I spend a lot of my spare time thinking about iG’ers, specifically why am I so disgustingly successful with girls, so easily and naturally, and why is every other guy on this planet seeming to be completely “in the dark” without me?

I swear, only about 1% of guys are decent with women. I do mean JUST DECENT, not even “good” or “great”. It’s really strange how guys manage to consistently “not get” girls. What is really baffling is that, in truth, it’s so EASY… Just Love Women is the highest truth you will ever hear about this subject. Once you hit this level, this state, looking back you guys won’t believe that you ever “failed” in the past. It’s amazing how these little insecurity illusions get in our way so consistently. And how amazing is it that women are equipped with incredible insecurity detectors that are about 50 times better than most men will ever realize?

I’ve spent the last twenty years trying to break this down, both scientifically and spiritually, especially the last three years with iG and this “teaching/sharing” role I’ve decided to take on.

Especially the last three weeks, I’ve been with this hot Polish chick, just the two of us… my “job” simply being to get her completely and utterly devoted and in love. And as usual, there were a couple little challenges, but in the end it was easier than breathing.

I’d say that being HUMBLE is probably the very first thing to get handled. I don’t mean that fake-humble crap people are into, I mean just really thanking God for every little thing that is good in your life. The knowledge that humans are literally incapable of love, humor, intimacy, joy, happiness, or success in any endeavor without the assistance of DIVINITY or “light”, which is almost like the complete opposite of ego.

Even in sports, for example I play a lot of 9-ball billiards, and I’m one of the best in the country. But I won’t allow myself to feel good that “I” made a decent shot. No, in truth, this particular body access a certain frequency of consciousness typically labeled with the word “excellence”. And it is a GIFT.

Good with girls? Same thing. It’s a gift. I would lose the gift if I lost the gift of being HUMBLE about it as well. Obviously i sound arrogant when i post about girls, Circles, and the like, because to be truly humble I shouldn’t even talk about it. But, I’m choosing to teach it, so who can blame the poor unsuspecting girl who finds “ideaGasms” website and starts reading my blog? Of course I sound like the most arrogant douchebag alive because I’m talking about “how to get ‘bisexual-only’ girls” in an extremely open way. I would probably “jump to conclusions” about me too.

So being very humble is probably number one. That, and sense of humor. Oh my God is humor ever important.

Greta has a really well-developed sense of humor. She’s not that funny herself, but she is a great AUDIENCE. Actually she’s starting to get really funny, I’m rubbing off on her. Humor has a structure, that’s all. She laughs fucking hard at my jokes, stories, antics… I love “open” girls like this. You feel like a rock star in their presence, and it tends to bring the best out of you.

I became somewhat addicted to making her laugh, simply because it brings so much Joy into our lives.

And, I’m noticing, now more than ever, just how retarded most people are in the humor and laughter department. Very few people can, and ever do, make me laugh.

So, we were recently analyzing my humor structures, and most of the time it boils down to my just noticing what my ego thinks (paranoia, jealousy, anger… you know that ego of yours, it’s the same one we all share collectively) and then openly voicing those thoughts in an exaggerated manner.

So we sit there making fun of our ego’s all day, and it’s extremely “healing” and enjoyable.

For example…

Greta is “big boned”. Not at all fat, but not the skinny model leggy type of chicks that are the most popular among white men. She’s got the big fabulous natural firm tits, and the ass that doesn’t quit. BIG ASS, but really “shapely”. Big tits, blong hair, tight jeans, cowgirl booties… You know what I’m talking about. Shhhwing!

Of course, she grew up feeling self-conscious, and secretly wishing she was more like her sister, who more closely fits the model profile (nice ‘n’ skinny).

So like, if I’m with Ghita and cannot see where Greta is in the store, I’ll shout, “Ghita… where’s the fat one?”

Making fun of ego… Mine or hers.

If a girl is very insecure about something, she better not let me notice what that is, because I’ll just keep calling her “fat” or whatever. I’ll suggest different “sausage and white protein diets” she can try… I’ll just keep harping on it, pretending I’m serious. It’s very cocky/funny, but specifically targeted for ego & insecurities.

Or some dude chats her up. The ego instantly goes into “sperm wars” jealousy. Then paranoia. Not that I’m paranoid, but if I was really stuck in low consciousness like a computer geek or something, I might feel paranoid “I’m NOT truly loved” and inadequacy thoughts would arise, so what I’ll do is encourage that type of egoic programming to express itself… So I’ll “get paranoid” and role play this a little bit.

Or if you’re in a Circle, you know the girls are just human and there will, at times, be jealousy. It takes a lot of spiritual devotion to transcend something as basic as jealousy, so patience on your part is definitely required. They’re just human. People are extremely sensitive, deep down.

Since I just spent three weeks in Costa Rica ALONE with Greta, I know that deep down, Ghita probably felt a little jealousy. Obviously after three years doing Circles together, she’s certainly not upset, and she trusts me immensely. But still, I know she at least wondered if we had a lot of sex and stuff like that.

So last night when we got to Montreal, Ghita was still feeling a little under-the-weather (cold, fever, sniffles,) and certainly not in the mood for a threesome, so I joked, “Hey, why don’t you lie down, and Greta and I can show you all of our new cool sex moves that we learned from fucking all day long is Costa Rica?”

Not that funny in text, probably, but this got some extremely hard laughs from all of us last night. I’m simply taking an insecurity or tension spot and exaggerating it to the fullest. It’s very healing, and it sure beats “talking about the issue” all night long in a logical, analytical fashion, like I know most of you guys are doing. But why talk about stuff when you can just laugh at it instead?

Humor is really EASY when you stop fighting the ego and just roll with it, and make fun of it all day long. Just take whatever insecurities that go through the head, and emphasize them, express them in a very humorous, exaggerated manner. That’s all humor is, it’s exaggeration.

George Carlin (my fav. comedian) helped a LOT over the years. I wanted his structure, so I played all his CD’s on repeat, nearly every day for about 1 1/2 years, even when I was sick of hearing him, I still listened. Because I knew it’d rub off. Carlin basically makes fun of the human ego, if you think about it. He’s an “ego channeler”, so to speak. It seems that the BEST humor has to do with expressing and exaggerating ego structures.

But, there so much more to it, it would seem. Because I see guys doing this already, yet they come across as lame and pathetic, and not actually funny. Either too cocky, too funny (lame), or the joke just dies on the operating table.

One has to start with a very solid inner-game base, otherwise they seem try-hard, and too dependent on getting a laugh to feel good about themselves. Like if the girl doesn’t laugh, they try harder and harder and just end up energy-vamping her.

Yeah, I’m usually making jokes all day, but it’s mainly to entertain myself.

I’ll think more about this, it’s a seriously important subject matter for those working to get good with women. Without real, uproarious laughter in the date/relationship/circle, there is no chance of any real success - NONE.

And, a woman is to be re-seduced every single day, all over again.

Humor is the way to true love.

I’m honored that so many people (!) actually read this crap.

Blessings,
Stephane