Someone asked me to post about my experiences in teaching… The following are a few key things I’ve learned over the years, and this post is mainly for myself, to reinforce my own wisdom/lessons about teaching and about being in the public eye. But, if anybody reading this gets value from this, awesome.

If you plan to start a buisness of this nature, or you teach in any way, you might want to check out some of these points.

I took a week off due to wisdom teeth removal horrors, and so I spent a lot of time thinking about teaching, and all the little lessons I’ve learned along the way about being a teacher. And writing newsletters, making products, influencing people to let go of negativistic thought patterns, handling irate customers, etc. etc.

Here goes.. teaching notes to Self:

1. Careful with your generalizations. People LOVE to nit-pick, and what happens is they’ll throw away a perfectly good idea over it, rather than learning something of value. Try to stay away from words like “always” and “never” and replace them with words like “Commonly” and “at times” and “very often”. This way people aren’t too busy resisting (when they could be learning).

2. Careful with writing anything about yourself that can be considered negative in any way. Like if you say, “It makes me so angry” or you say “I’m afraid of”, people will often jump in and offer advice, condescend, etc. People are basically insecure, and therefore energy vamps. If you mention anything negative about yourself (which can be a good thing, you’re HUMAN) make sure to place the problem in the past tense, otherwise people will go, “Now is my chance to show him up and steal his energy.” Most people can’t resist due to social status conditioning. Your audience is waiting to pounce on you. Don’t give them the opportunity because any loss of status whatsoever is a loss of income, and a loss of what you can give the world. Again, careful with writing anything negative about yourself, and when you do choose to show people your vulnerable side, which is highly recommended, place problems in the past tense. Since this is how I’ve learned to think in my own head anyway, this issue is never a problem anymore.

3. Students will, more often than not, place you on a pedestal. Quote “be your own guru” a lot, to protect yourself. And most students will go through a wierd phase of rejecting or even hating you, just like the adolescent goes through this phase as a natural part of growing up to be independant. The more they respect and even “worship”, the more they’ll attack and berate you with stupid rhetoric - it’s not personal, they’re just going through a wierd dis-connecting phase, learning to listen to their own heart rather than to the big important wise teacher. Literally every person who shits on you will come back and apologize, and they will mean it. I teach people to not give away their power, so what happens when they learn this is they start getting paranoid, even about you, the one who is teaching them. Just like the AFC who learns to be more C&F will tend to be an asshole at first. They will usually come back once the dis-connect phase is over, and they’ll be ready for the next levels. It’s like the old saying, “No good deed goes unpunished”.. You are giving people energy, and since they have an Ego that they’ve identified with, they will feel inferior. After feeling too inferior for too long, they get upset and wish to prove their superiority. Basic jealousy 101. This used to perplex the hell out of me, but now that I get it, it’s just cute and not at all offensive to me anymore.

4. People hate corporations. Be a pro, but never a corp. Reply to every sale with a small thank you note, to let people know you are there for them and not just “pumping products”. I used to say nothing when people bought from me, thinking in old Bell Canada training terms about image, but that training was soooo bullshit. I think the reason so many people flaked last January and asked for refunds is because I was sending out too many “big company” vibes (plus there is the whole ‘after christmas” credit card statements which freakpeople out). “Big Company vibes” can be very bad for buisness… People will take advantage if you do this, so let people know you’re a real person with blood in your veins, instead of “YOUR FRIEND, D.D.” which only serves to insult people’s intelligence. Send all mailout products an additional thank you note, signed in real pen ink. Let the customers know that their money isn’t shit to you.

5. Save every word you ever type to anyone about anything. Backup oexpress DAILY. Everything you say and do should make you money - all buisness is an energy exchange. Either directly or indirectly, but make sure that your time is compensated for. For example, I used to sit there and spend INSANE amounts of time answering every email, and never bothered to save anything I was writing. But this is just giving away my power, which never helps anyone in the long run. It’s fine to help people who can’t afford products, but make sure you are answering questions that might some day help you to build future products - SAVE THY WORK.

6. Don’t spend too much time doing phone consultations. Products are much better because people can study them over and over and get MUCH more value. Whenever I do consultations, I feel a certain sadness because I know the student only got one or two ideas that he’ll use - everything else went over his head, he wasn’t ready, etc. At least with products, they can go back to learn the next lessons. People learn VERY slowly because learning must coincide with experience. “Borrowed wisdom” doesn’t do much for people - the proof is that many who bought the GTP, for example, have emailed me with questions that were very clearly in the GTP, but they never heard it because they weren’t ready.

7. Don’t be overly concerned with student’s actual results. An extention of #6, and this is one I have had much trouble with. People are very, very slow learners. Thousands of years and we still wage war on 3rd world countries. We still have massive ignorance accross the globe. Getting frustrated with yourself, or with a student never helps him, but CHALLENGING him always does. My old tendency was to want to give people my entire life experience in one hour, and then feel like a failure whenever they would call me up the next week and ask a question that I already covered in great detail. Now when I work with someone, I have learned how to zero in on the ONE fundamental piece that they need, and to focus on that (rather than trying to cram everything in).

8. When talking to groups, make massive presuppositions and take huge leaps in logic when you speak, write, and post. Talk to people as if they’re already “in the know”, and it’s their job to stop you and ask for clarification. The newbies will have to just pay closer attention, that’s all. Keep your advanced readers happy, and let the rest catch up by prodding you with questions. Students learn best with presuppositions anyway. Whenever I read other seduction newsletters, I feel like they think I’m stupid, so when I write my ownstuff, I try to talk to people in a way that makes them feel good about themselves. Teachers and parents REALLY need to get this badly - they condescend students and children all the time, obviously lacking in compassion.

9. After writing an essay of any kind, quick Chakra cleanse, get some air, and then it’s editing time. Remove as many adjectives as you can, unless you’re making a point or joking in some way. Next, kill all generalizations as best as you can. When I am editing, I like to imagine that anannoying mismatcher is reading over my shoulder.. to a certain extent!

10. Write ONLY when you feel like writing. Don’t ever write because “you have to” to feed yourself. If the newsletter takes one more week, then that’s what it takes. ONLY sit down to write a newsletter when you’re feeling passionate about the topic of choice.

11. Set everything aside when divine inspiration (the urge to write) comes through you. Walk home from the venue, get out of bed at 5am, stop your GF from blowing you. NOTHING is more important than divine inspiration, nothing. Use those moments as soon as they come, because even if you try to write the same simple idea the next day, it could fall flat. People can literally feel your energy coming through in what you write, so make sure you write at the right times. Divine Inspiration is EVERYTHING in this biz.

12. When somebody sends you a question that stumps you, or overwhelms you, or makes you cry or something, SLEEP ON IT. Don’t give their email another thought. Just move on with your day, go to sleep, and the answer will ALWAYS present itself to you in the morning, or more often than not, you’ll wake up in the middle of the night and start typing a masterpiece. TRUST TRUST TRUST your Heart, it knows the answers to all of life’s questions.

13. Feel free to contradict yourself. You are not a static human, you are always changing, evolving, and contradicting yourself. I used to expend a lot of energy making sure to never contradict myself, until one day it dawned on me that this is IMPOSSIBLE. Also, I might say one thing, and then appear to contradict it, but in reality only the context has changed. So to simplify my life, I announce to the world that I am a Walking Contradiction

14. When you are working primarily for MONEY, you are working in darkness. Your “bottom line” shouldn’t be about money, it should be about impact, influence, making a difference, and adding value to people’s lives. If you focus on money before all else, this might make you ‘rich” but it’ll make you extremely poor on the inside, in your Heart. Focus on ‘the HEART line”, and the ‘bottom line” will ALWAYS take care of itself. “I trust the universe to supply my abundance and prosperity” requires a total letting go of any and all worries about money. And yes, I KNOW how hard this can be, but it is worth it. Otherwise you are just another Darkworker, not a Lightworker. The Mission Statement ALWAYS comes first, and when you live this way, the money is always there when you need it. Sometimes when I catch myself worrying about money, which is rare but it still happens, I breathe deeply, walk over to my mission statement, and read it.

15. Something jumped out at me this morning, while reading a “community” newsletter. Most people in this biz also violate the following “teaching law” quite often, and would do well to eradicate it, especially if hey want to influence people at a higher vibrational frequency. This is the law of “be your own guru”, and I have personally violated this one quite a bit in the past, and who knows, I might still slip up from time to time.

As we teach, it is wise to do our very best to speak in a way that is eye-to-eye with the students. This can prove difficult, and students will often put us on a pedestal, making it even MORE difficult.

A few no-no’s:

Using phrases like “you SHOULD”…

Even using YOU can suck pretty bad. These days I’ve been making a big effort to say WE instead.

For example, instead of saying, “You know sometimes when YOU feel x y z?”

DYD marketing uses this tactic A LOT, and while it can be good for marketing to large numbers of sheep, it is damn manipulative.

It is done to induce feelings hypnotically (in sheep), but for people in higher frequencies who actually value their own uniqueness, it is a HUGE turn-off. My solarplexus really feels icky when reading DYD/Carter marketing.

It is much more mature, respectful, and compassionate to say, “Sometimes when *I* feel x y z.”

Or even, “Sometimes when WE feel x y z”.

Now at this point, the teacher is no longer manipulating, condescending his students.

Let’s take a look at what this seduction community newsletter “violated” this morning:

“The above type of seduction was practiced a long
time ago and things are different now; so
stop living in the past. Seduction is no longer
relevant, in the way you’re used to thinking
about it.”

See how condescending that was? (No offence to the writer, who definitely means well, but just isn’t aware of what he is doing.)

‘So stop living in the past’ is a COMMAND, and this completely violates the “be your own guru” frame. It’s disrespectful to the reader, and presupposes that he or she is living in the past.

This was, at one time, a tough habit for me to break, but I feel much better since I have broken it. Of course, I don’t ALWAYS use the “be your own guru” teaching style - there are times when students need a goodkick in the pants, and there are also times when they won’t understand and actually need you to speak their language of degradation

Also, when teachers use the word “you” a lot, as in “you should not do this” etc. I think it’s a huge “freudian slip” on their part. It’s often a dead give-away that they are actually speaking to themselves, in their own minds. Like they are still trying to learn the lesson for themselves, hence the phrase “we all teach what we are most wanting to learn”. What I like to call “unsolicited advice”.

Blessings, light,

S.