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What Love Means to a 4-8 Year Old

Published by Greta on Sunday, February 21, 2010 Leave a comment.

Hello everyone!

Stephane and I got this email from one of our subscribers. The children’s answers
are so innocent and touching, just like WOW, so I decided to share it here with you:

“A group of professional people posed this question to a group of 4 to 8 year-olds,
‘What does love mean?’ The answers they got were broader and deeper than anyone
could have imagined. See what you think:

‘When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toe nails
anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got
arthritis too. That’s love.’

Rebecca- age 8

‘When someone loves you, the way they say your name is different. You just know that
your name is safe in their mouth.’

Billy – age 4

‘Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out
and smell each other…’

Karl – age 5

‘Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without
making them give you any of theirs.’

Chrissy – age 6

‘Love is what makes you smile when you’re tired.’

Terri – age 4

‘Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving
it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.’

Danny – age 7

‘Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to
be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when
they kiss’

Emily – age 8

‘Love is what’s in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.’

Bobby – age 7

‘If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate,’

Nikka – age 6

‘Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.’

Noelle – age 7

‘Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know
each other so well.’

Tommy – age 6

‘During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching
me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared
anymore.’

Cindy – age 8

‘My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don’t see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night.’

Clare – age 6

‘Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.’

Elaine-age 5

‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert
Redford.’

Chris – age 7

‘Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.’

Mary Ann – age 4

‘I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out
and buy new ones.’

Lauren – age 4

‘When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.’

Karen – age 7

‘Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn’t think it’s gross.’

Mark – age 6

‘You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say
it a lot. People forget.’

Jessica – age 8

And the final one:

The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who
had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman’s
yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there.

When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, ‘Nothing, I just helped
him cry’.

When there is nothing left but God, that is when you find out that God is all you need. Take 60
seconds and give this a shot! All you do is simply say the following small prayer for the person who
sent you this.

Heavenly Father, please bless all my friends in whatever it is that You know they may be needing
this day! And may their life be full of Your peace, prosperity and power as he/she seeks to have a
closer relationship with You. Amen. “

(The End.)

Stephane

Simple Steps

Published by Stephane on Tuesday, September 15, 2009 Leave a comment.

***READER QUESTION***

Dear Stephane,

What, in your opinion, are the fundamentals for living a
truly wondrous life? Looking back on your life, what has
helped you through the more difficult times? What is the
difference between those who lead a great life versus those
who do not?

>>>COMMENTS:

Perhaps the very first key to a wondrous life is to admit
that the Source of your Life comes from Divinity and not the
ego/mind, nor does the Source of Life come from an
intellectualized ‘big bang’ theory/opinion or some kind of
random, accidental event. The Source of your Life comes from
Divinity; you are a child of God and therefore truly Divine;
Life comes from Life.

This is the very first key to a Happy, Joyful Life for it leads to
fundamental Integrity, as well as a sense of inner security
and accountability.

Perhaps the second key to living an incredibly rich and
fruitful life is to admit that there are indeed people on
this planet whom are more evolved than you are. In some
cases, there have been human beings who have reached such an
incredibly high state of evolution within themselves that it
is literally not even possible to imagine, via the human
intellect, just how evolved they truly are. In some cases,
even the term Lord is appropriate, such as in the cases of
Buddha, Krishna, and of course, Jesus Christ.

These are what I feel, at this juncture in my life, are the
two most important keys to life. One, to simply admit that,
“I have no idea where I came from, I have no memory of my
beginning, nor do I have any idea where I’m going.
Therefore, I did not create myself, clearly, but I have been
Created. Life comes from Life.” And two, simply admit
that there are those more evolved than yourself and seek
them out; relinquish your opinions, and listen to what
they have to say. Although people do love to read, rare are
those who truly listen.

Now, the problem with the “God-word” is that it has been
utterly distorted, so much so, that the depictions of God in
the Old Testament are actually somewhat demonic. God
supposedly suffers from psychological disorders (including
jealousy, hatred, and revenge). Although, over 2000 years
ago, Jesus Christ said that God is Love, humans still cling
to their Old Testament. That we are “slow in the head”
doesn’t even begin to describe just how ignorant we truly
are.

The simple act of admitting, “I, of myself, am ignorant”
does not lead to humiliation but to Humility. The human mind
is ill-equipped to discern ‘truth’ from ‘non-truth’ and
even, in many cases, it cannot even discern the very basics
such as being able to tell the ‘good’ from the ‘extremely
rotten’. Thus, in the willingness to admit, “I, of myself,
don’t know much about anything”, it takes one through the
door to Integrity and this is when the true search begins.

Human life is excruciatingly difficult and horribly painful.

That humans even manage to live through the first 20 years
of life without jumping off a bridge or at least getting
hooked on drugs to commit ‘passive suicide’ is enormously
impressive.

After many years of intense devotion to ‘truth-seeking’
(often to the point of tears and frustration and personal
anguish and despair that have reached levels of unnameable
intensities) looking back at all I have lived through, as
well as observing the hardships of other humans whose lives
have possibly been over 100,000 times more difficult than my
own life… that human beings are actually capable of living
through even one single human lifetime impresses me, shocks
me, and places me in a state of Awe that is resulting in
tears as I write these words.

Human life is horrendously difficult, and the simple fact
that people are actually attempting to live out their lives
totally alone and without the awareness of the Presence of
God in their lives… To not know the basic truth that
Divinity is the Source of your own Existence… to not even
have this very basic truth to be able to count on… and to
continue ‘plowing forth’ day after day in a world filled with
dangers, traps, chaos, war, lies, criminality, poverty,
disease, torture, and… the amount of suffering in this
world is so astronomical that as I wrote these last few
words I needed to step outside, wipe off my tears and smoke
a cigarette!!

That people actually try to live out their lives alone and
without prayer, contemplation, meditation, and the constant
re-reading of spiritual texts to remind them each and every
single day of their lives that they come from Divinity…
one can’t help but feel enormeous compassion for people.

Although religionism is a good start, unless it matures into
spirituality, a truly blissful and happy life is not likely.

It is one thing to hold a belief/opinion of God in mind, but
it is quite another to acknowledge that God is the Source of
your Life and is therefore Within you. Jesus Christ said,
“The Kingdom of Heaven is within you”; He did not say that
Heaven is ‘out there’ somewhere up in the clouds or in
some other time or place. So this is probably the main key
difference between religionism and true spirituality, as far
as I know. Religion tends to see God as an ‘out there’
human-like parent, while Spirituality recognizes God is
‘in here’ as consciousness itself. Spirituality sees Life,
Love, Consciousness, Awareness, and God as all one and
the same thing.

Perhaps every man would be very fortunate to ask himself:
“While lying on my (rapidly approaching) death bed, of what
good will be my opinions?” When seen for what they are,
opinions are inherently worthless. Therefore, to simply
acknowledge that there are some Beings on this planet who
have evolved themselves to such a degree that it is not even
possible for us to comprehend them intellectually… is a
very good place to start. To hear that there is such a thing
as Truth is already a great Blessing, for many have not even
heard of such a thing.

To find an appropriate teacher is likely the greatest
Blessing of all, because a teacher has traversed through the
many pathways and pitfalls and can tell you where the
landmines are. In my lifetime, the greatest Blessing of all
came on the day when I discovered my teacher, and since
then, I have married a good woman and together we have
practiced surrendering to our teacher’s wisdom (by letting
go of our own opinions) a little more each day, as best we
can. The rewards have been multitudinous and in some cases
what the world calls ‘miraculous’.

There are many great teachers available, and some of them
are appropriate at certain times in your life, yet won’t
likely be very appropriate later on. Every human being is a
teacher to the lesser-evolved humans, and a student to the
humans which are more highly-evolved.

There is an old adage: “Teach only Love.”

Therefore, once you’ve even heard that there is such a
thing as Love, if you can find someone who is even slightly
more advanced than you are and they teach Love, do not throw
away the opportunity or waste any time. To have even heard
of Love is already a profound Gift from God that, when seen
for what it is, is your Divine ‘inner calling’.

Love is the Source of your Life; the greater your degree of
awareness and understanding of this simple spiritual fact,
the greater your life will become.

A great place to start discovering Higher Awareness right
here and right now (and actually quite rapidly), is to make
the decision to stop with the inner talking, commenting,
editorializing, and useless babbling within your mind.

Although this may be difficult in the beginning due to the
addiction of inner rambling and the pleasure derived from it,
it very rapidly leads one to the discovery of the Presence
of God within. Bliss-Ecstasy-Joy states will be almost
continuous, as all doubt progressively dissolves in due
time. Just be quiet and the rest will come to you.

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon

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Judgmentalism Versus Discernment

Published by Stephane on Sunday, September 13, 2009 Leave a comment.

***POPULAR QUESTION***

I have Cracking The Male/Female Code Volume One and am
starting to get good at seeing the ego-based patterns in
people; detecting ‘energy vampires’ and people who are not
trustworthy, not fundamentally honest and integrous.

This makes me worry that I am becoming judgmental.

>>>COMMENTS:

Discernment and judging are decidedly not the same thing. To
know that a certain chemical is poisonous does not mean one
has to attack or vilify it, but simply avoid it via the
wisdom of caution. Similarly, a lion will gladly kill and
eat you; this does not mean one needs to judge and condemn
all lions as “evil.” A lion is simply being what it is.

Discernment is clinically-detached and has compassion.
(Compassion is the refusal to suffer based on incorrect
notions, limiting beliefs, fallacious ideologies, and
dualistic perception.)

Discernment does not condemn others, people, places, things,
etc. — it simply avoids them out of humility and the
respect for one’s life.

If there is a crack in the sidewalk or a hole in the ground,
discernment simply walks around the hole, while judgment
yells at the hole and tries to get it to become a ‘non-hole’.

Discernment accepts others as they are, while judgment
rejects, resists, condemns, hates, and seeks revenge.
(Judgment wants to “win”, be “right”, and gain “good
feelings” in the process.)

Discernment simply Witnesses and Observes quietly, standing
back to silently appreciate the beauty; it refrains from
getting over-involved in things or with people on a ’solar
plexus’ or emotionalized level.

Discernment is inclusive of the Totality of All That Is,
while judgment tries to exclude.

Discernment accepts that the infinite field of
consciousness/awareness loves everyone equally, for
consciousness and love are one and the same thing; judgment
holds onto and clings to the kindergarten notion that
unconditional love is “not fair.”

Discernment can observe the ego’s in others and be thankful
that one is being shown the true nature of one’s own ego.
Judgment represses one’s own ego, pretends that it isn’t
the same as the ego of others, goes into denial about it,
and then projects itself out onto others.

Judgment arises out of the guilt and shame of having
an ego.

It believes the ego/mind/personality/intellect and
associated animal-instinctual drives are ‘the me’ and
therefore personal. It then condemns itself and others,
using labels such as “sin”, “evil”, “wrong”, or “immoral.”

Discernment simply Witnesses the collective animal ego from
Compassionate understanding, rather than condemnation or
guilt. As guilt dissolves, there is no more need to project
one’s “dark side” out onto the world or to try to change
the world “out there” because, when seen for what the
ego/mind really is, the world itself is really “in here”
(i.e., perception).

“There is no need to change the world, for the world you
see does not even exist.”

–Ramana Maharshi

“Judgment is Mine, sayeth the Lord.”

–Scripture

“To choose chocolate does not mean one must then hate and
attack vanilla.”

–David R. Hawkins

“It isn’t fair that God loves everybody equally!”

–The Human Ego/Mind

Discernment is one thing; judgment is quite another. The way
to get off judgmentalism is to simply accept that your own
ego/mind is inherently ‘animalistic’ and therefore greedy,
lustful, paranoid, prideful, and ignorant. By accepting the
downside of the ego and refusing to identify with it as
‘the me’, it then becomes like a cute (and highly
entertaining) pet.

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon

Stephane

Past Life Karma

Published by Stephane on Sunday, September 13, 2009 Leave a comment.

***READER QUESTION***

When my girl and I first met, both of us instantly
“recognized” the other, and based how our relationship
developed from there on, I am pretty sure we have some past
life connection.

Now I have heard that in these cases when people meet and
feel like they belong together, it may be because they have
some past life bad karma between them, that family members
or intense relationships usually hold some issues to be
straightened out, or it might just be the case of “soul
mates” who live toghether from life to life.

I have an issue with jealousy. Her past relationship which
bothers me to no end. Let it be said that she is the most
integrous woman I have met, honest and truthful, so I
believe that there seems to be no reason for my “intuitive
jealousy” (she is not connected to this guy any more in any
way), but this relationship still bothers me. For no
apparent reason.

When she told me about it, I felt betrayed and felt like I
had been harmed in this, even though both of these people
were in no way connected to me at the time, totally unknown
to me, and I have no reason to feel like this.. I got the
feeling that the guy might have done something bad me in my
previous lives (got me killed or jailed or something, so he
could live together with my girl — that is the feeling I
got from that. And I must say that my intuition works quite
well. I have found out before that if something bothers me
for no apparent reason that usually there is some reason
behind that.

Then I had this dream where her previous boyfriend opened a
door and stood in the doorway of and old log farmhouse and
there he said with a ironical smirk and tone something like
– “At the present you don’t much appreciate the help of the
swedes but in 1642; or 48 or 24 (I don’t remember the exact
dates) you had no qualms about it.” I looked it up and in
that period in Estonia began “the Swedish period” – the
swedes invaded. So in my dream, the guy named the date of
which I had on idea.

Combining this all, how we met, my intuitions, dreams and
feelings about it, I am quite sure there is definitely some
heavy karmic issue happening here with me and my girl and
possibly this other guy.

Rationally, looking at it, I am acting like a total psycho
about it, as there is no logical or apparent reason for my
jealousy, but even before I knew this other guys connection
with her, I didn’t like the guy; I remember, the first time
I heard of his existence, not knowing anything about his
past, I shook my fist and said I hated these sorts of guys.

Now I am trying to find out about previous lives and that is
why I am posting this question about good and bad past
lifetime karma, maybe you have some clues to offer me?

>>>COMMENTS:

The mind loves to infer meaning and significance where there
is none to be found. In fact, nothing means anything.

I will repeat:

Nothing means anything.

This discovery results in a huge sigh of relief.

All inference of meaning is a projection from the ego/mind.
It is a fantasy, an illusion, a fallacy.

Your jealousy simply means that you’re in a state of
jealousy. Nothing more. To add more meaning to this is to
take yourself far away from Reality and into suffering,
confusion, and deeper into the house of mirrors of the
mind.

A thing is its own meaning and significance. To be a dog
means “to be a dog.” To be fearful means that you’re fearful.
The meaning of a chair is the chair itself — nothing more.

Anything more than this creates illusion, and illusion leads
to confusion & needless suffering.

PAST LIFE KARMA

While research into past lives can be informative and
entertaining, it is often a narcissistic self-indulgence. It
becomes all about ‘me’ and ‘my’ past lives, which then
become glamorized, special, and important.

The whole thing can be seen as a distraction from The
Eternal Now.

If you want to know about your past lives, just watch the
History Channel. Witness and Observe the collective ego of
mankind doing what it does; your ego is the same ego. This
is pretty much all that’s needed to know about “past
lives.” Or, watch the Daily News. It is your own ego that
is “out there”, doing what the ego does.

What does it all mean?

Nothing

It’s just a bunch of ego’s doing what ego’s are supposed
to be doing — maiming, killing, slaughtering, dramatizing,
controlling, and f*cking with one another. The ego-animal
brains and bodies are simply doing what ego-animal brains
and bodies do. And none of it “means” something else.

If you watch the History Channel or the Daily News, it is
all the same. The past, present, and future are simply
arbitrarily selected mental focal points of perception, and
not Reality.

In actuality, there is no ‘Now’, there is only what can be
usefully described as Eternal Foreverness.

JEALOUSY AND PARANOIA

The ego/mind is jealous and paranoid by design.

It wants to discover the “cause” of your jealousy, but there
is no “cause” of jealousy in the same way that there is no
“cause” of gravity.

Jealousy simply is.

Your jealousy could be an intuition that someone you love is
not ‘playing with a full deck of cards’ and you might want
to keep a watchful eye on them. Or, it could be paranoia
based on projections of your own lust. (Perhaps it is a
little of both.)

The solution won’t likely be found in past lives. Whatever
happened in 1602 can stay in 1602; perhaps the best part of
past lives is that they are over. If you watch the History
Channel, you’ll be glad history is over.

Past lives to not “cause” the issues you experience in this
life, just as childhood memories do not “cause” the personality
that exists today.

Jealousy is an energy field of consciousness, and one either
identifies with that field, or learns to rise above and beyond it,
so to speak.

AVOID “NEW AGE”

Watch out for ‘New Age’ pseudo-spirituality. It will have you
obsessing over past lives, wanting psychic readings,
listening to ‘channellers’ and trying to speak with angels.

It will have you worried about the alignment of the planets;
it will have you placing crystals all over your house so that
“dark entities” won’t come and “drain” you. It is all a
childish diversion and a distraction from doing real spiritual
work and enjoying the resulting true healing, which can only
take place right Now.

THE ‘NOW’

Although there is no “Now”, it is a simple word that can
be useful to the human mind in assisting it to locate the
Eternal Forever. The Now is like a doorway into Timelessness,
if you will.

So how does one find, or locate, The Now and surrender to it,
rather than to the often-annoying ego/mind and incessant
thinkingness?

Spiritual aspirants all over the world are squinting their
eyes and squirming to find it; they struggle and try to
force it to happen.

So how do you do it? Well, it comes about rather easily
and effortlessly in learning the art of Witnessing:

http://www.ideagasms.net/into-the-field-of-consciousness/

Jealousy, paranoia, and other “problems” can simply be
Witnessed. Another way of saying this is when you learn to
love the “unlovable”, you’ll heal it. Thanks for your
question.

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon

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