***QUESTION***

Steph,

I just got your Chakra program, and my question is about the chakra affirmations, especially the affirmation “I appreciate all of my unique qualities”, does it still apply? Can you explain what some of the Chakra frames mean?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The Chakras represent the various levels of human consciousness, and a framework for knowing what ‘level’ you’re on, and what to do to rise to the next level, and the next, etc.

Let’s run through most of the chakra frames, and see what comes of this.

Chakra one, red root. “I am, and world welcomes me”.

The ability to state “I AM” does not come from mind, which has no self-referral feedback loops (the ability to know it “exists” or not). So “I AM” is the voice of the soul, or spirit body. “The world welcomes me” is a statement that undoes guilt and shame, which are the lowest consciousness emotions. Guilt and shame wishes to hide and doesn’t feel welcome. Someone living in extremely low consciousness is still stuck in root chakra, which is not yet open/grounded. They live like cowards, and the next lesson up is “I live with courage”, and of course “I honor my body & take care of it”.

Once those “low-level lessons” are integrated, the kundalini energy (spiritual energy) then rises and begins to activate the next chakra, the sacral (orange) chakra.

>By the way, to see an image of the 7 Chakra locations click here -

http://www.ideagasms.net/images/what-are-chakras.jpg

On this level of consciousness, the human starts off feeling inadequate, and trying to control everything, not trusting in God/Universe, and so forth. The lessons they will eventually learn have to do with accepting that they are “enough” (sufficient), and trusting the flow of the river of life, trusting God/Universe, getting abundance handled, and so on.

Once they reach this level, once they succeed in opening sacral chakra, kundalini then rises to activate the solar-plexus chakra.

Arm.ed with courage (root chakra), feelings of trust, and adequacy (sacral), they will begin to live in the world of solar-plexus for a while. Most of today’s well-developed societies (such as America) lives in the solar-plexus.

The seduc.tion community lives here also, especially it’s gurus and leaders and master PUA’s. When I was in PUA-mode, I mainly worked (without knowing it consciously) on the affirmations “I own my own strength” (not letting girls control me) and on “I appreciate my unique qualities” (developing my personality, my game, my sense of humor, and routines which convey my unique qualities).

Note that most community teachings center around sacral chakra and solar-plexus. They do whatever they can to convince students that they are “enough” (”You don’t need money! You don’t have to be good-looking to get girls! I can get girls in spite of my ugly face, here’s how!!”)

Once they can help a student to be confident (I am enough) they will then attempt to teach him solar-plexus stuff, such as “passing her tests” (I own my own strength) and development of a personality that is attractive, cute, clever, funny, and so on.

The solar-plexus is concerned with outer success, attainment, etc. it is all about having worldly goals and achieving them. Money, getting laid, social status.

Once they master those two core lessons (Own strength, uniqueness appreciation) the kundalini then will rise into the next level up, Heart Chakra.

For me, it was a very intense “dark night of the soul” in which I found myself surrounded by all these girls, and all these students who admired my game, yet I still felt lonely. LONELY… while surrounded by external success. That night I felt like I was dying, but I was really just awakening.

So with the opening of my Heart Chakra, I spent a lot of time learning “I accept myself fully as I am” and “I am truly loved”. Being a PUA no longer satisfied me… I wanted to learn unconditional love, compassion, 100% complete and total relationship mastery, including my lifelong goal of having 2 or three girlfriends who live with me.

Now, to the average guy who just found the online seduction community and is learning basic confidence 101 “I am enough” lessons, “teachers” like myself are going to seem “out there”. For them, on their current level, unconditional love is far off, and they will say, “I just want to get LAID for once in my life!!”

When I started ideaGasms, I was very excited by compassion, unconditional love, etc. but I quickly found this to alienate the community. So, I had to spend a lot of time teaching things like the Q&A GTP section, on how specifically to “own your own strength”. I was teaching that old formula, “unconditional love minus taking crap from people = happy”, and how specifically to set proper boundaries, “take no crap from people”, and so on.

That attracted a lot of people, but then again, it also alienated all the nerdy virgin types who still had no confidence. They were not ready to learn how to “take no shit” from girls, because they couldn’t even APPROACH to begin with!

Faced with a decision to make, I opt.ed to stick with the higher levels, after all, those guys can always just go to the now-saturated-market called “seduction community” and they will look me up when they have finally begun to approach girls. I taught a few basic approaches, to help them out a little (”breaking the ice” in the Intro to iG Consciousness program, for example) but that stuff bores me to tears, so I stuck to what I do best, which is helping guys to bridge the gap from solar-plexus, and eventually, into heart consciousness.

I spent the last three years on my own heart, and on throat chakra. I found that, once the heart is open, and throat is open, it begins to feel as if one is on auto-pilot. There is much less “thinkingness”, much less desire to persuade, and communication comes easily, smoothly, even in front of groups.

And I found out that TRUE GAME is a throat chakra phenomenon, because, on this level of consciousness, one can just walk up to girls and “just know” EXACTLY what needs to be said.

But then, one doesn’t even want to say it, because there is a strong inner-knowingness that most of the girls one will talk to aren’t ready. They would benefit more from being picked up by the PUA who is still working on solar-plexus mastery, they would be a much better fit for each other. With an open heart and speaking a certain level of truth, this often intimidates girls, and they tend to either worship me, or hate and seek to destroy me.

A recent girlfriend that Ghita and Greta and myself had was a good example of that, I tried to help her open the heart before she was ready, so now we see her back in the tattoo parlours, and even working as a stripper, callgirl, etc. and this is entirely appropriate.

She’s still working on the “I am enough” lessons of the second Chakra, and by trying to take her too high too quickly, it was too soon. Since like goes to like, she gravitated back into a frequency that feels more familiar and comfortable for her.

And, it’s perfect. What I didn’t fully understand at the time we dated, is just how much “levels CAN NOT be skipped”. You date a girl in sacral chakra, while you’re just about done mastering throat chakra, this is going to scare her, and there will be a lot of pain in her. All she knows is “When I dated Steph and Circle, there was tons of pain in me”. You can’t grab a girl and bring her so high so quickly, she’s going to associate pain=Steph and then hate you for “causing” her pain.

A friend of mine shared a great analogy about this, when he said, “Stephane, you cannot make a plant grow too quickly, because you’ll just end up lifting it up, right out of the ground, with it’s roots dangling in the air as you hold it up.”

I have made this mistake a lot while growing up. But in the end, levels of consciousness, or “Chakras”, cannot be skipped. I have learned this lesson again, recently, with my family. I tried to reconnect with them, but since they are still working in sacral and solar-plexus levels of consciousness, I come in with a third-eye level of consciousness (I now just beginning to open to this level), not to mention several girlfriends who love me… and frankly, I scare the crap out of them. They cannot understand relationships that are based in honesty, trust, respect, honor, compassion, as they have yet to live in healthy relationships themselves. So I come in with several women, obviously they will project that it’s all about control and sex, because this is all they understand, currently.

This is the “problem”, this is a gripe I have about doing spiritual work, it’s that you end up alienating everyone by virtue of being at whatever level you’re at. Note that even just mastering solar-plexus (taking no crap, being successful with career, money, with pickup and women, etc.) is enough to lose your entire families, as many of you have learned.

With the third-eye now just beginning to open slightly, I’m starting to have a massive respect for the levels people are on, and a strong intuitive ability to “just know” what level people are on, and how to talk to them so I don’t scare, intimidate, or alienate them. This is the big lesson I’m working on these days in teaching/sharing.

Back to the original question, the affirmation/frame “I appreciate my unique qualities” has to do with developing and appreciating one’s talents, strengths, etc.

Yes, a higher truth is that there are no unique qualities, and the final “frame” in the Crown Chakra is “I merge with the unity of all life” in which, at this point, the “I” (sovereignty) disappears completely, and one experiences “ego death” (and very possibly BODY DEATH!!!) and then becomes Allness, as I posted about recently when I “went too far” with meditation, prayer, and surrender, about two months ago.

I wanted to “become enlightened” sooooooo badly, and when I was granted a taste, I realized just how SERIOUS enlightenment actually is, with the very real possibility of bodily death, as well as the possibility of ending up just drooling and urinating myself on a couch all day, and having to re-learn how to speak. I basically pleaded “I’m not ready yet!!! PLEASE GOD, I’m not ready, okay man, I get it!!” LOL.

And then “I” snapped back into the body, and started shaking, crying, whimpering, and thanking God to let me back in. This was the most intense experience I have *ever* had, and it changed me to the core. I no longer “seek enlightenment”, I am even being very careful when I pray, meditate, surrender, etc. to not go too far.

It’s nice to know, deeply, subjectively, that the state known as “enlightenment” (I now prefer the word Allness) is not only real, but it is something I’ll be able to choose later on, once I am satisfied that I’ve lived this life, enjoyed the Circle, travelled, etc. and perhaps when I’m old, or sick or something, I’ll surrender everything once again and stay in the Allness state.

So anyway, the frame “I appreciate my unique qualities” may not be the “highest truth”, but it is a certain level that is appropriate and valuable at the solar-plexus level of consciousness. Until one learns/integrates this lesson, kundalini will not open one’s heart chakra. (Although please note that choosing love, and working on heart meditation is very wise, as it gets you ready for your own future) Note that chakras are connected anyway. Also note that attraction to ideaGasms.net suggests that your heart will indeed open during this lifetime.

The levels must be respected, even cherished, loved, and valued. One level of consciousness is not “better” than another, but only different. This is a lesson that I didn’t fully “get” until this year, simply because the ego/mind will always think “higher means better” and not much can be done about that. But now, with throat chakra getting fully opened and kundalini beginning to open the third-eye, there is a knowingness that is beyond logic, words, that ‘even a serial killer is perfect and serves God”

Blissings,
Stephane

P.S. The Seven Chakras Program will teach you precisely how to open each of your chakras and evolve through these levels of consciousness.

http://www.ideagasms.net/chakra-centers-heal-cd/

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