*Question:

Hey Steph,

I’ve been thinking a lot about marriage lately and wanted to get your thoughts.

I see marriages failing all around me, and while I could be totally in
love with a woman for a period of time, I can’t imagine being sure
that would last forever no matter who she is.

How can someone realistically say that they are 100% sure they will be
in love in 5 years, or 10 years, or even tomorrow? I think they’re
deluding themselves.

Moreover, even if you are in love with one woman, this does not
prevent you from falling in love with other women and wanting to sleep
with them.

So I’ve been looking at alternatives:

You: find a primary girlfriend who is bi-sexual and pickup girls together

Savoy from MM: i believe he has monogamous 3 and 4 way relationships
similar to what you do

Gene Simmons from KISS: I read his book, and while he has been with
Shannon Tweed (former playmate) for years and she had his children, he
refused to ever marry her and got a pre-nump, and probably sleeps with
other women

Hefner: has three girlfriends and they all live together

So a few questions:

1. Would you ever marry Ghita in the legal sense?

2. How can you responsibly raise children in this environment?

3. Does your woman have to be bi-sexual or could this work with a
“straight” woman who you somehow bring into this environment?

I think more men need to be aware of this option so they stop settling
and being miserable.

Thanks for your advice!
B.

>>My Comments:

Most marriage ceremonies and traditions really need to be updated… They are materialistic; there is an ownership aspect and it needs to be dropped. They talk about physical death… “Until death do us part”. But what about when the paths of two people uncross?

When a relationship has died on an emotional & spiritual level, the physical relationship no longer matters - the relationship itself is dead. That old clause, “Until death do us part” does not take into account anything other than the physical. All over the world we have insecure people trying to OWN each other, but the reality is that there are no guarantees in life.

Ghita and I simply ACT as though we’ll probably be together for the rest of our lives, but we don’t try to kid ourselves that this must happen, otherwise the invisible man in the sky is going to punish us. We are CHOOSING to be together TODAY, and every day we wake up and decide all over again. We allow ourselves the freedom of choice.

Marriage doesn’t take into account things like… Honor.

So am I anti-marriage?

Hell no - have a celebration, a ceremony, some wine, invite your friends… Just keep the men with dresses out of the equation. They are pretending that they know more about God than you do - it’s arrogant. And, they want to tell you what you can and can’t do with your own bodies… more arrogance.

Marriage was invented in a time when humans only lived to be 30 years old. It was appropriate back then, considering our lifespans and overall consciousness was so low. It WAS a good idea at the time.

The Human Heart doesn’t care about contracts with God or Government or Church. Only the human Ego cares about these things - it wants to own and control and possess and turn human beings into objects, sexual commodities. God is fictitious, it’s an idea that we humans have used as a security blanket, and it’s time for the thumb sucking and little blankets to go now. We can grow up and stop being afraid of something that we can’t know exists, except in our imagination. And the Governments… we can let those go now as well. Voting will come to an end, and they will eventually remove their hands from our bodies and pocketbooks. And the priests can now put on some pants again and start acting like men, instead of little boys being afraid of imaginary friends all the time.

There is nothing to be scared of anymore

Marriage is Ego’s attempt to control, to grasp, to possess, to own. The Church has taken something very beautiful and sacred, and turned it into a farming factory for sheep. Marriage is their little way of keeping the masses under control. Just just don’t know any better, it’s pure Ego.

So yeah.. marriage is a joke, and the joke is on us - You can’t own a lease of somebody’s body, mind, and soul. You can lease a car, but you can’t lease your woman’s vagina. It’s time for humanity to grow up.

The only day you ever have is today.

Want security?

Get It From The Inside.

Let go… be in the Now Moment - Now is all you ever have. The only security humans have is in death - life itself is an ever-changing set of potentials. We don’t get our security from thing that are out of our control, we get our security from the INSIDE. “God” is accessed from within.

What about the children?

Well, when two mature, responsible adults decide to raise a child, they actually don’t need a contract. They are self-motivated. Nature knows best, and all people who are aligned with nature need not worry about anything! They will raise fine children together, or apart - it doesn’t matter - responsible, loving parents who have high self-esteem will figure it out. We can drop the rigid rules and make new ones now.

I get a lot of questions regarding this… since I’m into bisexual women and Interdependent Circles, people always want to know who will be the mother and what all the rules are. But there are no rules, we simply make up our own reality as we go. If girl #3 wants to have the first kid, we all talk about it and make win/win decisions together. Once insecurity and jealousy is gone, these decisions practically make themselves.

As for your last question, “Does your woman have to be bi-sexual or could this work with a “straight” woman who you somehow bring into this environment?”

My answer is that there are no straight women, all women are bisexual in their core, but since there are loads of issues and insecurities and jealousies and possessiveness and Ego, most women never get to just relax around other women and simply enjoy the yin energy.

Once we clear out the insecurities and the shame and the guilt and the sexual frustration and the rest of it, underneath all the crap is a beautiful, bisexual angel who still PREFERS to be with a man (because of her biology) but she can also enjoy being intimate with women, very much in the same way that you see young girls cuddling and going to the bathroom together and playing with each other’s hair and squaking all day about who-knows-what. It’s perfectly natural for women to be this way with each other, but they MUST first transcend the lower level consciousness that is filled with jealousy and sexual repression and other fears BEFORE they can let go and relax around other women. This requires an open Heart Chakra.

“Straight” women do not exist. I have found many who make the claim, but they ALL end up showing their true colors down the road as they let go of social masks, sexual repression, insecurity, fear of disapproval, ego, etc. It’s very natural and beautiful for women to be with other women - licking pussy is optional, but highly recommended.

Thanks for your question

Stephane