The main problem that people have when it comes to getting their love life together is that they GIVE AWAY THEIR POWER.

Most people give away their power to a certain extent, and this article contains the blueprint that you’ll need to become aware of WHOM you’re giving your power away to and HOW you’re giving it away.

Awareness is the key, because until you become aware of something, you are on auto-pilot.

So what is an Energy Vampire?

Well, they don’t usually suck your blood; what they do is they suck your ENERGY.

Chances are high that your life is filled with these types of people.

My guess is that you’ll see your parents in these descriptions; you’ll see some of your friends, lovers, and perhaps even yourself.

Actually, MOST humans are “energy vamps”, it’s just a matter of degree. And with all “personal problems”, AWARENESS is the only cure.

When dealing with an Energy Vampire, you can feel it instantly.

You will get a feeling in the Solar-Plexus Chakra (in the “upper-belly” region), which is linked to our emotional body and central nervous system.

(Otherwise known as a “gut feeling” or an intuition.)

There are 5 main types of Energy Vampires that I am presently aware of -

- The POOR ME
- The Aloof
- The Interrogator
- The Intimidator
- The Boaster and Bragger

These people usually leave us feeling tired; they drain our energy and self-esteem. And worse, we cannot get them out of our heads afterwards! We tend to re-play the conversation in our head, telling ourselves that we should have said “this” or “that” instead…

Energy Vampire #1 - The “POOR ME”

These people drain your energy by complaining, and sometimes implying that you are somehow responsible for their troubles.

When in the presence of this person, you will find yourself feeling guilty, even though deep down you know that their life challenges aren’t your fault. You’ll feel as though you need to defend against the idea that you’re not giving or doing enough for this person.

Many people use their misfortunes in life to gain sympathy. They want to talk about the suffering they’ve endured, or about the mistreatment of their parents, or about their illness, or some other deprivation or failure.

These people see the world as UNFAIR, and avoid taking responsibility. And, they want YOU to hear all about it! They focus on negative energy in order to STEAL energy (attention, sympathy, pity, etc.).

When something traumatic happens, it’s okay to obtain support. With time, you heal and learn the lessons that are involved (assuming that you can take responsibility).

But when people use their life’s suffering as a way to gain pity and attention (YOUR energy), you need to learn how to shield from that.

When dealing with a “poor me”, the best way to help them is to see if they can help themselves. Are they willing to look at the role that THEY have played in creating their own reality?

Can they take response-ability?

If they can’t handle the truth, if they are too stuck in their heads to view themselves objectively and without getting defensive, I have learned to simply tell them that I am BUSY.

Because the truth is that we ARE too busy to have our energy drained by people with the victim mentality.

Energy Vampire #2 - The “Aloof”

These people act emotionally distant, usually in response to having had overbearing or controlling parents.

They are withdrawn, and see the world as overwhelming and threatening.

They are often distrustful and suspicious of other’s motives, and people describe them as being “shy” or even “snobby”.

Someone who is aloof is PRETENDING that they don’t care what others think. It is a FAKE social mask, designed to give them the “upper hand”.

On a more global scale, they are the “innocent” or apathetic bystanders who take little or no responsibility in shaping our world.

You know you’re in the presence of an Aloof person when you find yourself doing all the talking, and asking question after question, trying to get them to come out of their shell.

They will contribute very little to the conversation…

This is exactly where they want you, because it gives them a feeling of control. This is how they get attention, validation, and your energy.

You’ll probably feel inadequate or “less than”, as if something is inherently wrong with you. Again, you’ll feel discomfort in the Solar-Plexus Chakra (upper belly).

If you complain, they will often just give you the SILENT TREATMENT.

MOST of today’s so-called “attractive women” are aloof, and knowing how to spot them, and training them to open up, is crucial.

A lot of guys ask me, “Where do you draw the line between working on your “game” versus just walking away from somebody who is no good for you? How do you know for certain that it wasn’t your “game” (or lack thereof)?”

Most of the time when they ask me this, I know that they’re dealing with a woman who is quite aloof.

Personally, I draw the line when a woman makes me feel insignificant or unworthy of her time.

Do you have high self-esteem?

Good!

You may now say the words, “It’s not ME, it’s HER.”

Energy Vampire #3 - The “Interrogator”

Interrogators used to be my personal “pet peeve” when I didn’t know how to handle them.

It is because they ask questions that aren’t sincere - they really DO NOT want to hear your views, but instead, they use questions to BREAK DOWN your views and try to make you doubt yourself.

Interrogators are (initially) difficult to detect, because they are perfectionists; These people see the life as a competitive GAME and they are quite masterful when it comes to manipulating others.

Their philosophy? “Life is just a game - You either play by the rules, or you’re a loser.” They see the world as Win/Lose instead of Win/Win.

It’s been said that the greatest illusion of “Satan” lied in his ability to make people believe he didn’t exist.

That’s a great metaphor for explaining what Interrogators do to people, because when you spot an Interrogator and try to gently point out what he or she is doing, they too will pretend that they are innocent and that this heavily ingrained and entirely OBVIOUS pattern of behavior does not exist.

Then they will turn around and casually remark that there is something wrong with YOU. They’ll go, “Why would you say that? Why are you so PARANOID, huh?” (Notice they are not really asking a question, but rather, making a statement about you.)

Or they will accuse you of being “too sensitive”… as if *sensitivity* was a bad thing!

Interrogators undermine other people’s reality, usually by making insincere comments (such as a “neg” or subtle put-down) or by asking lots of rhetorical questions, and trying to find the weak points in what people are saying and doing.

MANY of the top “seduction community guru’s” are simply INTERROGATORS. This is why they “play the game” and have all sorts of complicated “chess moves” and strategies for interacting with women. They have a HIDDEN AGENDA.

(There is nothing wrong with having “game” insofar as you aren’t actively lying to people IMO.)

Crooked sales people, lawyers, politicians, and other business criminals are often Interrogators as well. They are very clever people, but “clever” doesn’t impress me. SINCERITY does; now THAT takes real courage and Heart.

Interestingly, they probably had ALOOF PARENTS. Aloof parents often “create” interrogator children. It’s the child’s way of getting the parent to pay attention to them.

Interrogators also offer a lot of “unsolicited advice”. They want to tell you what you “should” and “shouldn’t” do, be, think, and feel, even though you didn’t ask for any advice. So they can be quite arrogant.

They ask a lot of rhetorical questions, and often play “Devil’s advocate”. But, the questions they ask are not questions at all! It is their attempt to break down your reality in the form of negative presuppositions about you.

Do you know what a “pointed question” is? Here is an example -

“Why would you do/say/think/be/choose that?!”

That’s NOT an actual question. It is a comment about your inferiority.

If they were honest people, they would say, “Why would you do/say/think/be/choose that YOU STUPID IDIOT?!”

Again, you will know when you’re being interrogated when you get that uncomfortable feeling at the midline (Solar-Plexus Chakra).

Again - you will sense that they are asking you questions, but NOT out of a sincere desire to understand your point of view, but out of a desire to tear down your reality to suit their needs.

“Why would you say that?!”

“Why would you take that class in college?!”

“What’s the matter with you?!”

Note that those aren’t “questions” at all. If you look closer, they are coming right out and telling you that you’re STUPID.

You see, they aren’t interested in other people’s wisdom, although they’re good at ACTING as though they are!

You’ll often hear them say, “I’m just trying to help you.” But helping you is usually the last thing on their minds. They are attempting to dominate and control you, but DISGUISING it as “help.”

They do this out of a need to feel important, superior, and stronger because deep down, they’re really afraid that they are inferior. That’s what “machismo” really is - it is fear-based, fake confidence.

They want to be seen as “alpha”, or ABOVE other people.

Psychiatrists label them with “Narcissistic Personality Disorder” and joke among themselves that there are none because they never come to therapy.

“Higher Value” doesn’t exist, except on a material level. We all have the same “value”, we’re all equals - the only difference between us is what we do with the 24 hours that “Creator” gives us. Interrogators do not understand what the word Honor means because they’re identified purely with Ego.

Energy Vampire #4 - The “Intimidator”

While Interrogators see life as a GAME, INTIMIDATORS see life as a WAR. As such, Intimidators are easy to spot.

These are the macho jerks, the control freaks, the bullies, the paranoids, the authoritarians, the “alpha males”, the rage-aholics - you name it.

The reason they act this way, just like with all of the energy vampire types, is out of FEAR. They are afraid that others are trying to take their power away from them and that they won’t be loved or get what they want. Very often they are still playing out an old unresolved childhood sexual abuse drama.

(ALL abuse is sexual abuse, simply because we *are* sexual beings. If your mother held you in her arms and secretly wished that you had not been born, THAT is sexual abuse.)

They intimidate others into giving them money, love, attention, etc. by being judgmental, smart-alecky, cocky, sarcastic, aggressive, dominant, loud, angry, violent, self-centered, etc.

When in the presence of other Intimidators, the interaction can often escalate to arguments and violence.

An interesting thing happens with Intimidators. When they notice that they aren’t able to control or bully you into submission, they will often SWITCH into a “Poor Me”. Instead of using threats, they might try to use guilt instead.

Poor Me’s will also “switch” from time to time and become aggressive when they are not getting the pity they are craving.

Perhaps you can remember a time when your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend went from crying and begging to RAGE and YELLING.

As such, an Aloof will often turn into an Interrogator, and an Interrogator will often turn into an Aloof when they realize they can’t control you.

Poor Me’s and Intimidators usually “evolve” into Aloof’s and Interrogators when you think about it. As they become more educated and clever, they leave behind the old “Jerry Springer Show” mentality and start manipulating people in more clever, suave, and subtle ways.

Energy Vampire #5 - The Boaster and Bragger

“Look at how cool, clever, and lovable I am!” is the unspoken message that they want you to hear, as they go on and on and on about their past accomplishments. More often than not, they are LYING, or at least exaggerating.

Boasters and Braggers have deep-seated abandonment issues manifesting itself as an addiction to approval and praise.

You will find that they usually had a mother or father who left them when they were very young. If the parents didn’t actually physically leave them, they most certainly weren’t very loving and emotionally available.

By the way, in my opinion THIS is what the seduction community really means when they teach their students to have a “routine-based game”. They encourage men to tell “canned stories”. They want you to lie, exaggerate,
and brag about your accomplishments so you can demonstrate your supposed “higher value”.

Listen to the language ^^

And while there is nothing wrong with making yourself more interesting by telling entertaining stories and jokes, I highly recommend that you use your *OWN* stories and jokes. There is no need to lie.

In fact, if you want to repel women and send them running, start bragging.

How To Handle An Energy Vampire:

The same way we handle ALL of our relationships!

“Unconditional Love MINUS Putting Up With Crap = HAPPY!”

I personally advocate a Zero-Tolerance Approach to Dating and Relationships. But, since most humans fall into one or more of the above categories, I designed a tell-it-like-it-is relationship program that I call “The Girlfriend Training Program”.

> You can check it out right here -
http://www.ideagasms.net/girlfriend-training-program/

In it, I show guys how to be less of a ’sensitive new age doormat’ and more of a ‘pack leader’ with their women.

In the old days, we mostly saw relationships consisting of ‘the macho jerk and the submissive housewife’. And, as our consciousness increased, the feminist movement happened, which left most couples treating each other more like ‘friends who argue a lot (instead of having sex)’.

The GTP is for those of you who are ready to transcend the old ‘energy vamping’ relationship stages and enter the Conscious, Compassionate, *Polarity* Stages.

As usual, before deciding to *ever* confront anyone under any circumstances, I recommend letting go of Anger (which is an unconscious state) and replacing it with Compassion (which is a conscious, fully-awakened state of being).

If you have “The Girlfriend Training Program”, you better be using the 5D Compassion Formula BEFORE ever confronting or “training” someone… I’ve been doing a lot of Phone Coaching recently, and I am finding out that some of you never bothered to use it - lazy fools, you know who you are

Reading is NOT enough - *EXPERIENCE* is the only way to gain true wisdom.

> Side Note: If anyone is interested in phone coaching, I have started doing phone consultations again, this time at a discounted rate and only for those of you that own both the Seven Chakras Program AND The Girlfriend Training Program. If you are interested, go here to find out more -

http://www.ideagasms.net/phone-consultations-with-stephane/

Again, with all of the above Energy Vampires, it is perfectly okay to tell them that you are BUSY. Because you ARE too busy to listen to garbage.

No need to JUDGE them, just send them lots of LOVE! More than anything, Energy Vampires need love.

And by “love” I don’t mean you should allow yourself to be manipulated by them. But judging them doesn’t help anyone either - perhaps if they had more people who loved them in the first place, they wouldn’t be acting the way they are.

Thanks for reading.

Namaste,
Stephane
www.ideagasms.net

PS - This article was inspired by “The Celestine Prophecy”
by James Redfield.