(I would like to thanks DavidX, Rick H., Swingcat, MILTON ERICKSON, and “Tyler Durden” from RSD for their influence.)

“Approaching And Qualifying Women - My Personal Style”
How I Plow Through Aloofness To Get The Information I Need About Women

by Stephane Hemon

***QUESTION***

What I want Stephane is…..to be able to approach women, to be confident and take it from there, at least then I will be able to use the skills I have learned from you, I am 53 years old, have been marries, divorced, engaged to be married again…

B.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Ouuuu, GROSS! Marriage,yuck!

First I want to say that I honestly don’t give a fuck about attraction. Thinking on those terms - yes you can learn a lot, but on the other hand it is still supplication, and therefore POISENOUS to think on these terms. Whenever man thinks, “How can I be more attractive to women?” that very thought process is WRONG.

I believe that every single person on this planet would be attractive if she or she could realize the following:

Existence wants you here. Human beings are the ultimate flowring of life, the highest peaks available in Existence that we know of. The very fact that you are HERE, that Existence is breathing life into you is enough proof of your being fuckable.

It’s your attitude that matters - with the right attitude, every little distinction about “game” that is useful will flower inside of you, the natural charm is already encoded in our DNA.

Truthfully, the only HEALTHY way to plow through approach anxiety is to take on this idea that you are NOT trying to be charming, funny, cool, etc… let all of that go and take on the attitude of “the qualifier”.

When I talk to a girl, I’m ONLY doing it to get pertinent information about her. I bombard her with VERY direct questions, to see if she can handle an honest man.

(Many women cannot. LSE is actually THE NORM. I would say that less than ten percent of us have HSE, which is just one way of saying that their Chakras are reasonably open/balanced.)

I have no Ego-attachments, I do not seek to validate my self-worth and attractiveness based on random chicks opinions of me. When I approach a girl, the dialogue is something like the following:

Me: Hey, you, come here! (gesture for her to come TO ME. I’m the Oak Tree, remember? Oak Trees do NOT chase after women - we only spend time with submissive, feminine, giggly women who come running over to us.)

Outcome One:

Girl: (giggling, blushing, walks over to me) “Um, yes?”

Me: (I like her already) “Who are you?” (Smiling, spark in my eye)

Girl: (surprised, but liking it, feels my Oak Tree energy immensely because I haven’t moved my feet and because my voice is authoritative) “Um, what do you mean? My name is Michelle Barbie!”

Me: “Michelle, are you single?”

Before she can answer, I then ask, “Are you adventurous? Can you cook? You’re not married, are you?”
The reason I plow her with 3-4 quesions is two-fold:

1. Women are very aloof, this is the primary way they get power and attention from men. So, to plow right through this shit, I ask her a question, and just when her lips go to move, I interrupt and ask another… then another…

Get it? I am frustrating her speech. She will naturally have all of these answers piling up in her pretty little head, and this overwhelms her to the point of really, REALLY wanting to speak.

(^^Evil trick I learned from Milton Erickson.)

2. I love doing this not only because it cuts through her social conditioning to be aloof, but because once she finally gets to speak to me, she will be filled with energy, giggling, laughing, blushing, and very fucking eager to talk, to FINALLY talk! BAM! Her attraction MUST be there at this point because I have pushed so many of her buttons. Plowing through a girl’s aloofness is like crossing some sort of social/sexual finish line.

3. Once she lets it rip and starts talking a mile a minute, she must then backwards rationalize to herself that she likes me, a lot.

It looks like this:

“Hey you, come here!”

(She hobbles over, giggling already.)

“Who are you?? Oh yeah cool, my name is Stephane, listen - are you single? Are you adventurous? Can you cook?”

“Hahahaha, what are you doing to me??” (Or whatever; responses vary a lot)

“Nothing. I’m just curious.”

^^It’s hard for me to give you guys more than this, because every interaction is different. With some girls, if they are too snooty with me, I might even say, “NOPE” and just walk off.

With others, if they are too shy and freeze up (this happens a LOT because of my style) I know they are not strong enough to be in my life. Ghita and I would just overwhelm her.

I also say shit like, “Do you only like guys, or do you sometimes enjoy women too?”

Some will answer, “I love women! Especially hot blondes and tight skirts and…”

(I swear to God this actually happens quite frequently, especially these days most young hotties are bisexual. NOBODY is taking advantage of this! Are you guys all BLIND?? Or just stupid?”)

Some will say, “Ugh! WFT is that supposed to mean?!”

^^This means she thinks I’m inslting her and calling her a lesbian, or dyke, and that I’m telling her she’s too masculine. A very common fear. So I’ll take a step back (punish) and say, “You’re very feminine and strong, there is a spark in your eye that suggests to me that you’re a very self-aware and cool person. Women who give off your kind of vibe prefer to be with men, but sometimes they enjoy being with girls too. I only date bisexual women.”

THEN they go, “OH! Yeah! Cool!”

Please note that my routines are like a big mix of stuff I got from the community, and kind of put everything together to suit my own needs. I am somewhat intimidating to most girls, but I am this way on purpose because I need to know right away that they can handle me (or not).

The training that lies ahead is going to be very intense, so I *need* strong bisexual women, I need truth-seekers… or nothing at all.

Also note that my stuff is NOT designed to be attractive, although when you can deliver this kind of hardcore shit with a straight face, quite a few girls will get sucked in by it.

Also note that I only get REALLY good reactions with this stuff about 10 or 20% of the time, TOPS. With the rest of the girls, I freak them out and they freeze, or get mad, and tend to self-implode on the spot.

OH WELL.

I have an appointment at 3pm, I have to run. But I hope this gives you a nice “skeleton” or “structure”. Remember, the idea is NEVER to “make her like me”, the intention is to see IF I LIKE *HER*. Usually, I do not.

But then, I get to have girls like GHITA… I only get very young, cute girls with an attitude problem…

*perfect*

“Let the spankings begin.”

Blessings and spanks,
Stephane

PS - It takes a while before you can let go of the old conditioning to chase women and try to impress them. Only 1-5% are actually going to get this. I have a feeling this has to do with levels of consciousness, like how some girls absoutely cannot do the 5D Compassion formula from the GTP manual because their consciousness isn’t yet high enough to grasp those higher truths. I realize how snobby this will sound to some.