Volume Six
Beyond Polarity: Deep, Heart-Centered Alignment and Advanced Spiritual Discernment in Dating and Relationships.
Approximately 16.5 hours of audio and 3.5 hours of video, Stephane Hemon provides instructional guidance in several key areas that are pertinent in ‘pickup’, dating, relationships, success in the world, and rapid spiritual advancement.
A few key points discussed in the videos include:
- ‘Zen-Surrendering’ Attraction, Fear, and Desire, revisited;
- Going to clubs – how to pickup women, step-by-step;
- Pickup techniques aren’t ‘bad’ nor are they ‘evil’;
- A hilarious and devastatingly effective way of handling other people’s criticisms or insults toward you;
- How to “clean your karma” after social blunders, or even large mistakes;
- Pickup & Dating: The value of “lightning quick” escalation, and how to hold this in mind in such a way that it can then be easily done in the real world;
- Massively Important: How, and Where, to sit with each other on dates (99% of guys actually miss this);
- What to do when women seem distant, aloof, or uncomfortable (and again, 99% of men actually miss this);
- The fear that you won’t be interesting or clever enough to hold her attention;
- The number one most devastatingly effective “attraction technique” Stephane knows of (most men screw this up — if only they knew!);
- How to handle your own attraction (99% of guys seem to get this one backwards);
- An easy way to enter a deep meditative state AND keep it up while you’re talking to people (this one is so easy a child could do it, and so effective that it leads to a giant leap in your level of consciousness/awareness and will take you ALL the way to reaching true Unconditional Love);
- How to use your eyes to get her to feel as though she MUST talk more (and work hard to keep you interested);
- How to ‘hook’ women into the conversation without using words or even talking about anything clever at all;
- The highest way to handle rude, bitchy women without ‘losing face’;
- Not ready to start approaching women yet? Practice this easy ‘zen focusing’ meditative technique while you are walking down the street, and your approach fears will soon dissolve automatically (this one can take you all the way to unconditional love and even higher). This can be used along with the ‘zen surrender’ technique, as they will both reinforce each other;
- Premature Ejaculation, solutions for;
- The mind structures of Lust;
- How to ‘disappear’ the ego’s commitment phobia or ‘grass is greener’ proclivity;
- On transcending the ‘inner animal’ (i.e., Freud’s ‘Id’);
- Why ‘zen-surrendering’ emotions won’t work quickly unless you “get” the Silent Witnessing also, and how to easily do this;
- Critical Point Analysis: A surprising way to disappear approach anxiety, desire, and worry in just a few minutes (and forever);
- The essence of jealousy, envy, possessiveness;
- How to stop feeling like an annoyance or burden when you approach women, or being ashamed of your ‘manly’ desires;
- “I feel I’m superior (or inferior) to some women and I know it’s wrong” (how to heal this natural tendency);
- How to access an instant feeling of intense gratitude (without having to fake it);
- What it means when girls don’t mind your watching porn;
- How to use your eyes to be able to quickly discern her essence and intentions (e.g., “Is she honest/integrous?”)
- We don’t survive “because of the ego”;
- On personal love versus ‘Love with no object’;
- How to truly “not care” about your woman’s sexual past;
- Why control and degradation are such intense sexual turn-ons, and how to move beyond this programming;
- The precise unconscious structure to arguments and conflicts;
- How couple’s can fully transcend ALL arguments and conflicts now and forever (very advanced and lengthy discussion);
- How to transcend lust, yet still enjoy “animalistic” lovemaking (this seems like a contradiction but it truly isn’t);
- Yin/Yang Polarity is ego-based and therefore very limiting; “Why is it so?”;
- Healing the common “I used to be fat” residual self-image and shame;
- Transcending gluttony and over-consumption by resetting the ‘appestat’ (for weight loss);
- Transcending the mind’s tendency to want to fantasize about or have romantic ‘crushes’ on people;
- Bypassing the mind altogether, simple zen meditation techniques;
- The karmic “price” we pay for any and all deviations away from pure love and pure innocence;
- The (often overlooked) importance of equal looks, equal personality, and equal levels of consciousness in relationships;
- “Why do women often cling to abusive men?” (advanced explanations);
- Resolving the victim/perpetrator paradigm;
- A breakdown of how to break up with someone, while remaining “clean” on a karmic (i.e., consequences and accountability) level;
- How to contextualize pickup and dating so that it serves to undo the dominance of the ego and brings about spiritual evolution;
- Be Forewarned: Why you should keep a watchful eye on flirting, seduction, and charm;
- How to know — right away — if she wants you or not (how to tell if her attraction is genuine, etc.);
- Disappearing shame, guilt, grief, and depression;
- “It has been over one year, and I am STILL thinking about my ex!”;
- A surprising way to quickly heal guilt and regret;
- God is not a person — how to really, really “get” this;
- “Greta, what does unconditional love feel like experientially?” (a discussion);
- Etc (i.e., commentaries on dozens of emails, stories, and questions).
Additionally, a few key points discussed in the audios include:
- The difference between spiritual devotion and spiritual ambition;
- “How will I know when I am doing enough spiritual work?”;
- The purpose of ‘Dark nights of the soul’ and how to use them most efficiently as a ‘springboard’ when they occur;
- How to make up for a stupid mistake you have made with a girl you really like – asking for forgiveness in a humorous, humble, and devastatingly effective way;
- Humility versus humiliation; How to heal shame painlessly and quickly;
- A surprisingly simple technique which allows you to quickly find the right girl for you;
- Issues in a new relationship: how to heal the male ego right in front of your girlfriend;
- What is mama/ho complex, why Stephane says it is a core inner conflict and how to solve this conflict fast;
- Why is it better to suffer quietly (alone) about some relationship issues;
- What it means when you date someone who is not on your level;
- Why Stephane sometimes uses sharp language (i.e., “whore”) etc.;
- How ego desire blinds you (i.e., “hunger for pussy”) and keeps you in bondage, neediness, and suffering;
- “You gotta be shameless about the meaningful things that you want and throw them away when they flake on you”; dealing with women swiftly, painlessly;
- Through spiritual discernment you can see the energy behind people’s kindness; how to tell if someone’s kindness is being faked;
- Why feeling guilty about your male ego doesn’t get you anywhere; how to put an end to this self-defeating circuitous trap;
- Fear in relationships; How to consciously Witness fear until it dissolves;
- Levels of consciousness and how they relate to each other in relationships;
- The simplest pick up line EVER!;
- A simple method for developing true discernment;
- What is perception? How it it different from Spiritual Vision?;
- How to see the beauty when the world is falling apart around you?;
- Why the fallen spiritual ‘gurus’ have actually fallen?;
- The purpose of spiritual discernment; Contrasting Love with non-Love;
- “Why is Enlightenment so difficult?”;
- How to make decisions based on your feelings and inner states;
- Pleasure versus Happiness;
- Advanced Relationship Dynamics;
- Dating older women;
- Smoking pot — how does it affect me, and how does it affect humans in different levels of consciousness; surrendering the cravings; techniques to quit;
- What are “level of consciousness”?;
- When you are lost in life direction/purpose, and how to gain independence from the family;
- The differences in life’s three key paradigms: to have, to do, to be;
- Freedom is a state of mind — how to be homeless and perfectly happy;
- The only way to true happiness;
- How to transcend worry — every situation is a perfect opportunity;
- “The hamster doesn’t hang out with the dinosaur”; The dangers of mixing levels of consciousness;
- How to gently start ’spiritualizing’ your life to get rid of stress, anxiety, and worry;
- Useful techniques to remember valuable lessons we don’t want to forget;
- Simple meditation practices to start your spiritual journey, as well as progress into highly advanced states;
- How different music affect your energy body;
- Re-contextualizing the past;
- Things you can do to start of the day spiritually; how to gently spiritualize your life and what it really means to be free;
- How to become spiritually advanced without coming off as weird or spooky;
- “At first you do things out of balls, and then out of heart”;
- Healing sexual abuse from the past and contextualizing it from a powerful field of context;
- Why people won’t give up their deeply cherished ‘victimhood’;
- What you need to realize to get out of feeling like a victim;
- “Am I alive because I worry about my life?” Why fear is actually useless;
- Negative thoughts versus positive thoughts; Cleaning up the mind quickly;
- Transcending sympathy/denial;
- As a loving, spiritual person, should I take care of starving children in Africa? Why are people born in Africa in poverty? How to let go of feeling guilty that you aren’t saving the world;
- Karma and context as a way of understanding happenings in our lives and in general society;
- Standing in integrity while running a business not easy;
- ‘My’ mission, ‘my’ purpose re-contextualized; do I need to have purpose, a special job, a mission in life?;
- “I am sooo close but I still don’t have a girlfriend!”; Transcending the final barriers;
- An advanced breakdown of approach anxiety with an advanced student;
- Approaching women from the Unconditional Love level — what it looks and feels like;
- Improving one’s ‘pickup’ approaches through meditation;
- A paradigm shift that must occur in order to find the right girl;
- A breakdown of what is needed in order to find the right girl and the mistakes you’ll encounter on the way;
- How to apply powerful meditation in your daily activities;
- Various meditative techniques — a thorough breakdown;
- Why passive-aggressive behavior is a great study of discernment;
- Dealing with condescending, unsolicited advice;
- Watch out for shy people; they can be dangerous;
- Social butterfly versus one-on-one discussions;
- Why sugar is bad for your health, and even your emotional health;
- The End of Pain: the sheer value of discernment can bring tears of gratitude to one’s eyes;
- What is ‘cause’?; “Nothing is causing anything!”;
- A breakdown of an ex-relationship, with a (possibly) non-integrous girl; Why discernment instantly heals the pain of the past;
- Amazing spiritual experiences followed by dry periods;
- The power of fasting;
- A useful technique to put an end to conflicts with others;
- A powerful reframe for dissolving approach anxiety;
- What is shame; and letting go of identifying with negative emotions;
- The spiritual significance of choosing to ‘keep holy company’;
- Dealing with depression on the spiritual path;
- Feelings in the different chakras — how to deal with them and what they mean;
- Physical signs of being on spiritual path — insomnia, no colds, etc.
- Powerful techniques for quieting the mind (advanced);
- Escaping the pleasure and pain “life seesaw”;
- Slowly letting go of your childish addiction to pleasure;
- Spiritual devotion;
- Many powerful approaches to dealing with not feeling ‘grounded’ in the world;
- Parent, child, adult — parts of the mind/ego; ‘training’ these parts to serve your goals in life;
- The power of intention in healing your life;
- Dealing with blockages in the chakras;
- Why non-integrous people and energies are so destructive to your growth;
- “The wisdom of caution”;
- Things that stand out in an integrous woman;
- How to find out if a person is integrous or not; advanced clues;
- Why fasting is one good way of going about loosening the grip of the ego;
- Why losing your reputation, friends, or belongings can be a true gift on your spiritual path; Loss is gain;
- What is a soulmate?;
- Involvement versus Alignment in dating and relationships, and how knowing this actually solves everything;
- A powerful way of choosing an integrous girlfriend;
- A healing technique for dealing with the fear of abandonment;
- How understanding non-causality can help you transcend blockages in finding the right girl for you;
- How to manage using every moment in your daily life to practice spiritual techniques;
- Are past lives real?
- “Powerletter” discussions;
- Clarifications on the ‘zen surrendering’ technique for healing painful emotions;
- Simple things that you can do speed up your spiritual process;
- Common nervousness on a call with Stephane (Witnessing it dissolve);
- The significance, and types, of crying;
- Simple ways of transcending negative emotions via compassion;
- A lengthy conversation about signs of non-integrity in people’s behavior, things you can do to practice discernment and sharpen your ‘third-eye’ for easily recognizing the non-integrous;
- What ‘non-integrous’ really means; a breakdown;
- Respecting your own level of consciousness;
- Important factors that make a company, or a teacher, succeed in their field;
- Figuring out the connection between career and spirituality;
- What the journey to gaining spiritual discernment consists of;
- Sociology’s ‘broken window principle’;
- The meaning of triage and pre-emptive war;
- Non-integrous presuppositions in people’s behavior explained;
- Is prayer better that intending?
- Why “watching the thoughts” is said to be one of the most powerful spiritual techniques, and how it quickly sets you free;
- Going through breakup pains while applying spiritual guidelines (i.e., reviewing the mistakes that were made during a relationship);
- Why knowing if people in your life are integrous or not is crucial for your emotional health;
- “You are kind with others, are you kind with yourself as well?”; Kindness is often deeply misunderstood; how to apply true Kindness to find the way out of inner agony and hell;
- Healing your personality type;
- How to tame your ‘Id’;
- Learning to make decisions that are for “the highest good”;
- Animal (left) brain versus the Spirit; conflicts;
- The meaning of ‘karma’ and its implications in life;
- The sheer beauty (essence) of a struggling spiritual seeker;
- Letting go of the non-integrous in your life and using our lifestyle to spiritualize our life;
- “What is God?” (i.e., Context, or Allness);
- Using stressful situations as a springboard to your spiritual growth;
- How to make the key paradigm shift in dating that allows you to finally succeed;
- What does an approach from the level of unconditional love look like — step by step;
- The key differences between lust sex and love making;
- Dissolving gluttony;
- Dissolving food-related beliefs;
- Powerful persuasion techniques for landing a job, etc.;
- “Critical factor analysis” for removing the glamour, attraction and specialness of beautiful women to thereby feel neutral about them; How to feel absolutely detached around the “especially gorgeous” ones;
- Why “thinking out loud” is the most powerful attraction tool; how to transcend the residuals of unconscious shame to finally be free to “think out loud” around attractive women;
- Several examples of the “thinking out loud” technique, to help this approach to really ‘sink in’ deeply;
- Deflating emotionalized reactivity to achieve a powerful and genuinely aloof communication style;
- “Critical point analysis” applied to the very core of the ego;
- How to quickly realize that pickup is “stupidly easy”;
- Quick tips for knowing if she has integrity;
- How to contextualize “animal sex”, so that it is integrous, loving, and easily accepted;
- How to contextualize all sexuality so that it is loving and not only lust-based;
- Lightening-quick pickup and escalation tools;
- How to ‘save face’ at all times and in all situations without exception; social mistakes then become a springboard;
- How to instantly recover from pickup mistakes and avoid shame;
- Why searching for Love and not for ‘the one’ brings you closer to your goal;
- Becoming Love versus ‘falling in love’;
- How to make difficult life decisions in a smooth and stress-free way;
- Factors that constitute our decisions;
- A simple technique of letting go of guilt over ‘bad’ decisions we have made;
- Getting over approval and validation seeking;
- Various challenges to be expected on the spiritual path;
- Humor as a powerful tool of re-contextualizing life;
- Going over the negative internet dating advice that led to losing contact with the field of Inner Bliss and Joy;
- Getting out of hell of dating;
- Dealing with one’s regrets in dating that led to guilt, shame, depression, and confusion;
- The power of selfless service or karma yoga;
- Fixing dating mistakes as they arise;
- Giving up pleasure for achieving true happiness/stillness;
- Powerful affirmations to let go of inner resistance;
- What may happen after a significant rise in consciousness; how to deal with the ‘ego aftermath’;
- Acausality/Synchronicity in dating, relationships, and solving inner conflicts and hesitations;
- Managing the cycles of high states and ‘falls from grace’; minimize the pain;
- Etc (i.e., fourteen phone consultations with Stephane Hemon).
(Since these are phone consultation recordings, the audio sound is very decent, but not studio quality.)
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The content in these recordings is comical, enlightening, down-to-earth, and quite advanced. Many students who participated in this program have reported major leaps in consciousness just by understanding the simple re-contextualizations or “reframes” provided.
The wisdom is presented from a powerful field of context and is derived from massive life experience, as well as the timeless teachings as taught by a variety of Enlightened mystics.
These recordings are intended for the spiritually-oriented
student of Unconditional Love.
This program is hereby dedicated to the absolute perfection
of dating, sexuality, and deeply satisfying relationships.
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