP comes out later this week. I should have recorded Ghita editing this thing, because she spends her days laughing and running over to hug me, that video would sell the program very nicely indeed ;)

So now, I’m getting schooled in the art of hiring staff, my goal for this year is to get away from having to reply to emails altogether. I’m currently training people to handle the shipping/handling type of emails, I’m also training Alex to answer questions about Dating, S E X and Relationships (he’s a champ), as well as manage the forums, and I’m working with my first-ever marketing team that is proving to be quite competent indeed. I’ve never marketed, and I’m glad because it taught me that I can do it on my own. And with the help of DYD… 8)

My goal is to become 100% CREATIVE, which means the entire business must be run by other people. My mind has to reach 100% quiet levels now, that way whatever comes out of my mouth will be gold. Have you noticed how fucked up being on the internet can make you? The ‘net gives energy, but it takes energy as well. The electromagnetics, the static builds up to the point where I cannot even meditate unless I do some preliminary screaming first…

A HUGE lesson I learned about hiring people is simply this:

Hire people who care more about making a difference in people’s lives than they do about money. When I hired my first “manager” two years ago, I speciafically hired him because he was obviously a SUIT. A suit is someone who places money above all else.

I thought, “I’m too focused on individuals and “Heart” to be any good at running a business, so I need someone “dark” and cunning to get shit done.”

Wrong!

He ran IG right into the ground… I almost drowned recently and I’m just now picking up the pieces. We ALMOST “died”, so-to-speak.

The people I’m working with NOW, however, are people who want to contribute to the global awakening of mass consciousness. THESE ARE “MY PEOPLE”! They believe in my message, in my ability to impact lives, and they are happy to be on board because their Heart’s beat with mine. Money is a distant second, and when you work with people like that, we all make more money in the long run anyway.

Anyway, I’ve made a few mistakes, I’ve hired some people for the wrong reasons, and it made me aware of my old “daydreams” of saving all my friends from lives of misery and pain. I’m letting go of this desire to save them because in reality, the world is my mirror and that means I was merely trying to save my old “working man” paycheck consciousness Self, if that makes any sense. I have MASSIVE sympathy problems, and I’m lucky to have become aware of this pattern. Soooo fortunate, wow.

My friends are all exactly where they need to be on their own unique life path and soul evolution. I’m not honoring anyone by trying to save them. (Funny how I know and LIVE these lessons 100% in the context of my own love life, but not in this business & friends context!) I also needed to go through all of those painful times, because many of those “jobs” trained me to be where I am today - even the stupid gas-station job is what allowed me to read hundreds of books about human behavior, NLP, psychology, sociology, relationship dynamics, and so on. I got some real “schooling” on that “dumb job”. And the sales jobs really helped me to “Man up” on MANY levels. Looking back, each and every silly little job taught me things about myself that I needed to learn very badly.

^^ Glad those days are behind me.

Thanks for reading, I know this wasn’t as “deep” as Part One, but I feel ten pounds lighter! I also feel a little bit of a blush coming on as I’m about to click on ‘publish’…

Having a PUBLIC journal, yikes.

Blessings, Light, and Empathy-not-sympathy,

Stephane






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9 Responses to ““Sympathy & Light, Part Two””


  1. 1 mario

    Dear Stephane,

    http://www.amazon.com/Portable-Coach-Strategies-Business-Personal/dp/0684850419
    is a fantastic book which amplifies your post.

    Enjoy & thank you.

    Mario

  2. 2 Tuplad

    Weeehehehehe :D Wonderful!

  3. 3 Enrique Alejo

    I’m no chakra expert but i think you can heal your sacral chakra man. It sounds like you’re pretty good at this stuff. But it also sounds like you hero worship eckhart tolle on a superiority / inferiority level, and i know and you know that there’s no reason why u can’t have it just as open. what a thought. and number 2 like in peaceful warrior, “it’s not about the destination, it’s about the journey”. so maybe we’re supposed to always be on the higher path? i know that i don’t know but i’m definitely a truth seeker. overall though, you’ve definitely let go of a lot more crap than most humans and i totally felt the energy when i was over there in L.A. with you guys. love it. Steph’s the shit.

  4. 4 stephane

    >But it also sounds like you hero worship eckhart tolle

    I hate it when jokes… ahhh text doesn’t carry my emotions through the ‘net ;)

    I do not “worship” Tolle.

    I want to make man-love to him, that is all.

    S.

  5. 5 Richard

    I totally dig this, Stephane. For me it was a circular village of twenty houses I dreamed of at 17, but not for my friends of those days, but for ‘my people’, as you say. There would have been a little sliding plaque, either ‘welcome’ or ‘occupied’ by the side of each front door, a playground and communal hall in the centre, and we’d all live in bliss.. weird how men and women have the same dreams, ultimately. I found someone’s almost identicallly described ideal later in the archetypal feminist novel ‘The Women’s Room’!

    A lot’s happened in my life recently, and you might guess that I can confirm from my 52 yrs perspective how right you are about how sh_t life generally is, and how well you’ve done to rise above it and really ‘get a life!’. My personal development teacher, Leo, who died in 2002 was always saying pretty much the same as this post. It seems scary, opening yourself like a flower, pouring your heart out in public, until you realise most people are just worrying about justifying their unsuccess, afraid, so who’s out there to be afraid of? Another teacher of mine, Don Cupitt, a way-deep theologian-philosopher, said this is the age of ‘coming out!’ (and not just for gays :) shine your light fearlessly. let your wisdom be a beacon. I still, at 52, have a few problems with that, but after a major earthquake, I’m getting there I think, and of all the people on the net, I find your heart resonates with mine. Scary to say that, huh? Sounds kind of ’squishy’. but not really. Because you know what I mean. And that makes it okay, no matter what anyone else thinks. I listened to your interview with DYD (which is in 8 parts on youtube) yesterday and it was awesome, man. Dr Paul recently said in his newsletter that he’d realised it was unwise to think yourself a cut above these time-served guys. DYD seems a genuinely nice guy, a kind of hub of the industry, and he’s helped a lot of people get established. But those last two parts! :) He was just listening, man. Like you came into your own and, well, there wasn’t much he could contribute at that point! There’s a kind of vibe you give off when you’re ‘in flow’ which I guess kind of ’sneaks into’ people, and they get mesmerised, their hearts are just there listening, you know, kind of saying to them, ‘He’s right, you know!’ It’s a joy to read and hear you. “Rock on, Tommy” ;)

  6. 6 Richard

    Having read what I just posted, and realising how no-one likes to be misquoted, I went back and found the bit where Dr. Paul - another top-notch guy not afraid to question himself whose intellect I deeply respect - reassessed his attitude to other dating coaches. It was in his newsletter (which I highly recommend) back in May, and he concluded:

    “In the short term, being destructive has distinct and powerful advantages, but in the long term takes you further away from your goals, and from benefiting others… Therefore, unless directly asked, I am simply not going to discuss other teachers of men’s psychology or ways of relating to women.”

    I think this is wise, and a principle I see you keep to also, Stephane. Everyone is (rightly) aware of their own strengths, and it’s better to keep to these than highlight the perceived weakness of others by invidious comparisons. But the tendencies in all of us, and can sneak in unawares if we’re not careful, as my previous comment demonstrates. We all have our teachers, and get our ideas from somewhere, but it’s in how we uniquely synthesise and implement them that our personal magic, if we have it, lies.

  7. 7 Andy

    Hey Steph, Thank you for everything!!!! When I first read your news letter “Relationship Carma” I was at my bottom and I havent read anything from your page in over two months because of all the abundance in my life now -THANK YOU SO MUCH!!. Your teachings have taken me from my darkest points to my lightest. Fuck the details -just THANK YOU. YOU ARE A HEALER -Andy

  8. 8 Enrique Alejo

    >I hate it when jokes… ahhh text doesn’t carry my emotions through the ‘net

    >I do not “worship” Tolle.

    >I want to make man-love to him, that is all.

    Gotcha, i figured you had yer stuff figured out.

  9. 9 John

    Wow, Steph, you’ve been through alot. That was truly inspiring.

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