***QUESTION***

Stephane,

I remember a couple years ago, you mentioned in passing, “Don’t let your girlfriend read these newsletters!” and I thought that was quite funny.

Well, I’m no longer laughing… you were right. My girlfriend just read one of your recent ones about the Circle lifestyle and those multiple bisexual girlfriends of yours. She is reading your entire blog as we speak, and FREAKING OUT.

And she’s GRILLING ME about this. She was angrily asking me if I had planned on having a “harem” of my own.

Needless to say, I told her that I never was planning on having a “harem”, and of course, would never “talk her into it”, hahaha.

Anyway, the point is that she distrusts me now because she thinks that I have a hidden agenda, that she isn’t enough for me, even though the reasons she fell so in love with me was because of following your advice on your newsletters and blog! The irony!!

Can you help a brother out of a jam?

Thanks,

H.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This particular “reader question” is actually just a composite of about 50 emails I received THIS WEEK ALONE.

My recent ramblings about the Circle life are creating somewhat of a stir.

One girl even emailed me that she fell in love with an “ideaGasms student” and that later on towards the end of their relationship, he got so frustrated with her that she wasn’t actively bringing him any women… he actually BEAT her up one night, and she left him for good.

Rest assured, I do NOT accept blame, and I can only be responsible for myself. So there’s no way I’m going to just “pack it up” and call it quits. The Circle newsletters will continue, no worries.

I fancy my life purpose, I enjoy my lifestyle, and I’m definitely onto something with the whole Circle thing.

Let’s not forget, every newsletter I send out starts with a cute slogan -

ideaGasms(R) - Welcome To The Front Lines Of Dating, S E X, And Relationship Consciousness.

The FRONT LINES… the cutting edge.

That said, I want to make something clear.

I am acutely aware of the fact that my newsletters will seem, to some people, like I’m sticking it to the institution of marriage, and insinuating that “normal couple” relationships consisting of only two partners is “wrong” or even “stupid”.

Now, while I have learned from my own experience that an Interdependent Circle is indeed a higher CONSCIOUSNESS level of relationship than any other relationship model known to man… (as far as I can tell)

THAT DOESN’T MEAN CIRCLES ARE *BETTER*.

Is a doctor “better” than a janitor?

Well, he is probably more educated, and perhaps on a higher level of consciousness than the janitor (in some cases, not all), but does “higher conscious awareness” actually mean “BETTER”?

Definitely not.

The word “better” or “superior” are merely narcissistic ego judgments, and the human ego is narcissistic by its very design.

Since most human beings are still very much identified with the ego (they think the mind is who they are, they are identified with content, rather than context), they will inevitably think that my newsletters about Interdependent Circles are my way of putting the rest of the world down.

“The world is their mirror”, and people often project themselves onto others, especially when those “others” are in some kind of leadership or teaching position. These kind of egoic projections come with the territory. The “hate the leader syndrome” is very common in our society.

I am not a “great leader”, “guru”, or even a “teacher”. I’m just a guy who loves to share things that I’ve learned from my own life experience. I’m just a heart-centered blogger who gets laid a lot… I leave the “teacher” titles to guys like Jesus & Buddha.

I share these “cutting edge” ideas pertaining to Interdependent Circles with great Joy.

WHY do I share this stuff? Is it to show off, or to insinuate that Circles are “better” than other relationship models?

Perhaps showing off can be fun at times, I would be a great liar if I said that the ego in me doesn’t get off on this!

And while I definitely find Circles to be much “higher consciousness” (let’s face it, it takes a lot of heart, and experience, and understanding how women tick to successfully pull this off) I do not lie to myself that it is somehow “better” than say, getting married and raising children.

Question:

What is the PURPOSE of having ANY relationship to begin with?

To me, the purpose of relationships is to learn Unconditional Love.

And, unconditional love is precisely what undoes the programming of the human ego.

Therefore, to me, the highest purpose of human relationships is to assist mankind in transcending the ego.

And, the closer one gets to this eventual goal, the higher their chances of actually being able to create, and maintain, an Interdependent Circle.

Now, I am also aware of the fact that Circles are certainly not for everyone. I estimate that only 0.4% of the human population can do this.

I say this because according to consciousness research, only 0.4% of the population has Compassion (for all of life in all it’s expressions including the self, without exception!) No Compassion, no Circle, it’s really that simple.

Now, by sharing what I have learned about Compassion, and Circle dynamics, I have learned sooo much about women & relationships it’s not even funny! It’s ridiculous how much wisdom has come from this experience.

They say that if you want to know someone’s character, put them in a stressful situation.

I wanted to know WOMEN. Ever since I was a boy, I have “studied” women, not unlike a mad scientist. I thought that if I could find a way to make women feel 100% loved and fulfilled… in turn, I would be loved & fulfilled.

What could be the most stressful situation I could possibly put women in, in order to see what makes them tick?

RIGHT!

In a Circle, with other women!

(I dare anyone reading this to not only transcend jealousy within, but to train women to transcend jealousy as well. It took me a lifetime to figure out this ONE piece. The solution is to let of the false identification with the ego.)

I now have an extremely refined understanding of how WOMEN TICK. I understand female ego programming on a considerable level, and this has the advantage of placing me in a position where I am able to share things I’ve learned that can help ANY GUY OUT THERE.

(I can help girls too, but I have found that it’s much easier to fix a relationship by tweaking the guy. She then follows his lead. As a woman, if you try to train a boy to become a man, it tends to kill your attraction for him, doesn’t it?)

I don’t care if you guys have Circles or not. That is besides the point. Knowing what I now know about women, I can help even the clueless 40-year-old virgins if they so choose. I can even help… ‘

*gasp*

Married Couples!

Just kidding… married couples are beyond hope

In all seriousness, my marriage counseling is probably one of the best in the world, simply because if I can manage THREE girls, I think it goes without saying that I can show you how to manage ONE.

Now, let’s talk about how to handle the “dark day” that will eventually come when your loving, sweet, innocent girlfriend finds one of these newsletters and freaks out.

So how do you handle it when your girlfriend asks, “So now you want a Circle of your own?! You chauvinist PIG!!”

The way to handle this… is simply to get clear about what you actually want for yourself BEFORE your girlfriend catches you reading these evil, advanced newsletters.

First of all, would YOU enjoy waking up next to three beautiful bisexual women who love and adore you?

For many men out there, the answer is obviously going to be yes, but you gotta ask yourself this next question, and answer it HONESTLY:

Are you willing to not only lose your current girlfriend over this, but are you also willing to lose your entire family and circle of friends?

Are you willing to lose respect in your community?

Are you willing to lose your job, your career?

I’ll ask you another question:

When you make an honest assessment of your “abilities” with women, do you have a lot of experience? Do you “f*ck women to God”?

Do women usually CRY after you’ve had sex with them? No?

You see, Circles are ADVANCED. Do you honestly feel like you can seduce “every other girl” that you meet?

Because until that day arrives…

Until your “skills” in the art of being an evil PUA who can push just about every female attraction button there is…

Until you can blossom open the Heart of MOST WOMEN you talk to…

You’ll probably fall flat on your arse, and your goal of having Circles will lead you to a lonely life devoid of having ANY girls at all, not to mention, an eventual lonely death.

You don’t take one karate lesson and jump in the ring with Chuck Norris.

You gotta be HONEST with yourselves on this. Circles are DIFFICULT to build, and even more difficult to maintain. I spent an entire LIFETIME completely surrounded by an abundance of women. Unless you have had similar experiences, the Circle goals are far off.

So this brings me back to your girlfriend, and what to say when she asks you if you plan on “starting a harem”, LOL.

Just be honest. For the majority of you reading this, the honest answer is simply, “Sweetie, perhaps in the next lifetime, but in this lifetime, I want to humbly learn how to be the best lover I can be for ONE WOMAN”, and then devour her sexually ON THE SPOT.

She’s just worried that she might LOSE YOU. So take some time to reassure her a little, and to make love to her. She’s probably not READY for Circle lifestyle, I mean let’s face it, she’s now just learning how to have a relationship, and relationships are challenging enough!

Single? Learn to get good on a simple “dating” level first -
http://www.ideagasms.net/intro-to-ig-consciousness/

Get your Chakras (levels of consciousness) in order, and make your goal about living in the HEART -
http://www.ideagasms.net/chakra-centers-heal-cd/

If you have a nice girlfriend, make the relationship INCREDIBLE and FULFILLING -
http://www.ideagasms.net/girlfriend-training-program/

If you don’t have a girlfriend, BE PREPARED -
http://www.ideagasms.net/girlfriend-training-program/

Be the best lover you can be, and learn how to f*ck women to God -
http://www.ideagasms.net/how-to-squirt-video/

THEN take your experiences and wisdom about women to the next level -
http://www.ideagasms.net/the-bisexual-girlfriend-training-program/

Again, don’t get the BGTP because you want a Circle. Get it because you want to learn CUTTING EDGE wisdom about the nature of women -

http://www.ideagasms.net/the-bisexual-girlfriend-training-program/

One more thing before I leave.

The trick to starting a Circle lifestyle is NOT while you’re in the middle of a normal, average relationship. When you startle your average girlfriends with this Circle stuff, don’t be surprised when they are very hurt and angry with you. You gave her “the American dream” and now you’re ripping it away from her!

The trick to Circle lifestyle is to be clear with women that this is what you’re about from the very beginning.

Don’t get me wrong, you do NOT have to open girls with, “What kind of girls do you like?” right off the bat. Sometimes I do it that way, sometimes I don’t.

Sometimes… I’ll get to know her, and even sleep with her first. It depends on the girl. I will make sure that she isn’t needy, and that she can handle me saying that I don’t want her to have any expectations (most girls can not only handle this, but will sigh in relief).

THEN I may or may not bring up the Circle lifestyle thing, depending on how I think she might qualify for this sort of thing. If she’s a nice Christian girl from a nice family who plans to one day teach kindergarten… I’ll leave it alone, and respect her path.

When I met Ghita, she already had experience with boyfriends AND girlfriends. Her first sexual experience with a girl? SEVEN YEARS OLD! Playing “doctor” and taking turns eating p*ssy in the bathtub.

My kind of girl…

I showed her my evil PUA notes that I had collected over the years, as well as the “curriculum” that I was using for my pickup workshops in those days, and she literally DEVOURED the material and asked me, “When does my PUA training begin?”

(Sorry guys, don’t bother… I lost my PUA notes when I moved into a different apartment that year. My God… they would be worth thousands of dollars on eBay, damn.)

You see, THAT is the kind of girl you NEED for the Circle lifestyle. Ghita was born for this!

The thing is, I don’t try to “persuade” or push girls into this. I simply state what my life purpose is all about, roll the dice, and let the chips fall where they may.

Thanks for reading!

Blissings,
Stephane

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