This post is going to be kind of… graphic and risqué,
I hope you don’t mind!

> By the way, I’m the girl from the Female 0rgasm Mastery video program:

http://www.ideagasms.net/how-to-squirt-video/

I thought I would share a really enjoyable ‘pickup’ experience that we had right before we said goodbye to Montreal a couple months ago (we moved to Costa Rica for a little while, to get out of the city and live a quieter life).

Stephane, Greta and I were walking down Mont-Royal Street in Montreal after a failed attempt at talking to this really hot girl in front of us…

Greta and I felt pretty silly, like wow, all we had to do was say ‘hi’ but we froze. It’s been a while since I’ve done the whole ‘pickup’ thing, and we just did not have a functioning brain at that moment in time to do anything except to stare (she had a great ASS, haha).

 So I started praying to God to send us another girl. The prayer went something like this: “Dear God, send us a girl, preferably one who is fun, pretty, laughs and wants to have a good time, please send her as soon as you can, that would be awesome, Amen!”

We were walking in silence while I was praying and all of a sudden I feel ‘creepy’ fingers on my waist. My first instinct was to turn around and smack the person who was touching me. (People coming up to you from behind grabbing your waist can set off primal instincts!) Good thing I did not because when I turned around there was this pretty young girl saying my name with a huge smile on her face.

She turned out to be a girl Stephane and I had met from a previous ‘pickup’, and she literally jumped into his arms with joy of seeing him again.

We introduced her to Greta, and the three of us essentially cave-manned her down to the next lounge we saw

It was our last night in Montreal, and we made it one to remember!

Stephane is amazing with women (I realized this may sound biased, but this is my truth) and I love watching him ‘work’ (communicate with women) because it’s like I get to fall in love all over again. He just understands them like no one else I know and loves them no matter what. While sitting down having a drink she poured her heart out to him and cried in his arms. I don’t even think he remembers what he said to her, but she was in love.

I remember at one point Stephane said that she had to open her heart, and keep it open, no matter how much it may be “scary”…How she may want to have a little more compassion for herself and her situations in her life. She was also being witness to the change she saw in ME, and wanted the same thing for herself. They were holding each other closely while looking in each other’s eyes. Hers were beginning to well up with tears when she kissed him. It was beautiful. Greta and I were blown away by the whole amazing-ness of what was
unfolding before our eyes.

I remember when Steph looked at her and said, “I can see the tear that is forming behind your eye, I wish you would share that tear with me” and she started crying… then HE started crying, awww… it was beautiful.

We had been making quite a scene at the lounge because we were all kissing each other around the table so we decided to leave before anything ‘odd’ would happen. Stephane suggested that we all go and eat a “poutine” (unique Quebec recipe, consisting of cheese, fries, and gravy). Greta had never had one before (they’re disgustingly good, believe it or not), we went and munched down on this HUGE poutine, it was absolutely delicious.

So then Stephane said, “Let’s go for a walk” (meaning: let’s go home) so we all got up to leave… Our place was only about 5 minutes away, Stephane walked in front of us with the new girl, while Greta and I were discussing what happened while we were in the bar, you know, discussing his “evil pickup tactics”, which I am attempting to teach to Greta.

Meanwhile, “new girl” was holding onto his arm sooo tightly and staring into his eyes.

The four of us had been escalating all throughout the night, kissing each other and loving each other, so when we got to the house it felt only natural that Greta made a bath for us girls. We jumped right in. (Usually when we bring girls home, I will shout, “Let’s take a bubble bath!!” and we all jump in, which is a nice way
to escalate. If you’re a ‘bi’ girl reading this, try this little trick, it’s great).

After the bath, the “new girl” and I jumped under the covers and started massaging each other while listening to Deva Premal. After a few minutes I got up to see what Stephane and Greta were up to. I walked into the bathroom and Stephane and Greta were having S E X. Heehee.. Stephane said to me, “Tell [new girl] to come here, she’s fully cooked”. So I called her, she came to the bathroom and we watched them having S E X… then it was my turn… then Stephane said, “you’re next!” and she started blushing. And she kept going on and on
about how beautiful Greta is, and how awesome we both are at deep-throating.

I realized then and there that we did not have any condoms left, so without saying anything to anyone I put some jeans on and a coat and ran to the corner store

At the store I grabbed a whole slew of different kinds. The cute cashier gave me a look that kind of said, “You go girl!” As I left she said, “Have a good night!” I replied in a confident voice, “I sure will!” She burst out laughing and had to calm herself down before serving the next customer. (I love to see fits of giggles overtake someone.)

I got back to the house, but the “new girl” ended up confessing she had a boyfriend. So, Greta and I gave Stephane a BL0WJ0B and taught her some moves. She was holding his arm while looking down and studying what I was doing. She kept repeating, “OH my God! Your life is amazing. You are so good at this. You guys are amazing, I wish my life was as good as this!”

It was pretty cool how Stephane was totally okay with her not wanting S E X. He just went, “Oh, you have a boyfriend, cool!” and continued to enjoy having S E X with two girls as if it was nothing.

This made her really H0RNY, and she continued to look at him with adoration… she watched everything and she was really happy to learn, and in total awe of us. Happily finished, we all cuddled on the bed laughing together and talking… She continued to tell us how awesome she thinks we are and how much she loves us, it was really cute to see the expression on her beautiful face.

Oh yeah! Earlier when we were still in the lounge, “new girl” and I were in the bathroom together, and I told her that she had to come with us to Costa Rica. I stated the obvious, that she was not going to find anyone else like Stephane or us for probably most of her life. I also pointed out that she looked like she could use a little vacation. She knows that I’m right. She wants to come visit us, but there are always other things to consider, for example how much approval she needs from others about her life. We’ll see whether or not
she actually makes the voyage. She’s not happy with her boyfriend, it is quite obvious, and her love/adoration for Stephane is even more obvious. Anyway it takes courage, and I’m not certain she has enough courage.

Our last night in Montreal was a night to remember! I don’t think I will ever under-estimate the power of prayer again!

My last Quebec “poutine” was shared amongst people I love (I love poutine and will miss cheese curds).

The night ended with beautiful kisses and heartfelt hugs from a girl who loves us and essentially worships
ideaGasms and all we stand for. Sweet! We love girls like that

I will miss Montreal as it has been my home for the majority of my life. I will miss the first winter’s snow (not too much ), the crispness of autumn, the French girls, the long walks to Parc LaFontaine, the summer night heat, and the springtime blossoms. Au revoir Montréal, Quebec, je me souviens.

Thanks for reading!

I love you Stephane and Greta,
Ghita

P.S. Thank you.

 Hey there, this is Greta ! We girls plan on posting a LOT more newsletters and blog posts, of course they won’t be as “high level” as the things Stephane is writing (plus I’m Polish and my English still needs work). So Steph will be helping me out with mucho editing

I thought I would begin my posting something that might feel more like a “diary entry”…

After lunch one day we decided to do some shopping at Plaza Del Sol, in Costa Rica.

On this particular day it was only Steph and I hanging out together. Ghita was at home sound asleep. Before I left, I wanted to wake her but she looked so content and innocent that I just couldn’t bring myself to disturb her.
 
During our shopping we thought about needing another  litter box scooper for our cat, Libra. It just so happens Plaza Del Sol has Super Pet store. (All the stores out here in Central America seem to LOVE using the word “SUPER”. So everything is “super” this and “super” that, it’s pretty funny.)We went inside with the intention of grabbing the scooper, but instead, my attention was drawn to two little balls of white fluff rolling around in a cage.

I called Steph to have a look at these sweet and heart-warming kitten snowflakes and he was like “Do you want it? Just get it” I didn’t take his offer seriously at first, but his look told me he wasn’t playing around. So, of course I exclaimed  “YES!!!” and he told the store manager, “Por Favor, kitten for mujeres!” (Mujeres means “woman” in Spanish).

Two minutes later one of the kittens was in my arms! He wasn’t scared, and as soon as I cuddled him to my chest he started purring. I could tell he was feeling happy and safe. Stephane joked that he too feels very safe when he cuddles my chest

It wasn’t until we were in the car on the way home that I started crying tears of joy.  You see, I have never had a pet!! …and a cat was always the biggest of my pet dreams. A few minutes later while the tears were still drying Steph turned to me with the perfect name for this 6 weeks old white fluff.

In honor of everyone’s favorite open-hearted, wise white dragon, we decided to call him Falcor. (Remember the kids movie, “The Neverending Story”? I still love that movie.)

Here he is, Falcor… the warrior kitten:

Can you see the Falcor AND Yoda in him? 

When (our other cat, Tonkinese) Libra first saw Falcor, he was far from being content about his new friend. There was a possibility of Falcor being a thief of our attention to him. Boy, was he hissing!

Fortunately, the little guy didn’t make much of it and kept playing by himself. After serious Buddha-level aloofness presented by Falcor, Libra’s jealousy begun to subside. To aide in his acceptance of Falcor, Steph decided to allow Libra to have complete freedom in the backyard (he was an indoor cat). This gave Libra a great distraction in exploring a new territory (instead of being eaten up by the jealousy).

In not even a week they became best buddies, grooming each other, licking each other, and playing cheerfully. Libra has grown up so much since the arrival of Falcor. He is now a big daddy, always at hand, and teaching him new tricks.

So, this morning they were exploring the balcony area for the first time together. Ghita and I were sitting at the table inside cheering them on, especially during the moments when Libra was playing the big daddy role. We felt safe about them being outside so we didn’t feel the need to watch them like a hawk.

Suddenly, I heard a desperate miaaaow. I looked out and Falcor was not on the balcony.  I ran out to investigate and found him lying on the concrete 12 feet below. He had fallen off!  

I ran down to pick him up. Libra was already there giving out hopeless meows and nervously walking around the wounded body of his little warrior brother. Falcor wasn’t moving.

I felt really guilty. I felt like I had not protected him enough. The only thing I wanted at that moment was for him to live. I brought him upstairs and silently showed him to Steph and Ghita.

Steph looked at me and said, ”It’s not your fault. I blame Kitten Karma.” As soon as I heard this I burst into tears and couldn’t stop crying. When I calmed down a little, I told Steph and Ghita a story from 15 years ago that resembled this traumatic event:

My sister Justyna got her first hamster on her 8th birthday. I was 12 at the time. As soon as spring showed up, I decided to take him on his first walk in the grass.

He was walking in front of me. I followed him, watching my steps closely…but not closely enough. I failed to notice him turn around and walk straight under my pointy black pumps. I heard an audible crunching sound. I picked him up to find his skull cracked and his eye popping out. I could not believe what was happening.

I ran back into the house and grabbed my mom to help me put him back together. There was nothing we could do. It was official: I was a hamster killer!

I had been crying from the moment I realized what happened but as soon as my sister came home and found out what happened it just got worse. She vowed to me she would never forgive me. So, now I had double guilt hanging above my head: I killed a pet that wasn’t even mine!

I cried straight through the next five hours. I cried so much that I got black bags under my eyes and ended up passing out from exhaustion.

(Justyna, have you forgiven me yet?)

After hearing my story, Stephane told me to draw a picture of that dead hamster with all the details. This is one way of healing the past. Apparently this kind of therapy helps rape victims to recover and forgive the rapist.

In preparation for my drawing I walked over to our stack of paper and randomly grabbed a sheet that just so happened to be black. As I was drawing the hamster all I could remember was his eye. In my mind it seemed protruding, huge, glazy, and bleeding. His dead cold body that we buried on that unlucky Sunday seemed heavy… almost artificial.

Twenty minutes later I had finished my drawing and I showed it to Steph.

He explained to me that negative memories are stored in our memory in black. He went further by saying it takes an incredible amount of energy to keep them that way, so by drawing a picture of the negative experience we lighten it up and help dissolve the trauma.

Here is the picture I drew:

After I finished discussing my drawing with Steph I felt a pleasant relief as if the hamster didn’t have anything to do with me anymore. We both went our separate ways. The image of his dead bleeding body had stopped being dormant and was now free.

In the meantime of all this, Ghita and Steph were taking care of Falcor, who fell off the porch earlier. At first we thought it was really serious because he wasn’t moving very much. We were ready to jump in a taxi and find Emergency Vet but he soon fell asleep. We decided to let him recover in his dreams. After he woke up he seemed just fine. He was walking, purrrring, running around, and picking little playfights with Libra. He will still be going to the vet but it doesn’t seem like an emergency anymore.

It might seem strange to think this way but it feels like this all happened for me to release the buried hamster trauma.

Love to all the pet-lovers,

Greta

^^ Falcor (left) being “man-handled” my Libra (right)

I thought I’d ask your thoughts on a conversation I’ve had with a friend a few times.
I have a girl that I’d dated a while, but we broke it off due to how far we lived apart.
We now live closer, so have been talking about dating again.  Anyway we have all sorts of conversations. Last night we were talking, have had the same conversation before, and got onto the subject of threesomes. She’s had the experience of being with women before a few times. Well I had expressed my interest, as I would not mind at all having a little circle.

Anyway got to talking and she had mentioned some discussion she’d had with a group of friends. They were talking about girls being with girls and one of the guys made a comment saying he would like watching, but wouldn’t want to take part, unless it was only with his woman, or once the other girl left. I’d said that watching would be fun, but taking part would be nice as well.  She’d gone on about how you don’t hear many guys say they’d just watch and not wanna take part with the other girl.

Well then it kinda went on to if another girl can join what about another guy.
I’m not interested in other guys at all, I’m all Oak tree. I’m all for lots of lovey dovey cuddling and love making with a couple of beautiful women, but have no interest for another guy to be there.

She was saying it was because I was jealous or I don’t want a naked guy there, and things of that nature. I told her nope, I just have no interest in another guy being there. You know what I mean. Dragonbutter is icky.

Anyway she just keeps going on about well then could have a couple, a guy and girl, well I’m still not interested in that because there’s a guy. I try to get through to her that with a guy and two girls, it’s all about love, everyone is enjoying each other, everyone kissing each other things of that nature, the great cuddling, and such.  With a guy thrown in, there’s none of that. I’m sure not gonna cuddle with a guy *chuckles*

Towards the end of the conversation she was a bit grumpy because I was being “stubborn”.
Said I wasn’t open to ideas and opinions.  I said I’m always very open to those things, just not concerning other guys in the bedroom.

I know she’s interested in women as she’s been with a few, but what’s the deal with this insistence of having another guy join in if we were to find a girl to join in. (I wouldn’t mind finding a long term girl to join in *laughs*)

Anyway I thought it might make an interesting topic for the newsletter.

Wish I’d have saved the conversation so I could have sent it to you so you’d have it to read.

Johnny

 
Yes, a lot of women are arrogant douchebags when it comes to this stuff, however, “Father please forgive them, for they know not what they say”, as Jesus might have put it.

What they don’t understand is that we men typically have an AVERSION to being sexual with other men. The very thought of gay sex seems DISGUSTING to most of us, myself included.
 
While it’s easy to point the finger and go, “You’re just HOMOPHOBIC! You’re not OPEN! You’re just JEALOUS!” what this girl is lacking is a little humility and EMPATHY. Not to mention a simple and basic education about the nature of Yang energy.
 
Although it’s now considered “politically incorrect” to admit that gay sex makes us feel “icky”, it’s a plain-and-simple FACT about the majority of men.
 
If we look at sperm-war dynamics, male sperm actually kills other male sperm. Yang energy is COMPETITIVE, not “cuddly”. In some cases, men are wired differently and possess none of the “icky” feelings we were programmed to have, but those men seem rare.
 
The main issue I get from women about all of this threesome and Circle stuff is simply, “It’s not FAIR that you don’t ALLOW your girls to fuck other men!”
 
Notice the language, the words “fair” and “allow”. The term Consenting Adults seems to be way over our heads in this ignorant society.
 
I just got another douche-baggy comment from a woman today who said something like, “I don’t know why you FEEL THE NEED to create the term Interdependent Circle when all you are TRULY doing is living the Poly lifestyle!”
 
Again, note the arrogant languaging, the presumptions that she knows what I’m doing in my personal life and how the girls and I use the 24 hours that Creator gives us each day.
 
I don’t “feel the need” to make up new words, I have simply CHOSEN to do so. Now, the reason I use the word Interdependent is because that is our goal, we wish to achieve that state. This means we literally have to transcend the biggest and most difficult issues that couples face (e.g., jealousy, fear-of-abandonment, anger, projection, denial, guilt, shame).
 
The Poly lifestyle is about multiple partners, yes… but are the people in those communities sincerely attempting to transcend the toughest ego issues that exist? Not usually. From what I hear, it usually turns into big lust & drama fests, not unlike most relationships today.
 
And I use the word Circle because it’s CUTE… think of me and three girls holding hands and forming a Circle… Cute and fuzzy stuff, no?
 
(And, I want to avoid getting slotted in with ‘triangles’ and ‘harems’ and all of the other poly lifestyles that actually FEED on ego rather than seek to understand, honor, and move beyond it. I’m not saying ALL poly lifestyles are like this, I am saying that MANY are, but it depends on the open heart factor. Currently 0.4% of the population stands in Compassion, so let me even go as far as to say that MOST poly lifestyles are not comparable to Interdependent Circles.)

To build and maintain an actual real-life Interdependent Circle where one man actually pushes two queen-sized beds together and LIVES with 2 or 3 women IN HARMONY? The ability to pull this off means that you are very seriously learning relationship dynamics mastery of the highest order. I feel the term “Interdependent Circle” kind of implies this. It’s the spiritual pursuit of unconditional love, anything less and the Circle will be filled with drama, lies, bullshit.
 
Now, another issue is this thing about supposed “gender equality” and again, we’re of equal value, but we’re not equal beings.
 
I like to take my cues from nature, and when you look to what I call “caveman/cavewoman programming” (male/female sexual and ego dynamics), a simple look into this will reveal that usually, a woman in a Circle such as mine doesn’t actually WANT another guy in the Circle, because it simply wouldn’t feel natural.
 
Who’s lead would they follow? Mine or his?
 
As we can see, unless there is a basic understand of Sexual Polarity, these women do not qualify to have a discussion about Interdependent Circle relationship dynamics. Until basic understandings can be reached, all we’ll get from these women are arrogant, presumptive, emotionalized positionalities and opinionation. This is like trying to discuss quantum mechanics with a 10 year old kid.
 
Alright, listen up:
 
I’m working on a simple Interdependent Circle FAQ, it will include answers to many typical questions, along with a short video of myself and the girls answering questions and joking around and making fun of all the douchy women who don’t realize that I’m doing more for women and feminism than they ever will.
 
So, those of you that have questions and comments, please send them to stephane@ideagasms.net

One more thing, you’re going to start hearing from Ghita and Greta pretty soon, so if you have questions for them, shoot.
 
Blessings,
Stephane

“4 Deadly PICKUP Mistakes Men Are Making”

Hey man,
 
It has come to my attention (over and over) that a lot of
guys are making some extremely crucial and destructive
mistakes whenever they interact with women. This small list
is from many recent phone consultations, especially one in
particular that made me go –> Uh oh.
 
1.  Failure to escalate. Listen - if you treat her like a
friend, that’s all you’ll get. You have to start TOUCHING
women when you speak to them.
 
You know, take her hand and hold it a little too long, hold
eye contact a little too long, run your fingers on her
forearm, offer hugs, take her wrist and lead her to sit
down, and so on. If you do not do this stuff, you’ll
typically get rejected. She knows you WANT to, so do it. If
she resists, just use all the ‘gentleman’s game’ stuff
and wash, rinse, repeat. Ask yourself, “Is it wrong or
offensive to be intimate with women?”

2.  Failure to stay in the Heart. So you get turned on by her
beauty (root chakra) and then you go in the mind and start
trying to GET attention & love.
 
You start going, “What should I say? How should I carry
myself?” and you are concerned with manipulation and mental
chess games, in an empty pursuit of approval and status. The
trick is to let that go and Just Love Women. Be in SILENCE
when you approach, do not THINK, just BE. The words and GAME
will come to you ONLY through your heart. You must be
willing to make yourself THAT vulnerable.

3.  In a casual conversation, many of you are basically
reciting the entire GTP, in an effort to show her how great
you are. And what a ‘catch’ you are.
 
Yet you’re not ESCALATING, soooo… she knows you’re full
of sh*t. So you talk about massage, squirting, chakras, and
GTP theories such as “one day at a time” and “opening the
heart” and meditation and “taking no crap” and everything
you’re getting from IG. But, IG stuff is meant to be LIVED,
not talked about… collecting all of these beliefs to show
women how ‘knowing’ you are, NO.

4.  Instead of rambling, talk MUCH less about YOU, and focus
on HER. Spend most of your time getting to know her on every
level.
 
What are her dreams, desires, fears, wants, hatreds,
opinions… Be extremely curious about HER. And let her find
out how “knowing” you are OVER TIME, slowly. Let her be
pleasantly surprised as the relationship unfolds. Let her
find out that you saved a drowning kitten and you can make
women squirt LATER.
 
 
I’ve been doing a lot of phone consultations lately, and
this seems to be the main issues I’m seeing time and
again.
 
I hope this is helpful, I realize how difficult it truly is
to get good with women, as I went through ALL of the above
phases myself (and then some)… so hang in there, and
thanks for reading.
 
Blessings,
Stephane
 

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George Carlin, 1937 - 2008

I’ll never forget the first comedy routine I ever heard from him, it blew me away.. not just because it was hilarious, but also because he was bashing religion in a way that had me wondering how people might react to this guy… I admired his courage.

You also get the impression that perhaps George isn’t really a comedian, but rather, just a guy sharing his true beliefs… and simply structuring his language so that his world model is funny and provocative.

So anyway, here’s the first Carlin ‘routine’ I ever heard -

George Carlin - Bullshit And Religion

See what I mean? I get the impression that George is not joking when he says this stuff.

Like Carlin, I was also raised as a Catholic boy, with the Baptisms and the Communions and being forced to go to Church every Sunday, and religion didn’t jive with me.

It seemed strange to me that there was this ‘Father’ up there, and His ‘Son’. It seemed ridiculous to me that God would send people to either Heaven or Hell, and how Jesus dies for MY sins… something was off, and I considered my family to be somewhat insane for actually believing this sh*t.

So, I read a few different versions of the Bible - I wanted to judge all of this for myself, and frankly, I found the 1st testament to be a bunch of crap. What got to me was people seemed to believe that all those stories (e.g., Adam & Eve, Noah’s Ark) were real. (Today I understand them to be allegories.)

I also read the ‘book of revelation’ (notice I don’t use capitols, as I don’t feel that book deserves them) and found it to be nothing more than a bunch of paranoid delusions written by a narcissistic (and possibly schizophrenic) fool.

Then I read the NEW Testament, and it was fantastic, and FILLED with true wisdom from Jesus & co. And, I have since re-read the Old Testament (parts of it anyway) and now that I understand those stories are meant to be symbolic, allegorical, the value in those texts are decidedly obvious now.

One thing I couldn’t swallow about Christianity was this whole obsession with Sin. And although the Seven Deadly Sins indeed make a lot of sense, I rejected them as a youth because I was rejecting the idea that God is anthropomorphic (human-like characteristics). In those days, I ‘threw the baby out with the bathwater’, but now that I understand ‘God’ to literally mean CONSCIOUSNESS ITSELF, so now I have begun to study ALL religions with much greater enthusiasm. I’ll be reading the Koran next.

Another part of religion I didn’t like was this idea that God ’spoke to’ Moses, who then wrote the Ten Commandments. Don’t get me wrong, I *liked* the Commandments, as they obviously make a lot of good, logical (as well as spiritual and pragmatic) sense, but the idea that God is this ‘man in the sky’ who only ’speaks’ to a select few people turned me off, for obvious reasons. But since I now understand that God is Consciousness itself, it makes perfect sense to me that God can ’speak’ to someone, particularly is that person has a high level of consciousness. This thing about ’speaking’ is not literal, it’s more like a trasnmission of energy, of consciousness.

Speaking of the Ten Commandments, George Carlin had a HILARIOUS routine in which he compresses them into only two commandments. As usual, it’s a pretty cynical routine, you’ll see him stating that the Ten Commandments were part of some conspiracy to control people (paranoia) but the routine is hilarious nonetheless, check this out -

George Carlin - The Ten Commandments

Now, let’s take a look as some of his earlier stuff. To me, he seemed to have a lot more light in his eyes back then, but over the years that light seemed to have progressively gotten dimmer… Let’s take a look at an older recording, and then we’ll contrast it with one of his later recordings, I think you’ll see that he became a little darker as time went on. He also lost his wife (in 1997, I think) and so I wouldn’t be suprised if her death perhaps ‘changed’ him.

So here’s something light and funny from the 70’s…

George Carlin - Al Sleet, Weatherman

My favorite line is, “Tonight’s forecast… DARK!”

Here’s another older routine from the 70’s, I believe this is the ONE routine that made him famous overnight, and apparently there were Supreme Court rulings to keep this routine off the air -

George Carlin - Seven Words You Can’t Say On Television

He seemed… happier… in those days, but he progressively seemed to get darker and more cynical as time went on. Apparently he struggled with cocaine addictions, which will of course, pump the user full of guilt and shame. He then reportedly gave up cocaine to become a full-time alcoholic. But when guilt & shame are not dealt with, this usually turns into anger… in Carlin’s case, he seems angry at ‘God’ (cynical) and probably never realized that God just means Consciousness. (See ‘Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle’, as well as quantum mechanics [Bohm, and Stapp])

Now let’s take a look at a later routine, this is one of my personal favorites…

George Carlin - A Place For My Stuff

I guess I’ll end this post with Ghita and Greta’s favorite George Carlin routine

George Carlin - Dogs & Cats

Ahhhh, George, you will be missed…

I remember when I first got into his stuff, I was working hard in those days (on my game) and so I listened to his CD’s and videos every single day for like… well, it was over a year. Even when I was completely sick of hearing those same routines, day after day, I still listened to them because I assumed that Carlin’s humor “structures” would rub off on me, and they eventually did.

Thanks George… I’m a better man because of you - you changed my life, man.

Blessings,

Stephane

The ‘reader question’ was sent to me from a Polish
woman…

… From none other than my present-day girlfriend, Greta.

Cool, I had forgotten all about this. It turns out she was a
‘die hard fan’ of ideaGasms, had all our products, etc.
and she sent me this question, which I answered, without
thinking she would actually become my girlfriend two months
later.

In fact, in those days I used to slam ‘Internet dating’
because I felt that it was for geeks and pedophiles. I guess
I tend to be old-fashioned.

Anyway, two months after this newsletter came out, my
girlfriend Ghita and I flew to London for some ideaGasms
Seminars, and Greta had flown in to come STALK… er, ah, I
mean attend the seminars

So today, she lives with Ghita and I… I never thought I
would meet girls online, but it happened… You can read
more about Greta right here -

http://www.ideagasms.net/about-greta/

Sooo… here’s that old newsletter…

***QUESTION FROM A WOMAN***

Stephane,

I am still not sure if being sub-dom (polarity) is needed in
my relationship.

What for in my relationship??

What will I get from being sub every time every day?

I feel it is against the frame: I act in alignment with my
higher self.

How my boyfriend will know better than me what serves my
highest good?

And what if I don’t feel that being sub serves it every
time?

Does that mean I am not feminine?

I would appreciate your thoughts on it as this is so
difficult for me to understand.

Thanks,
Greta

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Polarity (dom/sub dynamics) can only be of value when you
trust your partner’s lead.

Does your male counterpart know you better than you know
yourself?

If that is the case, I suggest that you follow his lead - he
will lead you into higher dimensions.

Mistakes will be made, of course, but as long as he leads
from the Heart you guys are going to have an awesome time
together.

If the trust is NOT there however, then submitting and
following, etc. will be very harmful to you both.

He will lead you into chaos.

My girlfriend follows my lead because she values my life
experience. It is clear to her that I can see her more
clearly than she is able to see herself, most of the time.

Slowly, slowly, she has learned to trust me, and now we make
jokes like, “Steph knows best” and cute couple stuff like
that.

But she follows my lead because she trusts me. I have taught
her about her sexuality, her emotions, spirituality,
ego-death, Chakras, meditation, I have taught her “pickup”
and social dynamics, I have helped her to heal some of her
past, I have taught her many things and she is most eager to
learn more and more.

So, it makes sense for her to follow my lead, because my
lead is worthwhile… I don’t just ‘dominate’ women, I
don’t just bark orders at them; I LISTEN as well as lead.

And, there are situations where we reverse roles, where SHE
LEADS ME.

It’s not just me in control of everything all the time.

There are areas in life in which she is the dominant one,
the teacher, the “boyfriend trainer” if you will.

“Girlfriend training” (Polarity) is NOT for everyone.

It is for guys like me who spent most of their life learning
about the things in life which matter most, and as such, we
have a lot more to offer women than the average ‘wussy’
guy.

A true ‘trainer’ is a man who is Yin/Yang balanced within
himself. Finally, once the balance is there, the man can
return to being Masculine and take the lead in a mature,
balanced, and authentic fashion.

> This is why I joke that The GTP is really just a boyfriend
training program in disguise, because it installs the right
kinds of attitudes and frames needed if a man wants
polarized relationships in which his feminine girlfriend is
HAPPY to follow his lead.

FROM THERE… Once the POLARITY is established,
relationships are able to go up a notch, and this isn’t
something I talk about in newsletters very much.

I am NOT really in the lead anymore…

I know that it can seem that way from the outside, but
EXISTENCE is the one leading our relationship.

It isn’t about me getting what I want and Ghita getting
what she wants anymore, because we have surrendered our
relationship to Existence.

Instead of asking, “What’s in it for us?” we have learned
to ask, “What would be best for EXISTENCE?”

This is the level where the relationship grows beyond two
people, and now serves existence, humanity, the world.

Today, our relationship comes with a greater sense of
responsibility than ever before. We realize that our every
action not only affects us, but it affects the thousands of
people who come to learn from us, and that’s just for
starters. The relationship that we have has become greater
than ourselves, and as such, it has become a great honor and
privilege.

Thanks for your question.

Blessings,
Stephane

PS – AGAIN –> >NOTE: If you want to start getting a
ROCK-SOLID education in how to turn your hit-and-miss
success with women into consistent, repeatable,
HEART-CENTERED success on EVERY LEVEL of the game, go here
and take a look at ALL my programs for yourself right now:
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“HOW To Get CLOSE To A Woman FAST”
 
Hey Everyone,
 
I don’t really “game” girls, my style is different than
most of what seems to be taught on the Internet.

I use tools that are much more effective and tend to “work
better” on women with high self-esteem.
 
It’s called being honest and upfront.

Now, the PROBLEM with honesty is that you can actually hurt,
or SCARE people with it.

When I see a beautiful woman walking down the street,
sometimes the TRUTH is that I’d like to tear off her
clothes and make passionate love to her for weeks on end.
 
Do you think it would be wise for me to just walk up and SAY
THAT TO HER???

Um, no.

She could actually have me ARRESTED for saying something
like that.

But DAMMIT! She looks so FINE!

And I certainly don’t want to LIE to her.

Now, as I mentioned above, the PROBLEM with honesty is that
it often scares and offends people, and I’m definitely not
saying that we should all go out and scare the hell out of
women by blatantly telling them that we’d like to sleep
with them (Even if we DO).

For me, the solution is to CUSHION the honesty.
 
It’s important to have the COURAGE to express our desires,
but if that courage is not balanced with CONSIDERATION for
the woman’s feelings, then that’s pretty immature, not to
mention DANGEROUS.
 
It’s called sexual harassment, or sexual imposition.

Definitely not cool.

I suggest being POLITE.

CUSHION your honesty.

First, you want to open her with a little “too much”
politeness.

Don’t confuse politeness with supplication. When I’m “a
little too polite”, the energy behind it is NOT one of
actually being afraid of someone’s reaction. Instead, the
energy behind my politeness is one of chivalry.

chiv-al-ry (shvl-r) Pronunciation Key  
n. pl. chiv-al-ries

1.The medieval system, principles, and customs of
knighthood.
 
2.a.The qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery,
courtesy, honor, and gallantry toward women. b.A
manifestation of any of these qualities.

Being polite and chivalrous will not only open her up and
make her much more receptive, but it can actually get HER
chasing YOU.

For example, let’s say I want to tell a woman who’s a
complete stranger that I’d like to sleep with her, but in
such a way that she will feel comfortable and not get
offended:
 
Stephane: “Excuse me, I really don’t want to impose, but
I’d like to ask you a question if that’s okay.”

Woman: “Okay”

Stephane: “If you want to tell me to go away, then just
tell me to go away and I will. I’m serious about that. Tell
me to buzz off if this offends you in any way.”
 
Woman: (Usually they giggle when you say this) “Haha! No,
it’s okay.”

Stephane: “Because the last thing I want to do is make you
feel uncomfortable. That’s not my intention at all.”
 
Woman: “It’s alright. Go for it, I’ll be okay.”
 
At THIS point, I simply move in CLOSE to her, and get to
know her.

I’ve pre-empted rejection - very few women will blow
someone off if he’s polite and chivalrous like this.
 
And guess what?

And for the rest of the interaction, I’ll KEEP IT UP. I’ll
keep getting to know her, and I’ll keep checking to make
absolutely sure that she is not uncomfortable before asking
her anything that would be considered “too personal”.

By being “a little too polite” I can get women to talk
about ANYTHING - age, sexual orientation, breast size,
income… it doesn’t matter.
 
I call this “Gentleman’s Game”.

Usually, WITHIN MINUTES, I’ll have “green light” to take
her number, or go have a coffee with her, or even kiss her.
 
When you communicate in this way with women, they truly
appreciate it. Using this simple technique will allow you to
get extremely close to women in minutes.
 
Seriously guys, it’s one of the most powerful
“escalation” tools I know of.

By saying things like, “Hey, I want to ask you something,
but if this offends you, just give me the finger and I’m
out of here”. I get full permission to ask any “risque”
questions I want!

As soon as she assures me, “Yeah, it’s cool, you can ask
me and I won’t get offended”, she has sort of given me
permission to take the interaction to the next level.

I use this for all kinds of things, even getting her to come
for a coffee or whatever. Any time I want to escalate the
pickup to the next level, I pepper this stuff in and it
works like a charm.

Try it, you’ll see.

Many Blessings,

Stephane
http://www.ideagasms.net/
 
 
PS - AGAIN - If you want to start getting a ROCK-SOLID
education in how to turn your hit-and-miss success with
women into consistent, repeatable, HEART-CENTERED success on
EVERY LEVEL of the game, go here and take a look at ALL my
programs for yourself right now:
http://www.ideagasms.net/ideagasms-products/

Dear Stephane,

Thanks for giving your gift to all of us lost boys. Just love it!

I’m just wondering why a highly aware being such as Stephane eats meat. Sorry dude, but compassion includes animals too. Right? 2 million chickens in New york per day. What’s your perspective on this?

Thanks again,
B.

>>>MY MEAT-EATING COMMENTS:

Excuse me while I wipe the saliva from my mouth… your question makes me hungry.

A cow’s greatest joy is to give itself to us.

And, all those cows and chickens are alive thanks to us meat-eaters; they have the chance (opportunity) to incarnate, as well as the honor of serving us.

Lettuce and potatoes are also dying, in service to us. All of life serves higher life. Such is the way of life on earth.

(Note: I’m aware of the greedy farmers who mistreat animals, so when I eat meat I make sure it is “free range” chickens, and the like.)

Also note that there is no such thing as “death”, which is merely a mental construct. “Death” is a linear concept, dependent on time and location. As such, it is decidedly not “real”.

Life cannot “die” (cease to exist)… life merely changes form.

As Wayne Dyer said, “You are not a human being having a spiritual experience, you are a spiritual being having a human experience”.

I am not a materialist, I am not an atheist, and I am not skeptical.

I no longer identify with the linear world of form (material, physical) but rather, with the non-linear (context, essence, Divinity).

As such, I no longer am afraid of death (Ok, well I’m still working on it) and do not think in terms of “I killed the chicken”.

I am the Silent Witness (Consciousness itself) observing a piece of meat called “Stephane” eating another piece of meat called “cow”. When such activities are done in Love, one can begin to see the beauty in hamburgers.

Meat is not “murder”, meat is merely energy that is in service to life itself. And so are carrots and peas.

Thanks for your question.

Blessings,
Stephane

PS - For transcending the linear, and identifying with the non-linear (”inner game on steroids”) click here:
http://www.ideagasms.net/chakra-centers-heal-cd/

—–

UPDATE:

There have been a lot of comments, thanks everyone. I find it interesting how “food/health beliefs” are somewhat like a religion these days - people tend to get VERY emotional during such discussions. I don’t necessarily mean You Guys, I just mean in general.

I wanted to comment on one of the most popular comments about this post, namely, “How can you say that a cow is able to feel JOY, when the cow resists it’s own death?”

I see the world in terms of linearity and non-linearity (as per quantum mechanics, religion/spirituality, consciousness research, etc.). The cow or pig is both linear (physical) and non-linear (’spiritual’). When I comment on a cow’s ‘greatest joy’, I am commenting on the spirit (non-linear aspect also termed ‘consciousness’) of the animal.

Despite linear appearances (e.g., a cow feeling fear, due to survival instincts), as well as the fact that “death” is merely a mentally constructed linear concept, and thus decidedly not real (e.g., dependent on time and location), my statements regarding the animal’s ‘joy’ are coming from my heart chakra (non-linear discernment, as well as unconditional love and compassion).

Logically, since all of life on earth serves higher life forms (Reality), on a spiritual level, the presemption of Joy seems rather obvious. As the Great Avatars and spiritual mystics have noted, all pain comes from resisting Reality, and fear is illusion based on ignorance. Thus, the cow’s pain (resistance) and fear (illusion) do not equal “truth”, nor does it denote “proof” that the cow does not experience spiritual Joy.

Someone also commented, rather slyly, “What if someone kills and eats YOU, Stephane?” and that’s cute, but they are overlooking the statements about all of life serving higher life. Humans eating humans doesn’t fit that paradigm of Reality. (Although, if someone chooses to kill the body labeled “Stephane”, and it’s my karma to be killed, I graciously accept it, despite my linear survival instincts.)

With all of this said, I am unable to prove that a cow is in Joy (on a spiritual level) when I eat it. Currently, quantum mechanics, etc. are over my head, but it has been said that if the wise trust the wiser their lives can be enhanced.

Also note that none of you are able to prove that animals are spiritually unable to experience Joy in the context of serving higher life (”eating”).

Now, on one level, we’re actually talking about faith versus skepticism/doubt/agnosticism/atheism. There is an awareness in human beings that the mind/ego is naive, vulnerable, and very prone to error. Thus, we often assume that we need to protect ourselves using various degrees and expressions of skepticism and doubt. (Paradoxically, skeptics are not skeptical of their skepticism, and doubters are not doubting their own doubt. This reminds me of Richard Bandler’s useful therapeutic question, “Are you sure enough to be unsure?”

Of course, quantum mechanics, as well as the Heisenberg Uncertainty Principle have proven the existence of ‘God’ (God is merely a primitive term for Consciousness), therefore skepticism and doubt do not represent valid viewpoints, but rather, ignorant/arrogant positionalities that have been disproved by Socrates and Plato centuries ago. God, Spirit, Divinity, Allah, Krishna, and so on all mean the same thing: Consciousness.

(Currently, approximately 92% of Americans say they believe in God, although the majority of them still naively presume that God is a human-like entity and actually live in fear/dread/anxiety because they have not yet learned that God really just means Consciousness, and as such, God is decidedly not prone to egoic (hate, anger, vengefulness, vindictiveness, jealousy, etc.) qualities. Since most people are unfamiliar with the reality of God as Immanent Consciousness, even a simple conversation about Spiritual Joy becomes impossible with the majority of the population, who do not at this time qualify to have an opinion on such matters.)

As noted by Charles Eisenstein (in his research into skepticism), there is a motivation of hidden, spiteful, mean-spirited attitudes which are often revealed to be “cynical, arrogant, dogmatic, smug, and emotional, as represented by professional ‘debunkers’.”

If we look at many of the comments regarding my original post about an animal feeling spiritual Joy (because it serves higher life), we see some of these emotionalities in the form of sarcasm, which is an egotistical passive-agressive phenomena with less-than-honorable intentions (in most cases the intent of sarcasm is to imply that someone is stupid).

Since skepticism believes that true reality is unknowable, it becomes rather obvious that skepticism itself is also subject to it’s own criteria. Skepticism provides it’s own rope by which it hangs itself with. Negating a negative does not create a positive

A COW FEELS SPIRITUAL JOY WHEN I EAT IT. I say this because all of life serves higher life, thus on a spiritual level it cannot be any other way.

If anyone can disprove this, I’m listening.

Also of interest, note that [many, but certainly not all] vegetarians and vegans seem to hate and resent (as opposed to having unconditional love and compassion for) those who eat meat. They also seem to have a vested interest in being ‘right’ (e.g., cognitive dissonance as well as narcissism), and often argue (very emotionally I might add) with meat-eaters about morality, often confusing morality with situational ethics.

Vegans and vegetarians often seem to have more love for animals than they have for their fellow human beings, including themselves. This isn’t to say that vegans and vegetarians are ‘wrong’ by any means, in fact, I’ve read some very interesting research into certain bloodtypes having difficulty processing meat, and I often wonder if veganism and vegetarianism might be evidence that the human animal is evolving, perhaps?

Thanks again everyone, great discussion.

Stephane

Hey Guys,

In my mind, I would enjoy torturing/punishing someone. Only if they were some kind of person who deserved it, like a bully or some kind of control freak.

I had one guy piss me off once.. this was 2 years ago, and I would often think some VERY dark thoughts.

The way this effects me now is, I won’t let things go when someone “wrongs” me, I get consumed by revenge. and it fustrates me becuase I know I would never actually do anything. I just feel like you guys are the only people I can share this with, if anyone can shed any light on this, It would be appreciated.

Thanks
Forum Poster

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is quite normal… you get picked on enough, you give your power away enough, people vamp you to tears … and then, REVENGE consciousness breeds inside like brain-cancer.

Note that all anger is really just self-anger on a deeper level. The problems have never been “out there”, they have been “in here” all along.

Then, on an even deeper, spiritual level, the anger you have is directed at God.

“How could you let this happen to me!!”

You are pretending to be God’s “victim”, this is what ego does. So deep down, now you want to do God’s job and dish out Karma on His behalf.

Deep down inside, there is a knowingness, a solution … and it sounds something like this:

“I own my own strength”

“I am truly loved (by God)”

“I accept responsibility for creating my own reality”

(Those are some of the Chakra Frames.)

Bing bam boom, add some 5D Compassion & Primal Screams to the mix, surrender the pleasurable “victim and revenge juice” and you’re probably golden.

Let me know if you need more input.

Stephane

PS - You can subscribe to my newsletter and get my entire 5D Compassion Formula eBook here:
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PPS - The frames ALONE that come with each Chakra in The Seven Chakras Program are so powerful because they are the opposite of what your limiting fear, anger and sadness believes. By pinpointing each and every limitation and reversing it, you won’t believe how blissful you will soon be feeling.

http://www.ideagasms.net/chakra-centers-heal-cd/

Hello Stephane,

I have a comment and a question. First the comment, I just wanted to agree with you. Trying to train my boyfriend (especially one who’s younger than me) is DEFINITELY a turnoff. I learned that the hard way, and now he and I are just friends. But I think the training might’ve worked a little :-]

Anyway, my question is: Is it a bad idea for me to get a girlfriend, and then invite a guy into our relationship? (I’m a chick).

I figured the answer would probably be yes, since I would kind of be playing a yang role, but supposing he jumped in comfortably and immediately assumed the leadship/yang role? Arghhh, I know that doesn’t sound like a lot of guys these days, but you never know.

Thanks for reading.

Peace love & soul,
Samantha

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Samantha…

First, let me just say this:

The world needs more cool, fun, adventurous girls like you.

Now, if you pick up a girl and make her your girlfriend, and then the two of you set out to find a cool guy who can handle himself in this context…

I have no idea how this dynamic would work, I’ve never seen it done before (with the exception of the Barbi.e Twins, perhaps?).

So let’s find out, shall we?

Go pick up cool, new girlfriend, and why not send us your JPEG’s, we can even send them out to my forum guys and BGTP students. I have a few guys in mind that might be a good match for you.

(I’m actually serious.)

Life is supposed to be outrageously fun and adventurous, so let’s play.

And you know what else?

I’m considering opening up a new section, an online “ideaGasms” Dating, Relationship, and Circle finder section…

Hmmm…..

Thanks for your email.

Sincerely,
Stephane

PS - I’m also sending out my prayers for the Olsen Twins to finally come to their senses, and ask me out on a date.

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