***QUESTION***

“I’ve diagnosed myself with avoidant personality disorder (or I could just be a puss.y) as well as narcissistic personality disorder. Either way, this is something I have struggled with for years and as soon as I can afford it I am going to go see a therapist. Until then I am going to begin chakra meditations again and wanted to know what you felt was the main chakra I need to focus on with regards mostly to APD. Thanks for your input!”

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Inadequacy/avoidance and intense social failure fears stem from the desire to control the mind’s of others and force
them to see you as being cooler/smarter than you truly are. Social anxiety is therefore literally a narcissist’s game. (This is ego, not “you”)

I would say this is definitely a sacral chakra issue.

Perhaps a therapist can be of some help, but nothing beats actually going out and talking to people.

Feeling the fear, and doing it anyway.

Every boy who wishes to be a man MUST go through this. And all ego’s are the same, so everybody basically has to go through the same stuff.

Suggestion, instead of wanting others to perceive you as something you’re not, go out and focus on just being as honest as humanly possible.

So for example, if you’re talking with someone and you start feeling nervous, or worried, try telling them the literal truth. Make sure they know you’re not “blaming” them and they are not “causing” it or anything like that. Just go, “Man, am I ever shy” and you can even ask them if they suffer from shyness and have a convo about that.

The decision to THINK OUT LOUD. This is what us socially-savvy people actually DO!

It’s ironic because at first, you start off being really shy and worried that others will reject you. And sometimes they do.

Then, you find that, since you’re so nervous, people tend to be really nice to you. (But VERY condescending)

Then, as you start becoming cooler, people can be really vicious, especially girls, because you have some “game” but you’re still shaky.

Then, you come into your own, develop a decent personality, become humorous, charming, etc. and girls start sleeping with you.

Then the heart opens, and your conversations end up reframing people’s beliefs and healing them, just by virtue of being in your presence, and also because of the presuppositions in your language. Your “joy de vivre” can also become pretty infectious.

When heart becomes WIDE OPEN, some people really start fucking DESPISING you (jealousy, and also they fear that you can see right through them, and you can, but they don’t understand non-judgment, so you just end up triggering all the stuff they are attempting to hide due to guilt and shame).

So you start off being afraid of rejection, and you end up doing everything in your power to try to make people feel at
ease around you, because many people can not handle you.

It’s like, the cleaning lady came over today, and I motioned for her to hug me, and she gives me this weak-a*s shyness hug, and I’m like, “Are you really this afraid of love??” and she giggles, blushes, and hugs me properly.

So you begin to realize that the fears that were in you are literally in 95% of the population as well.

Life - fun stuff.

Blessings,
Stephane

NOTE: The Seven Chakras Program will teach you precisely how to get over avoidance and inadequacy fears, fear of rejection, fear of loss, neediness, low self-esteem, insecurities … pretty much every Inner-Game issue you can think of. You don’t even need to “believe in chakras”, they are simply a VERY powerful model that delivers miraculous real world RESULTS:

http://www.ideagasms.net/chakra-centers-heal-cd/

“Man I am so very very thankful for you for taking the time and completing the chakra program. Thus far it is *FLAWLESS*. Chakras are the alpha and omega. Holy sh*t. I am taking HUGE strides lately with it, geeking out like crazy, the lessons just keep coming, and the good thing is they come in order of the chakras - somehow I always know what to do.”
– B., United States

“Stephane, the responses so far (from both women and men around me) has been phenomenal, now that I have the first four chakras balanced. And I feel more incredible than I can ever remember! Thanks again.”
– M.M.