NOTE: Thanks for all your submissions to my last post, we’re currently trolling through all the responses and should have a winner picked in the next couple of days.

And now to the the latest post …

***QUESTION***

Stephane,

My husband and I just bought the GTP, and then the BGTP, and are very excited to get started on our first threesome. Especially ME!!

I have three questions. I’ll probably find the answers in the GTP & BGTP, but I’m really excited and want to get started ASAP.

***QUESTION ONE***

Picking up girls? Should he do it, or should I? And how do I get started?

Personally, knowing how judgmental women can be, I would consider it flattering to be approached by a woman; conversely, knowing how judgmental women can be, it makes me extremely nervous to initiate sexual contact with women. Obviously this is pure insecurity on my part, but do most women have this same thought process? And for any women who have done this, how do you know if a woman is interested?

I hope that I am being clear on this, it’s all pretty confusing in my head.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Yeah, picking up chicks (as a husband *with* his wife) is damn tricky, and requires social engineering capabilities that would impress the most cunning, sociopathic and degenerate minds. I suggest learning “female pickup”, and just do his “dirty work” for him… Although I’ve written and recorded HEAPS of mat’l on this subject… since you’re a GIRL, you don’t have so many things to learn

Basically, in a nutshell, you just make friends with a girl, nothing more.

Next thing you know, a little wine, a little “Would it be totally weird you out if I asked you this question? Oh my God, PLEASE don’t get offended, if you say no, I’ll never bring it up again” followed by some (fake or real) blushing…

“Have you ever kissed a girl before?”

Or even, “Have you ever had a threesome?”

*done*

If she’s comfortable with it, and you kiss her, maybe take a bubble bath (do not get ROMANTIC on her, just hold the friends-and-fun-times vibe, and avoid any lesbian vibes), from there, if your husband doesn’t get excited and needy, and if he can just CHILL and act like it’s normal…

*drumroll*

You can actually just say, “Okay, let’s go f*ck my husband!” and BECAUSE YOU’RE A GIRL, she will actually…

F*CK HIS BRAINS OUT!!

I have pulled this scam more times that I can COUNT. Ghita would bring a girl or two home, they would have wine (while I’m working, and not getting involved other than to say hello), jump in the bathtub…

Next thing you know, two-to-four girls are nake.d in my bed, and shouting, “Steeeeeeeeph… come heeeeeeeere…. Steph?”

“F*CK.. Do I have to?”

“Hihihihihihihihi… Oh my God your boyfriend is so cool! Hihihihihihihi!”

Three hours later, I’ve lost six pounds from sweating, and there are 17 condoms all over my room, and at least one of the girls is crying because it’s been the most loving-and-intense experience of her entire life.

It’s that easy, and with your obvious social intelligence, you know I’m right!

(Guys –> Listen up: Women tend to JUST LISTEN whatever another woman tells them what to do, including, “Go have se.x with that guy, he’s cool”. I learned this in high school, and am very glad that I did.)

***QUESTION TWO***

After reading the advice on your blog and forum, and thinking on it a little more, I think it would make me a little more comfortable to pick-up the girl.

Pretty much, as long as he gets to have sex with both of us, my husband is going to be comfortable, whereas I think that if I couldn’t be somewhat in control of choosing the girl, I wouldn’t be as okay with it.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

The more you can trust your husband to never, ever give his power away to beautiful women (including yourself), the less of an issue the whole “Who does the choosing?” thing is going to be.

But yes, in the beginning, I usually suggest treating him like he’s a Lion, and hunting on his behalf. He probably has more important things to do with his time anyway, other than “pickup”.

(Note that the Circle Lifestyle is going to FORCE every single dormant trust issue that is in your relationship to rise to the surface, like a cork in the sea. This is why I like Circles so much.)

Now, you mentioned something that caught my attention:

>as long as he gets to have sex with both of us, my husband is
>going to be comfortable

It seems to me… like this is the wrong attitude.

Your husband should be thinking about long-term results.

In the beginning, Ghita used to bring girls home, and SOME of those girls were not threesome or Circle material. So I just backed off, and let Ghita enjoy her accumulating wealth of experience, knowing that it would pay off in the future …

Some of the girls are not really “circle material”, so on occasions I would tell Ghita, “Just enjoy her, don’t worry about me, I’m a workaholic anyway and have a million things to do.”

I used to even let Ghita go out on DATES with girls, and then sleep over at their houses! I even said, “If you want, just have a bunch of girlfriends on the side, and I can coach you on your ‘game’ whenever you come home the next morning.”

She felt a little weird about that, at first, but I just gave her my 100% trust, and assured her that, “Men don’t actually care if you’re with other girls, there’s no jealousy, at least not in my case”.

Today she’s a dangerous bisexual-ninja, able to ‘close’ the kind of girls that I’m really into (cute, strong, loving, balanced, congruent, badass bitches who take sh*t from no one).

And today we live with a Polish girl, her name is Greta, and she’s been in our Circle for about 8 months, and we’re just getting ready to ‘draft in’ a third girl, which I’ll post about later.

(God I love Slavic women.)

I believe we progressed much quicker along the path because I let Ghita have so many open options to choose from, and to learn from, and enjoy… With or without me.

***QUESTION THREE***

After we have done the BGTP and are ready for a girlfriend, where are we supposed to even start looking for the right kind of girl? I realize that it’s going to involve a lot of trial and error, but I really don’t have any idea where to begin looking.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Location doesn’t matter, any location will do. Also note that “When the couple is ready, the Circle appears”. Synchronicity will lead her to you.

Just send out your prayers, live your life the way you want to live it, have a socia.l life, and be ready to pounce on the opportunities… they usually arise when you’re the least prepared, like at the grocery store when you’re looking especially fat that day, in your pajamas, with no makeup on, strolling the tampon aisle in a very bad mood.

I suggest that you guys come up with a list titled, “We are awesome”.

Then write everything down that rocks about you two, and your unique qualities.

Cultivate a very arrogant feeling inside, one that says, “If that girl over there doesn’t sleep with us, the poor thing is going to miss out on something really wonderful!”

We think of pickup as a type of ‘female charity work’, and we sincerely “believe in the product”.

And, I recommended getting the GTP materials handled first. It will do things to your relationship… really wonderful things.

The trick is to get your relationship to a level where there is sooooo much trust, respect, honesty, loyalty, love, humor, orgasms… Get the relationship to be on a level that is way beyond just “happy”, so that it is overflowing with Joy.

From this place, it begins to actually feel SELFISH to not share what you have with other women, because their is an inner-knowingness (often confused with arrogance, by people not in the know) that the “poor thing ain’t gonna find anything like THIS anywhere else”.

Ok.

So, I guess it’s pretty arrogant…

I can live with that.

Best of luck on your journey, and keep us posted.

Blessings,
Stephane

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