*Question:

Stephane,

Here is a recurring issue in my inner game since forever. Early on, I
used to think “it’ll never work out” for me with women because “I am not
enough”. Fast forward 10 years, and I knew I was enough. But this “it’ll
never work out” remained under the guise of “my game is not enough.” So 5
years forward, my game is fairly developed. But now, I have accumulated so
many failures and have lost so many good girls during this learning process,
that I have simply lost faith: Facing a woman I REALLY like, a perfect
beauty, who truly touches my heart – I am just waiting for the disaster to
come. Not because I’m not a good enough man, not because I have no game, and
not because she does not love me, but fundamentally, I just don’t believe
anymore that it can actually happen!

>>My Comments:

You are stuck in the MIND.

The mind *always* thinks of worse-case scenarios, worry, disaster, etc. and then tries to plan ahead. That is the dark side of your mind, the masculine side.

The light side, the feminine, does the exact opposite. This is where daydreaming, crushing, hoping, wanting, etc. comes into play.

And, those two sides of your mind are like a coin - they will ALWAYS be “fighting” or arguing like this - it’s what the mind DOES. The mind is a duality machine, an “antithesis machine”.

The trick is to stop identifying with your mind, and bringing your consciousness back to where it belongs - in your 7 chakras. In your case, you have a lot of work to do on Sacral Chakra (worry, jealousy, inadequacy, etc.)

The Sacral Chakra teaches us lessons in the art of “let-go”. Someone with a balanced Sacral Chakrais able to let go… and trust… this is where you actually intend to stop ‘living’ and to start BEING LIVED. Instead of trying to control everything, we learn to trust the universe… when has it ever let us down?

The other day I was out with some girls, and the girl who was driving us everywhere couldn’t find her car. She forgot where it was parked, and started to panic. And then all of the girls started getting stressed too…

I was just walking along… my emotions never changed. But eventually the girls were becoming annoying,so i said, Girls! Shhh listen to me. This is what we’re gonna do. We are going to walk around for a while, then we are going to find ourselves seated in the car again. This shit will work itself out - trust me.”

And, a few minutes later we were all seated in that car.

Next came the traffic… the girl who was driving started to get stressed about that which she cannot control - the traffic.

Once again, ALL of the girls started getting stressed, so I said, “Girls… GIRLS! Listen up… right now, we are driving, and there is traffic. And eventually, when the time comes, we’ll all be home.”

Of course, the girls started laughing their pretty little heads off.

“Let-go” is a very fucking valuable lesson, and when you are ready to learn it, you will

Blessings,
Stephane