 Stephane |
ideaGasms Price SlashPublished by Stephane on Sunday, January 10, 2010 |
I am overjoyed to finally be in a position to give what I am about to offer
here, which is to slash most of my prices way down. I’m now in a
financial position to be able to practically give most of my advanced
programs away.
I realize this may upset some clients who paid full price. Please don’t
hate me, and know that your contributions are what have enabled me to have
the time to focus so hard on Enlightenment (Over 10, 000 hours of deep
meditation this 1+ year alone) so that I can test out all of the Teachings
of Enlightenment and develop the kind of programs which ideaGasms offers
today. To be able to apply the Wisdom of Enlightened Masters onto the
world of Pickup, Dating, S E X, and Relationships took an extreme level of
focused concentration, and intense dedication. I could not have done
anything like this without your contributions, of that I am acutely aware.
Furthermore, ideaGasms has been under attack (malicious slander, libel) and
my wife and I even had to live in hiding for a while. The wolves of the
world do not appreciate what we’re doing here, and neither does the
majority of the so-called ‘dating community’. Thus, your contributions,
especially in the last year or so, have helped more than you might have
realized. Every dollar helped sustain my wife and I, so that we could
leave the world behind and pursue Enlightenment 24-7, as well as record
and write all about our findings, and the application of this information
to relationships has enriched the lives of a great many people. This
company, ideaGasms, is not really “mine” at all. It is a group effort, a
collective ‘Satsang’ in service to the relief of suffering in Pickup,
Dating, S E X, and Relationships. Every reader who opens a basic
newsletter and reads it has helped us all in unseen ways. To hold even one
kind or loving thought in mind cancels out something like several thousand
negative thoughts in the collective consciousness of mankind.
This has frankly been the most difficult year of my life, but 2009 is now
behind is, thank God; Amen.
As of yesterday, I’m now in the position of being able to not worry about
money, therefore, the price tags are going way, way, way down. Just enough
to cover server fees and things like that. Many are under the false
impression that I must be “rich”, however, I don’t even own a house or
car… so much for that rumor 
I’m particularly happy for those students who are still in school, or who
live in second or even third world countries.
Wow. What a feeling.
The volume series, Cracking The Male-Female Code, the prices are now
something like 75% less than they were, you can click here to browse the
various volumes in this series:
http://www.ideagasms.net/cracking-the-code/
I do need to keep PowerLetters and Womanize as they are (these come with
forum access which takes a lot of time and energy to run, and I am always
on top of things answering just about every possible question that is
posted there).
I was, however, also able to reduce the price of our meditation, The Silent
Witness, by about 50%:
http://www.ideagasms.net/into-the-field-of-consciousness/
It’s a great feeling to not have to think and worry about money all the
time. While I didn’t win the lotto or anything like that, I’m just in a
better position than ever before, and that’s all that needs to be known
Thanks for a great five years everyone.
Many Blessings,
Stephane Hemon
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WomanizePublished by Stephane on Thursday, October 15, 2009 |
How To Womanize
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Date: October 2009
Dear Reader,
Today we shall focus on letting the greedy inner ‘pickup artist’ take a well-deserved, long, long sleep… forever. It is the inner ‘rock star’, the smooth-talking inner ‘PUA’, the socially clever ninja who is able to accomplish any magical pickup of the hottest “tens”… in fact, he doesn’t even bother with “tens” anymore; he only does 12’s and up!
He represents, of course, not the real ‘you’, but the ‘you’ that hypothetically could, would, and should have been. He is the guy you were supposed to become when you discovered the Internet and learned that there were lines and tactics and strategies that could be used to make women think you’re just wonderful. Marvelous, really. God’s Gift to women.
The ego, despite all of its claims of humility, thinks that you, Dear Reader, are just wonderful. Absolutely incredible. Even the man who claims to hate, loathe, and despise himself is actually secretly ‘in love’ with himself.
That is, there is a tiny invisible layer of consciousness which envelops the body-mind… it is right between the ego and the Silent Witness. It represents narcissism, and it is a quality of consciousness you could call “self-love.” It is so enamored and ‘in love’ with the body-mind that it has invented all kinds of wonderful archetypes, identities, self-images, and personality aspects.
One such aspect of the male ego is the inner ‘god of women’. Even if women don’t really respond all that well to him in the real world, that’s quite alright… he loves to imagine that they do. He loves to fantasize and romanticize, and he dreams big.
“Let Your Pride Die For Women”
It is time to let him rest. He is, after all, a very hardworking imaginary friend and he got you this far. He is the one who helped you practice seducing women in your mind (and furiously masturbating to them and enjoying them as fully as possible and in every direction). Although the average male sleeps with about seven women, in his mind, he f-cks the whole world. And, he does them sooo well that they never had a better lover; he leaves women stunned and shocked, forever catching their breaths… he silences their mind’s with his mighty cock and heart of gold. No man will ever hope to compete with the inner PUA, that is a fact!
The reason he has to go to sleep for a long time (i.e., for eternity) is simple. It is because he is the one responsible for all of that performance anxiety. Performance in bed, performance in pickup, performance during dates, and performance in love relationships… he is definitely a performer, and where we’re going, Dear Reader, there will be no more need to “perform.”
FREEDOM
In the Land of the Truly Free, performance is a childish notion that actually repels women, rather than attracting them. Where we’re headed, less is more. Nothing is needed… Not even a winning personality. Not even high caliber social skills. Not even a massive tree trunk of a hard-on.
Pickup, dating, kissing, sex, relationships… it’s all the same.
The inner PUA who fancies himself “king of the jungle” tends to view everything as a performance, rather than as a Beingness. A performance involves you, of course, doing all the work, cracking all of the jokes, telling all of the “cool stories that’ll keep her interested”, making all of the right moves, and doing all of the sex. What the performance paradigm is lacking is that it blocks one’s simple Beingness, which is actually the most important and attractive aspect a man can have.
The performance paradigm is so narcissistically self-involved that it often actually forgets the woman.
It is so concerned about the Me and the My Performance (or lack thereof) that it ends up generating a million thoughts in the space of only one single moment, and when there are too many thoughts going on, they tend to bottleneck. It is like a traffic jam occurs within the mind, and the body simply doesn’t know what to do. So, it freezes. It jams up with emotion, stress, excitement, hesitation, desire, and restlessness.
The mouth either stops talking, or it talks way too much and says stupid and unnecessary things. The body becomes tense and rigid; it either puffs up with pride when the woman responds well, or shrinks down in shame when she loses attraction… and there is so much blood in the brain due to all those thoughts… that there isn’t enough blood left over for running the penis.
It is time to let the inner PUA dreams of socially-clever perfection go to sleep, forever. The dreams all served you up to this point, but like I said, where we’re going today, no dreams and no performances of any kind are required. Women can be picked up in a state of Silence. Surprised? Well, in the Land of the Truly Free, only Beingness exists. Perfect, harmonious, joyful, innocent, blissful Beingness… in the Land of the Truly Free, attraction and love happen spontaneously of their own when conditions are favorable.
I’d like to take you on a 30-day journey into the unknown. After many, MANY years of seeking… and searching… and dating… and picking women up… and relationships… I’ve not only found the Keys to the Kingdom, but I’ve discovered how to actually TEACH MEN how to find their own Keys in a very short period of time.
The only requirement is humility.
What I’m talking about has nothing to do with fancy tricks, nor is it particularly difficult to learn because there is only un-learning. Anyone ranging from the 27-year-old virgin, to the world’s genius-level pickup artists… to the relationship guy… to the spiritual guy who loves women but can’t quite figure ‘em out… literally ALL MEN shall be stunned by what I’ve gradually discovered and laid out in this program.
Over the next 30-days, every day will feel like Christmas morning as you discover brand-new and exciting inner and outer game “Womanizing” tools which are so counter-intuitive that NOBODY in the “seduction and dating community” has figured them out yet, nor are they likely to any time soon. This is because what is shared in this new program is of a different paradigm altogether.
Success is Dangerous
Success is “dangerous” in that it often leads to the presumption of “I know the truth about women because I’ve slept with so many of them.” Thus, men often stop seeking, stop searching, and stop evolving because they are successful.
Whether you’re a long time student of mine, a complete newbie, or just a guy who reads the free newsletters but hasn’t decided to buy anything, this program is for you. If you want to learn the art of Womanizing to a stunningly successful and fulfilling degree — so much that it makes you cry tears of joy — this is it.
If you’re low on cash or can’t afford this program, just sell your car. Re-mortgage your home. Borrow the money. Do whatever it takes. Pray to the good Lord and your dreams of effortless Womanizing will come true.
* I don’t usually like to offer “money back guarantees” because I like having clients who know what they want. I have mixed feelings about “marketing” and overly “promoting” things. I’m not “Mr. Marketing Guy”, I’m the man who has been here — available and real, open and vulnerable, hated, slandered, and absolutely adored — for many years… and working damn hard around-the-clock to crack the male/female code in such a way that makes it easy for guys to “get it” and start to live it.
Over the years I’ve written newsletters… hundreds of solid newsletters… I don’t tease you, I don’t promise things in an exaggerated fashion, and I don’t make you think my newsletter is going to contain something, only to have you realize it is just another typical sales pitch with nothing but sales-fluff… No, no, no, I have fed you with some pretty tasty treats over the years, but still, I’ve given you NOTHING like what is in this 30-day home study program.
Over the years I have brought you squirting orgasm girlfriends and shown you some rather intimate and vulnerable stuff, to say the least. I’ve introduced you to my girlfriends, my ‘circle girls’, and even my wife… I’ve been on the forums with you guys and I’ve shown you that I care deeply about ideaGasms’ students and their results in the real world. Through thick and thin, with the Lord’s help, I’ve stood the test of time and weathered some pretty crazy storms over the years. I’m asking you for just a little trust here…
If you want to get this product or not, that is your decision and I respect you. It’s just that… I know what I’ve just created here, God help me, thank you, Oh Lord, and it is SOLID GOLD. I don’t mean to be pushy… I feel like I just won the “female lotto” and all I want to do is share it and party with everyone forever.
A Brand-New Paradigm for Pickup and Dating
Today’s Internet pickup and dating materials do contain wisdom and practical advice, but what I am offering you here is of a totally different paradigm. In a sense, it is nearly the complete opposite of what the whole world teaches about succeeding with women. I’m not “against” that other stuff, but in Reality, there is a much Higher Way.
Although many of the Internet pickup gurus are indeed social engineering geniuses, a whole new world has just opened up for ALL of us to enjoy.
Moreover, I’ve found ways of explaining all of this to make it easy to follow and absorb for anyone who understands basic logic and reason.
So, while I don’t like offering “money back guarantees”, just this once, I’m going to make an exception. Try this for thirty days. If this will help you to trust me enough to give me the honor of sharing this with you, then I’ll do it. Not only will I refund you if you don’t like this 30-day program, but I’ll even do it with a smile on my face, even if I don’t understand your reasoning. I will forgive and forget. Just follow along for 30 days and see for yourself.
What Could Possibly Be More Fulfilling In Life Than Womanizing??
To me, nothing is more important than learning how to Womanize to a severe degree. Everything else in life is a distant second. Personally, I can be happy without fame, success, money, cars… I could even be happy working at McDonald’s… as long as I am satisfied with my level of “Womanize” where every-other-girl that I talk to shines Attraction-Joy through her eyes when I speak with her, I feel happy and fulfilled. Therefore, I have spent this entire lifetime focused on this one topic.
The average man never gets to feel satisfied on this level.
Moreover, men usually think they need to develop “ninja level” social skills to pull it off. But in Truth, the less you speak, say, and do, the greater your success will be.
Womanizing means a lot to me and hope my enthusiasm has come through. This is your life we are talking about so I don’t want to leave anything out. This is perhaps the most important skill a man could ever develop, and it is a great honor and privilege to be able to share the kind of information that makes your lifestyle with women so easy and effortless that you stand in a state of awe… and wonder how the whole world has missed the mark and not already discovered how stupidly easy it is to live the dream.
Forum Access
This particular program will grant you access to the ideaGasms Forum, but it is a strict forum in the sense that we absolutely require kindness at all times, no condescending exceptions. We fancy our forums as one of the Internet’s “higher vibing” forums, in that everyone contributes a little something and “plays well with others.” We keep a good vibe on there so that everyone can feel safe enough to just be what they are (at any level of consciousness) and post what is truly going on inside them; this way, students are unafraid to open up and gain true, sincere, life-long friends in the process. The forum is also a nice resource for deeper clarifications and understanding.
Caveat
Just one caveat. This program is intensive and could be emotionally disturbing. (Especially the first 15 days are intensely focused on ‘inner game’ before getting into the advanced ‘outer game’ materials.) This information is confrontive to the ego and especially to Pride. Many people take themselves too seriously and don’t like to have their belief systems questioned or challenged. (Secretly, most men believe their way with women is the “right” way, even when they are utterly unsuccessful.) This program is not for the faint of heart, the spiritually timid, or the easily offended.
Opinions and belief systems are essentially worthless. On one’s death bed, what good are opinions? To effectively Womanize, there must be a sincere willingness to let one’s pride essentially ‘die’ to a significant degree. Opinions and fear become replaced by a silent Knowingness and effortless competence with women and even with life itself.
Therefore, take a moment to visualize women responding to you in ways that are downright incredible, and ask yourself if this is what you truly want. Do you WANT to live the dream? Most men secretly love pain & failure with women. You should really want Love in your life and already have a “fire in the belly” before we get started.
The decision to Womanize has to come with the declaration, “No matter what.” Again, this is your life we are talking about, and I don’t want us to waste each others time. The daily lessons (and over 5 hours of video) I will be sharing with you over the next thirty days are not a joke. It is the fruit of a lifetime of incredibly agonizing research, “blood, sweat, and tears”, and the un-learning of that which stands in the way of absolutely effortless (as unbelievable as it sounds) Pickup, Dating, Escalation/Sex, Relationships, Marriage, and thus true Womanizing.
OK, thanks for reading, and God bless you.
Many Blessings,
Stephane Hemon
ideaGasms inc.
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Simple StepsPublished by Stephane on Tuesday, September 15, 2009 |
***READER QUESTION***
Dear Stephane,
What, in your opinion, are the fundamentals for living a
truly wondrous life? Looking back on your life, what has
helped you through the more difficult times? What is the
difference between those who lead a great life versus those
who do not?
>>>COMMENTS:
Perhaps the very first key to a wondrous life is to admit
that the Source of your Life comes from Divinity and not the
ego/mind, nor does the Source of Life come from an
intellectualized ‘big bang’ theory/opinion or some kind of
random, accidental event. The Source of your Life comes from
Divinity; you are a child of God and therefore truly Divine;
Life comes from Life.
This is the very first key to a Happy, Joyful Life for it leads to
fundamental Integrity, as well as a sense of inner security
and accountability.
Perhaps the second key to living an incredibly rich and
fruitful life is to admit that there are indeed people on
this planet whom are more evolved than you are. In some
cases, there have been human beings who have reached such an
incredibly high state of evolution within themselves that it
is literally not even possible to imagine, via the human
intellect, just how evolved they truly are. In some cases,
even the term Lord is appropriate, such as in the cases of
Buddha, Krishna, and of course, Jesus Christ.
These are what I feel, at this juncture in my life, are the
two most important keys to life. One, to simply admit that,
“I have no idea where I came from, I have no memory of my
beginning, nor do I have any idea where I’m going.
Therefore, I did not create myself, clearly, but I have been
Created. Life comes from Life.” And two, simply admit
that there are those more evolved than yourself and seek
them out; relinquish your opinions, and listen to what
they have to say. Although people do love to read, rare are
those who truly listen.
Now, the problem with the “God-word” is that it has been
utterly distorted, so much so, that the depictions of God in
the Old Testament are actually somewhat demonic. God
supposedly suffers from psychological disorders (including
jealousy, hatred, and revenge). Although, over 2000 years
ago, Jesus Christ said that God is Love, humans still cling
to their Old Testament. That we are “slow in the head”
doesn’t even begin to describe just how ignorant we truly
are.
The simple act of admitting, “I, of myself, am ignorant”
does not lead to humiliation but to Humility. The human mind
is ill-equipped to discern ‘truth’ from ‘non-truth’ and
even, in many cases, it cannot even discern the very basics
such as being able to tell the ‘good’ from the ‘extremely
rotten’. Thus, in the willingness to admit, “I, of myself,
don’t know much about anything”, it takes one through the
door to Integrity and this is when the true search begins.
Human life is excruciatingly difficult and horribly painful.
That humans even manage to live through the first 20 years
of life without jumping off a bridge or at least getting
hooked on drugs to commit ‘passive suicide’ is enormously
impressive.
After many years of intense devotion to ‘truth-seeking’
(often to the point of tears and frustration and personal
anguish and despair that have reached levels of unnameable
intensities) looking back at all I have lived through, as
well as observing the hardships of other humans whose lives
have possibly been over 100,000 times more difficult than my
own life… that human beings are actually capable of living
through even one single human lifetime impresses me, shocks
me, and places me in a state of Awe that is resulting in
tears as I write these words.
Human life is horrendously difficult, and the simple fact
that people are actually attempting to live out their lives
totally alone and without the awareness of the Presence of
God in their lives… To not know the basic truth that
Divinity is the Source of your own Existence… to not even
have this very basic truth to be able to count on… and to
continue ‘plowing forth’ day after day in a world filled with
dangers, traps, chaos, war, lies, criminality, poverty,
disease, torture, and… the amount of suffering in this
world is so astronomical that as I wrote these last few
words I needed to step outside, wipe off my tears and smoke
a cigarette!!
That people actually try to live out their lives alone and
without prayer, contemplation, meditation, and the constant
re-reading of spiritual texts to remind them each and every
single day of their lives that they come from Divinity…
one can’t help but feel enormeous compassion for people.
Although religionism is a good start, unless it matures into
spirituality, a truly blissful and happy life is not likely.
It is one thing to hold a belief/opinion of God in mind, but
it is quite another to acknowledge that God is the Source of
your Life and is therefore Within you. Jesus Christ said,
“The Kingdom of Heaven is within you”; He did not say that
Heaven is ‘out there’ somewhere up in the clouds or in
some other time or place. So this is probably the main key
difference between religionism and true spirituality, as far
as I know. Religion tends to see God as an ‘out there’
human-like parent, while Spirituality recognizes God is
‘in here’ as consciousness itself. Spirituality sees Life,
Love, Consciousness, Awareness, and God as all one and
the same thing.
Perhaps every man would be very fortunate to ask himself:
“While lying on my (rapidly approaching) death bed, of what
good will be my opinions?” When seen for what they are,
opinions are inherently worthless. Therefore, to simply
acknowledge that there are some Beings on this planet who
have evolved themselves to such a degree that it is not even
possible for us to comprehend them intellectually… is a
very good place to start. To hear that there is such a thing
as Truth is already a great Blessing, for many have not even
heard of such a thing.
To find an appropriate teacher is likely the greatest
Blessing of all, because a teacher has traversed through the
many pathways and pitfalls and can tell you where the
landmines are. In my lifetime, the greatest Blessing of all
came on the day when I discovered my teacher, and since
then, I have married a good woman and together we have
practiced surrendering to our teacher’s wisdom (by letting
go of our own opinions) a little more each day, as best we
can. The rewards have been multitudinous and in some cases
what the world calls ‘miraculous’.
There are many great teachers available, and some of them
are appropriate at certain times in your life, yet won’t
likely be very appropriate later on. Every human being is a
teacher to the lesser-evolved humans, and a student to the
humans which are more highly-evolved.
There is an old adage: “Teach only Love.”
Therefore, once you’ve even heard that there is such a
thing as Love, if you can find someone who is even slightly
more advanced than you are and they teach Love, do not throw
away the opportunity or waste any time. To have even heard
of Love is already a profound Gift from God that, when seen
for what it is, is your Divine ‘inner calling’.
Love is the Source of your Life; the greater your degree of
awareness and understanding of this simple spiritual fact,
the greater your life will become.
A great place to start discovering Higher Awareness right
here and right now (and actually quite rapidly), is to make
the decision to stop with the inner talking, commenting,
editorializing, and useless babbling within your mind.
Although this may be difficult in the beginning due to the
addiction of inner rambling and the pleasure derived from it,
it very rapidly leads one to the discovery of the Presence
of God within. Bliss-Ecstasy-Joy states will be almost
continuous, as all doubt progressively dissolves in due
time. Just be quiet and the rest will come to you.
Many Blessings,
Stephane Hemon
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Judgmentalism Versus DiscernmentPublished by Stephane on Sunday, September 13, 2009 |
***POPULAR QUESTION***
I have Cracking The Male/Female Code Volume One and am
starting to get good at seeing the ego-based patterns in
people; detecting ‘energy vampires’ and people who are not
trustworthy, not fundamentally honest and integrous.
This makes me worry that I am becoming judgmental.
>>>COMMENTS:
Discernment and judging are decidedly not the same thing. To
know that a certain chemical is poisonous does not mean one
has to attack or vilify it, but simply avoid it via the
wisdom of caution. Similarly, a lion will gladly kill and
eat you; this does not mean one needs to judge and condemn
all lions as “evil.” A lion is simply being what it is.
Discernment is clinically-detached and has compassion.
(Compassion is the refusal to suffer based on incorrect
notions, limiting beliefs, fallacious ideologies, and
dualistic perception.)
Discernment does not condemn others, people, places, things,
etc. — it simply avoids them out of humility and the
respect for one’s life.
If there is a crack in the sidewalk or a hole in the ground,
discernment simply walks around the hole, while judgment
yells at the hole and tries to get it to become a ‘non-hole’.
Discernment accepts others as they are, while judgment
rejects, resists, condemns, hates, and seeks revenge.
(Judgment wants to “win”, be “right”, and gain “good
feelings” in the process.)
Discernment simply Witnesses and Observes quietly, standing
back to silently appreciate the beauty; it refrains from
getting over-involved in things or with people on a ’solar
plexus’ or emotionalized level.
Discernment is inclusive of the Totality of All That Is,
while judgment tries to exclude.
Discernment accepts that the infinite field of
consciousness/awareness loves everyone equally, for
consciousness and love are one and the same thing; judgment
holds onto and clings to the kindergarten notion that
unconditional love is “not fair.”
Discernment can observe the ego’s in others and be thankful
that one is being shown the true nature of one’s own ego.
Judgment represses one’s own ego, pretends that it isn’t
the same as the ego of others, goes into denial about it,
and then projects itself out onto others.
Judgment arises out of the guilt and shame of having
an ego.
It believes the ego/mind/personality/intellect and
associated animal-instinctual drives are ‘the me’ and
therefore personal. It then condemns itself and others,
using labels such as “sin”, “evil”, “wrong”, or “immoral.”
Discernment simply Witnesses the collective animal ego from
Compassionate understanding, rather than condemnation or
guilt. As guilt dissolves, there is no more need to project
one’s “dark side” out onto the world or to try to change
the world “out there” because, when seen for what the
ego/mind really is, the world itself is really “in here”
(i.e., perception).
“There is no need to change the world, for the world you
see does not even exist.”
–Ramana Maharshi
“Judgment is Mine, sayeth the Lord.”
–Scripture
“To choose chocolate does not mean one must then hate and
attack vanilla.”
–David R. Hawkins
“It isn’t fair that God loves everybody equally!”
–The Human Ego/Mind
Discernment is one thing; judgment is quite another. The way
to get off judgmentalism is to simply accept that your own
ego/mind is inherently ‘animalistic’ and therefore greedy,
lustful, paranoid, prideful, and ignorant. By accepting the
downside of the ego and refusing to identify with it as
‘the me’, it then becomes like a cute (and highly
entertaining) pet.
Many Blessings,
Stephane Hemon
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Past Life KarmaPublished by Stephane on Sunday, September 13, 2009 |
“recognized” the other, and based how our relationship
developed from there on, I am pretty sure we have some past
life connection.
Now I have heard that in these cases when people meet and
feel like they belong together, it may be because they have
some past life bad karma between them, that family members
or intense relationships usually hold some issues to be
straightened out, or it might just be the case of “soul
mates” who live toghether from life to life.
I have an issue with jealousy. Her past relationship which
bothers me to no end. Let it be said that she is the most
integrous woman I have met, honest and truthful, so I
believe that there seems to be no reason for my “intuitive
jealousy” (she is not connected to this guy any more in any
way), but this relationship still bothers me. For no
apparent reason.
When she told me about it, I felt betrayed and felt like I
had been harmed in this, even though both of these people
were in no way connected to me at the time, totally unknown
to me, and I have no reason to feel like this.. I got the
feeling that the guy might have done something bad me in my
previous lives (got me killed or jailed or something, so he
could live together with my girl — that is the feeling I
got from that. And I must say that my intuition works quite
well. I have found out before that if something bothers me
for no apparent reason that usually there is some reason
behind that.
Then I had this dream where her previous boyfriend opened a
door and stood in the doorway of and old log farmhouse and
there he said with a ironical smirk and tone something like
– “At the present you don’t much appreciate the help of the
swedes but in 1642; or 48 or 24 (I don’t remember the exact
dates) you had no qualms about it.” I looked it up and in
that period in Estonia began “the Swedish period” – the
swedes invaded. So in my dream, the guy named the date of
which I had on idea.
Combining this all, how we met, my intuitions, dreams and
feelings about it, I am quite sure there is definitely some
heavy karmic issue happening here with me and my girl and
possibly this other guy.
Rationally, looking at it, I am acting like a total psycho
about it, as there is no logical or apparent reason for my
jealousy, but even before I knew this other guys connection
with her, I didn’t like the guy; I remember, the first time
I heard of his existence, not knowing anything about his
past, I shook my fist and said I hated these sorts of guys.
Now I am trying to find out about previous lives and that is
why I am posting this question about good and bad past
lifetime karma, maybe you have some clues to offer me?
>>>COMMENTS:
The mind loves to infer meaning and significance where there
is none to be found. In fact, nothing means anything.
I will repeat:
Nothing means anything.
This discovery results in a huge sigh of relief.
All inference of meaning is a projection from the ego/mind.
It is a fantasy, an illusion, a fallacy.
Your jealousy simply means that you’re in a state of
jealousy. Nothing more. To add more meaning to this is to
take yourself far away from Reality and into suffering,
confusion, and deeper into the house of mirrors of the
mind.
A thing is its own meaning and significance. To be a dog
means “to be a dog.” To be fearful means that you’re fearful.
The meaning of a chair is the chair itself — nothing more.
Anything more than this creates illusion, and illusion leads
to confusion & needless suffering.
PAST LIFE KARMA
While research into past lives can be informative and
entertaining, it is often a narcissistic self-indulgence. It
becomes all about ‘me’ and ‘my’ past lives, which then
become glamorized, special, and important.
The whole thing can be seen as a distraction from The
Eternal Now.
If you want to know about your past lives, just watch the
History Channel. Witness and Observe the collective ego of
mankind doing what it does; your ego is the same ego. This
is pretty much all that’s needed to know about “past
lives.” Or, watch the Daily News. It is your own ego that
is “out there”, doing what the ego does.
What does it all mean?
Nothing
It’s just a bunch of ego’s doing what ego’s are supposed
to be doing — maiming, killing, slaughtering, dramatizing,
controlling, and f*cking with one another. The ego-animal
brains and bodies are simply doing what ego-animal brains
and bodies do. And none of it “means” something else.
If you watch the History Channel or the Daily News, it is
all the same. The past, present, and future are simply
arbitrarily selected mental focal points of perception, and
not Reality.
In actuality, there is no ‘Now’, there is only what can be
usefully described as Eternal Foreverness.
JEALOUSY AND PARANOIA
The ego/mind is jealous and paranoid by design.
It wants to discover the “cause” of your jealousy, but there
is no “cause” of jealousy in the same way that there is no
“cause” of gravity.
Jealousy simply is.
Your jealousy could be an intuition that someone you love is
not ‘playing with a full deck of cards’ and you might want
to keep a watchful eye on them. Or, it could be paranoia
based on projections of your own lust. (Perhaps it is a
little of both.)
The solution won’t likely be found in past lives. Whatever
happened in 1602 can stay in 1602; perhaps the best part of
past lives is that they are over. If you watch the History
Channel, you’ll be glad history is over.
Past lives to not “cause” the issues you experience in this
life, just as childhood memories do not “cause” the personality
that exists today.
Jealousy is an energy field of consciousness, and one either
identifies with that field, or learns to rise above and beyond it,
so to speak.
AVOID “NEW AGE”
Watch out for ‘New Age’ pseudo-spirituality. It will have you
obsessing over past lives, wanting psychic readings,
listening to ‘channellers’ and trying to speak with angels.
It will have you worried about the alignment of the planets;
it will have you placing crystals all over your house so that
“dark entities” won’t come and “drain” you. It is all a
childish diversion and a distraction from doing real spiritual
work and enjoying the resulting true healing, which can only
take place right Now.
THE ‘NOW’
Although there is no “Now”, it is a simple word that can
be useful to the human mind in assisting it to locate the
Eternal Forever. The Now is like a doorway into Timelessness,
if you will.
So how does one find, or locate, The Now and surrender to it,
rather than to the often-annoying ego/mind and incessant
thinkingness?
Spiritual aspirants all over the world are squinting their
eyes and squirming to find it; they struggle and try to
force it to happen.
and effortlessly in learning the art of Witnessing:
http://www.ideagasms.net/into-the-field-of-consciousness/
Jealousy, paranoia, and other “problems” can simply be
Witnessed. Another way of saying this is when you learn to
love the “unlovable”, you’ll heal it. Thanks for your
question.
Many Blessings,
Stephane Hemon
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