Hey guys, here’s a forum post I though you’d all enjoy.

Girl 3 - LTR. We had an AWESOME relationship that was all over the map. “Shy”, clingy, very emotional, bisexual, and VERY VERY HORNY. She keeps texting me and on MSN asking me what I’m up to, things she’s gotten like DVD’s or games. Gets upset when I tell her I’m going to a restaurant and says things like, “That’s my favourite place, you know that. I want to go, why won’t you take me.” Any attempts to get her to come out and she shys away.

This isn’t a “guarantee” or anything, so proceed at your own risk, but in my experience, a LOT of girls that are like this just want to be “FORCED” and yelled at.

Some guys HATE it when I talk like this, but again, it’s not your behavior - in this case, it’s *not* VOLUME OF VOICE that is good or bad… let’s not judge vocal volume here… volume is neutral. It’s the intention BEHIND your behavior… if you’re standing in compassion, it’s all good.

When a girl says stuff like “That’s my fav place, why don’t you invite me?” and then she actually SHYS AWAY when I do invite her?

I know what that means!

“GET YOUR COAT ON, QUIT BEIN A PAIN IN THE ASS, AND MEET ME THERE AT 8pm!” (click!)

It’s just her programming.

“Judgment is Mine”, sayeth the Lord.

I try to abide by that, and not judge a girl for needing, or wanting, verbal spanks. In fact, it’s kind of annoying, but also kind of cute, and DEFINITELY gets the polarity plumbing going. These type of girls secretly LOVE IT, they love that i “get it” and calmly, authoritatively, tell them exactly what I want them to do. Some girls even advertise themselves on the internet as SLAVES TO BE *OWNED* because they want to feel this way so much. They want some schmuck to tie them down and yell at ‘em all day… a bit too hardcore for my taste though

Hey - I *prefer* girls who aren’t programmed like this, but it’s not a total deal breaker, not to me it isn’t.

She’s opened up some fears to me though, like she’s afraid of being alone, she’s been dating other guys and they all use her and her heart keeps getting broken.

And, she LIKES IT.

Her ego likes this, ego looooooves victimhood and broken-hearted’ness.

So, with compassion and teasing energy in my voice, and a twinkle in my eye, I’ll say things like this to those girls –> “Oh poor you, admit it, you’re creating this, you choose these guys and you know they’ll do this to you, it’s because you secretly love the drama, the highs and lows, the emotional sex and breakup sex, especially since you’re a woman, you love the challenge, the ego tripping, you love going ‘who the fuck are YOU to treat ME like that, don’t you realize how awesome I am?!?’ and you love the juice, especially as a woman, you know I’m right, hahaha that’s why you’re giggling, hey I’m not judging you, but admit it, you LOVE the drama, and you love guys who actually make you FEEL EMOTIONS intensely in your body, this is how female plumbing gets wet, you bitch!”

She’s giggling, and shocked, so I end with with, “GOD! Women are so stubborn and BEAUTIFUL! Thank you God for giving me these magical creatures!”

She’s laughing hysterically, and then it’s “Come over, NOW, I want to see you” and…………

Bing, bang, boom… she’s mine if I so choose… I’m the ONLY guy who understands her - predictably the only guy who “gets it”. Know thy woman better than she knows herself. It’s the surest way to get laid, for those of you that are as hungry as I used to be.

Haha, IRONICALLY, the more you know women, the more compassion and wisdom you have, and you end up not really wanting to fuck them anymore, because you feel sorry for them, and their inherent, child-like ignorance becomes a turn-off, you feel OVERWHELMED by the amount of training they’ll need to catch up to your level of consciousness.

DOH!

If I had to sum up what most women are like, if i was to stop right now and ‘channel’ the inner psyche of 99% of all women on this planet, it would sound like this:

“BUT I’M SCAAAARED!”

(Not just women, but men too. Fear is the one thing that most people almost *never* transcend. Secretly, we ENJOY it.)

This was a girl I attempted threesomes with, she was into it until we actually started talking to girls and almost closing the deal then she would freak out and back out of it. No amount of explaining to her that we’re sharing TOGETHER would get past her fears of her losing me to another woman.

Yeah, this is probably the MOST common fear, which is the fear of losing the guy to a hotter chick.

This, of course, stems from the old “I am not enough” issues of feeling inadequate, and the female tribal programming alpha sperm-war stuff.

I used to wait for girls to calm down first, because once the fear of loss kicks in, no amount of logic will get through, too much emotion stands in the way of you, her, and reasonable thinking.

Later on when she’s calm, I’ll go, “You know, it’s amazing how ignorant the human ego is. Just try to imagine - you win the lotto. One million bucks cash. Then, you win the lotto again - this time, TWO million bucks in cash.

Now, do you throw away the first million dollars, simply because you won the lotto again?

No! Of course not! So how dumb can you be, to think I would throw away a perfectly good girlfriend who brings me MORE GIRLS?”

I say this in a way that’s extremely funny, with good timing and comic delivery.

Then comes the ol’ goose and golden eggs sory…

“There was a farmer who had this amazing goose who could actually lay GOLDEN EGGS for him.

Every single morning, without fail, there would be ONE GOLDEN EGG waiting for him.

But soon enough, the farmer started to get greedy, and impatient, and started yelling at the goose, “I want more eggs! I WANT MORE EGGS!” …and then he got so impatient that he actually KILLED the goose.

Then he started crying because he realized that the greed had blinded him, and now he would have no more golden eggs!

You’re the goose, baby! (Chris Rock voice) Now go and get me some golden eggs!

“BABY… Do you realize the level of JOB SECURITY you would have for bringing home girls?! Don’t you know what TENURE means??

Are you blind? Would you even want to BE with the stupid bastard who actually throws you away for bringing home a HOTTER CHICK?

*Why* would you want someone who’s that stupid?!

Any chick with half-a-brain will be reframed and reassured after that, trust me.

After all…

It’s THE TRUTH.

Another truth is that eventually, once they get over jealousy programming and get a girlfriend or two who transcends jealousy also, they will be happier and more fulfilled in this kind of relationship, TENFOLD.

I know because I’m currently living it.

At first though, you can’t help but to feel like a complete asshole for pushing the envelope like this, but deep down I always knew this was the highest level of relationship possible in the human domain, and that intense faith in my beliefs kept me going through those dark nights when the girl is crying and afraid to lose you and going through intense jealousy pangs and basically, ego-death.

But today? Just take one look into Ghita eyes, it’s enough to make a grown man cry… she is so peaceful and beautiful and happier than any girl ever witnessed thus far on planet Earth. And Greta, she was easy, and almost 100% “ready” so she jumped right into the Circle with ease and the eagerness of a child on Christmas morning. “Training” her was a walk in the park compared to most girls.
Blessings all around,
Stephane