After doing so many phone consultations, I can see that it’s the basic “dog-training stuff” that most guys are still not getting, even though it’s laid out all over my products, blog, forum posts, newsletters, etc. they still haven’t internalized it yet.

The last 45 consultations were like this, with the exception of one guy last week who wanted to be reframed so that he could lose shyness from approaching women. I hate doing those because I’m like, “Dude, wouldn’t you date yourself? You should be so overjoyed with your life, your self-esteem should be exploding open those sets.”

When I approach a girl, if she doesn’t react well, my feeling is to start wishing her self-worth was high enough to appreciate the awesomeness of me. I feel like giving the poor girl a HUG because she’s so stuck in her head, and suffering.

I have so much stuff that I will be teaching her if she becomes my new girlfriend, and it’s the stuff that just happens to truly matter in life, such as healing her sexuality, moving her beyond fears, teaching her meditation… I’m OVERWHELMED and even ANNOYED to be talking to pretty girls. With me, it’s all about, “Do I think she can KEEP UP with me or not?”

I’m not thinking, “I wonder if she’ll reject me, because that will depress the hell out of me”.

So when these young guys call me up from “the community”, I’m like… “aaarrrrgh shit, this is going to be very boring, and he’s going to get off the phone after an hour and barely even move a muscle to make these changes in his life. He’s gonna go right back to asf or whatever and resume KJ’ing. Fuck I can’t let that happen to this poor guy, his life is going to SUCK if I can’t reframe him somehow.”

The thing is, I can only offer guys Borrowed Wisdom. In the end, it’s NOT about having all of these “beliefs” that you’ve accumulated from guys like me who “get” this whole Social Woman Psychology Sex thing, you actually have to go and systematically experience it all in real life, you know? Borrowed Wisdom is extremely useful - it’s like having a map, but the map needs to become your own internalized territory.

Tip: Go rent the first season of “The Dog Whisperer”. That guy does for dogs what I do for guy’s girlfriends, a lot of the resemblances are pretty funny

It will teach you the fundamentals of punishment/reward. Most of the guys who call me (because they have bratty girlfriends), I have to go over this stuff with them:

*The Fundamentals*

I usually tell them, “Man, you wouldn’t kiss a raving, barking, yapping DOG, would you? No, because he’ll bite your head off. So why do you run over and give your girlfriend needy AFFECTION when she’s barking at YOU? Are you insane??”

And they laugh… it’s pretty funny when you think about it! This stuff is HARD to learn because we humans have EMOTION and EGO which enters into the equation… When our girlfriend’s are angry/frustrated/anoyed/bickering, this is NOT the time to submit and start CUDDLING with her and going, “Baby, I didn’t mean it like that, come here” and SMOTHER HER. No no no…

The upcoming BGTP is going to seriously up people’s “Spank Mastery”, AND I FINALLY shared my most treasured, personal, and dangerously effective Spank. I’ve hesitated to share this one for years now, because in the wrong hands it can be used for hardcore manipulation. But if used HONESTLY, and not as a way of being a controlling dumbass, you guys are going to see how this one move is DEVASTATING.

(Yes, I’m enjoying teasing you guys with this immensely)

Aside from that, I’m seriously considering making a small video product on step-by-step Spankings, complete with all of the body-language stuff and frame control.

Alright, I have to run, HUGE post coming up later, come back soon,
Stephane