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Stephane

Confirmation And Validation Update

On 19-Aug-10, at 12:56 PM, P.D. wrote:

Email Message:

Stephane,

Thank you for your courage to share your last blog post. My ego finds
it difficult to accept it, yet a part of me still relates to it and
supports you wholeheartedly. I sincerely hope you will remain among us
when your ego drops behind!

If I may suggest (feel free to ignore), since my ego is still quite
strong, it is easy for me to understand to your doubters and how it
might be easier to approach them…(?)

I guess it’s the confidence with which you knowingly declare your
state which puts them off. What if you contact researchers without
using the word “Enlightenment”, but only “Spiritual Experiences”? Let
them be the ones to come to the conclusion that you are nearly
enlightened…. And if nothing else works, maybe you could just get a
private EEG test and keep it for your own records? Just make sure no
psychiatric ward tries to keep you in :)


Many blessings and much love,
P.

>>>COMMENTS, AND UPDATE:

Thanks for your suggestions and for going out of your way to try and be
helpful. I do appreciate the intention behind it.

It’s not possible for someone in this current state to water down the
absolute. The way that I qualify for strong, integrous people with heart
is to precisely speak the truth without using “pink words” or watering
it down. Enlightenment is what’s happening to me, and it’s their problem
if they can’t handle the simple truth.

Realize, I want nothing from anyone. I’m simply offering the world a
gift. If they do not want that gift, that’s OK. It’s not really possible
for ordinary intellect to grasp the profound significance of
Enlightenment. So the world projects that I “want something” from them,
when in reality, it’s not even possible for someone in my current
condition to “want.”

What would I want, when in truth, I am All that Is, was, or ever can be? I
have been all women and all men throughout all of time. When I look into
their eyes, I see the same Spirit shining through their eyes. There is
only one Self lighting various bodies. As enlightenment is reached, the
only remaining thing to do with one’s life is to try to bring this state
as close to as many people as you can. You try to make the spiritual
pathway easier than it has been historically. I would like to offer myself
to science simply because that would make the reaching of Enlightenment
seem more feasible to those seekers who are overwhelmed by the prospect
of reaching this state. Once the mind can see, with its own eyes, that
the state of Enlightenment is real and can actually be validated
scientifically, it becomes much easier to decide on such a worthwhile
mission.

I cannot water myself down. I cannot be different than I am. I can’t
present things to people other than confidently and without filters. An
analogy: The sun cannot suddenly decide to shine in a different way so
that humans would be more pleased. It simply shines without reservation.
Some people hate sunlight and they stay inside their homes, while others
revel in it and sunbathe all day long. I’m here for the few sunbathers.

There are people seeking enlightenment all over the world, using incorrect
teachings and flawed techniques. I know what that feels like, and it is
horrific and terrifying — you can’t help but to feel abandoned by
Divinity. But reaching Enlightenment is actually easy and relaxed and very
simple to do. (For example, there is no need to starve one’s self.)

When I send an email to a company that specializes in consciousness
research, I simply am presenting myself as I am in truth. It’s like
fishing, where you try to use lures that are appealing to the right kinds
of fish. My lure is the truthful, absolute, innocent lure. It’s up to
them if they will bite or not. I’m responsible for effort and intention,
but never for results.

This is the same way I taught pickup and womanizing, is it not?

I only want women who can handle me as I am in reality. I would not
change, morph, or camouflage my true essence just so that some insecure
woman would sleep with me. (“The Qualifier.”) No, I simply present
myself as I am, openly and vulnerably and innocently, and let the chips
fall where they may. That is true pickup which is free from the
constraints of desire or lack. When you are fulfilled within yourself,
manipulation falls away. Those who manipulate are too easily manipulated
in return.

I have contacted about 50 companies, universities, etc., who all claim to
specialize in consciousness research. None have replied.

The problem seems to be that they all specialize in the content of
consciousness, but not in consciousness itself. Pure consciousness is not
something people trust. The subjective experiences of mystics is something
people trust even less.

I’ve also contacted a small number of churches, spiritual retreat
centers, etc., but there have been no replies. Are they not at least
curious to find out if what I proclaim is truthful? Enlightenment has
historically happened so rarely on this planet that it is quite
understandable for them to be skeptical. After all, most religions
erroneously believe that their Enlightened founder must have been “the
only one.” I once saw Brit Hume on FoxNews naively inviting Tiger Woods
to drop Buddhism and to surrender to the Lord, Jesus Christ. Poor Mr. Hume
does not understand that Jesus and Buddha were spiritual equals. And so it
is with the giving of unsolicited advice, which always stems from the
prideful position of “I know more than you know.”

Religious institutions are actually one of the last places I was
interested in contacting, because religionists tend to believe they know
what truth is already. There is nothing more stubborn than an ego which
presumes “I know.” Illusion is comfortable and familiar, and the inner
freedom of the Universe is what people fear the most. The number one thing
people reject most viciously is actually love. That is what the ego is
designed to do, for animal survival purposes. It simply does what it is
supposed to do.

When you try to escape the ego’s clutches within yourself, you discover
just how tough-as-nails the ego really is; paradoxically, you come to have
great respect for it!

Thanks everyone for your loving support and trust. It’s a rare thing to
actually be trusted, and when it does happen, you tend to cherish that
trust very much. As a teacher, it is my spiritual responsibility before
the Almighty God to commit myself to your awakening, and to warn you ahead
of time of all of the various challenges and common pitfalls along the
way, as well as to try to spiritually inspire you to know that you can
stand up for Truth and to be fully that which you are to the very best of
your ability. My life’s purpose is to reach Enlightenment in the public
eye, so we see that it can be done. By dedicating your Enlightenment to
mankind, it gives you much greater motivation and power than if you just
tried to reach the goal for yourself.

Thus, to our happiness is my life dedicated. Glory to God in the Highest.
Amen.

-Stephane


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Stephane

Enlightenment: Scientific Confirmation And Validation?

It is becoming abundantly clear that the human ego is actually in direct competition with God/Divinity, and will do anything to maintain its illusion of separateness or sovereignty. Jesus Christ has stated that those who follow Him will be persecuted in His name, and my experience correlates with that statement to startling degrees.

It seems that the closer you get to reaching Enlightenment, the more people will either become hostile or indifferent. Although the world talks a great deal about the condition/state of Enlightenment and there is voluminous literature on the subject, my experience is that when you’re actually in the very process of reaching Enlightenment, the very same people who obsess about the subject will close the door right in your face and even denounce you as evil or delusional. Once the ego is confronted with Enlightenment, it tends to implode. Again, as I said, it is actually in direct competition with Divinity. The allegorical stories about Lucifer competing with God and needing to be thrown out of Heaven — that is the human ego. Lucifer is not a person. It is the ego itself which is both satanic (bloodlust, war, murder, lust, etc.) and luciferic (greed for power, denouncement of love, subversion of truth for gain, etc.) and will stop at nothing to remain sovereign, separate from God.

My wife and I are blown away. After two years of almost continuous meditation/contemplation, we are getting very close to the goal. What blows us away is the reactions from people — even those from spiritual communities. They want nothing to do with us! We get even banned from their forums, and they don’t tell us why. It’s stunning.

It’s in my nature to be a public figure. Running ideaGasms and being open about my life is something that helps me to reach Enlightenment, because it educates me about the true nature of mankind and the ego. The more I share myself openly, and the closer I get to the reaching of Enlightenment, the worse it gets. It’s just incredible. Today, the world is either indifferent, or overtly hostile. And yet tomorrow, once Enlightenment is complete, and especially after I am dead, the world will possibly celebrate my existence and study my work for thousands of years to come. My work is really only just beginning. (Although Womanize was a great start. All of men’s dating problems, dualities, and seemingly irresolvable conundrums and confusions and challenges have been resolved — that’s no small thing. There’s an entire industry based on this subject, with thousands of teachers worldwide, and they till haven’t caught on that everything they’ve ever needed to know has been resolved clearly and concisely. See Womanize for details.)

The ego usually can’t handle saints until they are dead and gone. It’s amazing to see this in action, over and over again. I suspect this is the main reason most seekers of enlightenment don’t make it all the way. It’s because, unconsciously, they know that they are going to be persecuted by most of mankind. This process that my wife and I are going through seems to be an inevitable one. Saints are usually denounced while they are alive, and then celebrated once they are dead and gone, are they not? The ego wants nothing to do with them when they are alive, and prefers to read about them from a safer distance once they are dead, it would seem.

To whomever is reading this, I would like to offer myself to science. I have no wants or desires anymore — I’m so close to enlightenment that I literally don’t even care about bodily survival anymore. As Bliss takes over, nothing in the world matters anymore. However, I do want to be of service. Perhaps my experiences and my state of consciousness will assist a small number of seekers to reach the goal of enlightenment quicker. Each individual who reaches this state helps mankind to follow.

I sent out a newsletter last night:

Dear readers,

Surely there must be a few scientists, doctors, 
psychiatrists, etc., on this ideaGasms.net email listing, 
which is why I’m writing this article today.

After thousands of hours of deep meditation, the state of 
Enlightenment is very close at hand. It feels like such a 
waste to just sit quietly at home while the greatest 
phenomena unfolds. The Light of God is completely frying my 
circuits, so to speak, and this should be documented!

My ego/mind is almost completely gone now. There are only 
fragments of thoughts left, and an infinite silence is 
erasing the mind, very profoundly, a little more each day. Has 
the reaching of Enlightenment ever been documented on camera 
before? How about medically documented? I feel that this 
condition is such a rare gift that if it can be documented, 
it should be.

I would like this process to be scientifically verified. My 
brain-wave patterns could be looked at. Surely my 
serotonin, oxytocin, etc. levels must be “off the charts” 
at this point. Fortunately, my wife is also experiencing 
many of the exact same symptoms, so we could run medical 
tests on her as well. Our brain physiology, bio-chemistry, 
etc., could be monitored, tested, poked and prodded, etc., 
so that finally, the condition/state of spiritual 
enlightenment could become scientifically verified. Using 
our bodies, we could realistically show the world that God 
is more than just a fantasy. The changes that my wife and I 
are going through are extremely intense. If there are any 
physicians on here who have access to the right kinds of 
medical equipment, we could make history together.

Enlightenment happens so rarely, we should not waste this 
opportunity…

Furthermore, has a couple ever reached this condition 
together? Has this ever happened in all of recorded human 
history? Again, I feel that the scientific validation of 
the state of Enlightenment would be a great gift to 
mankind. Surely, there must be a medical professional out 
there who would be interested in what’s happening to us. 
If there is any qualified interest, I can be contacted 
here:


http://www.ideagasms.net/contact-ideagasms/


Gloria in Excelsis Deo!

Sincerely,

Stephane Hemon


ideaGasms.net


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So far, one guy replied with a suggestion, and six people unsubscribed, after being on my mailing list for several years.

Listen very carefully: When you can’t tell the sinner from the saint, and when you reverse the two and mix them up, you’re in deep trouble. I’m sincerely worried for your soul. Wow. What a world this is. The tenacity of the ego is incredible. I just spent five intense years sharing everything I know about women, dating, relationships, and spiritual progress and almost no one has made any progress. Sure, they write long letters going, “You changed my life” but it is mostly just talk, and talk is cheap.

My family turned on me. All friends turned on me. Almost everyone turned on me at some point along this journey. I’m not stupid, I’m not ugly, and anyone can tell that I know what I’m talking about. I’m intelligent, erudite, and sophisticated. So why are they hostile and/or indifferent? Again, the ego is in direct competition with God. The more ‘godly’ (enlightened) you become, well, now the ego is in direct competition with you, buddy. If you’re an earnest seeker, you’ll find out someday that I am not exaggerating in the slightest.

Also note that the closer you get to the goal, the more your own ego is going to come up to try to control the process. It’s just trying to survive. Selfless service, humility, plus awareness of the ego’s duplicitous nature will keep you in check and progressing non-stop.

Fortunately, my wife is with me, and also reaching enlightened states. At least we don’t have to go through this alone. We have each other for laughter, support, and love during those trying times, e.g., the dark nights of the soul, plus the rejection from society at large.

My next attempt to be of some kind of service and help future seekers is to contact numerous organizations who are involved in consciousness research. I just sent this letter to about 100 people today:


My name is Stephane Hemon, and I would like to offer myself
to the world of science and consciousness because I
currently stand at the gates of Enlightenment. This current
state/condition took about two years of nearly continuous
meditation/contemplation. The main techniques I used were
as follows:
1. Peripheral vision. Being aware of the totality of context
during daily activities, while ignoring content.
2. Focused, macular vision. Staring at a spot, unswervingly.
Doing the dishes, for example, in the exact moment of now.
3. Zen meditation. Close the eyes, and stare straight ahead
at the speck of light (phosgenes), unswervingly.
Thoughtlessness eventually ensues.
4. Close the eyes, and look for the silent substrate out of
which thoughts arise. This is analogous to looking beneath
the ocean waves. Eventually, it became possible to go
beneath the anlage of thoughts, and into the pure
thoughtless space.
5. Prayer.
6. Kundalini yoga. (Breathe white light up the spine.)
7. Unconditional lovingness, all the time, with all of life,
no exceptions.
8. Spiritual study, primarily the work of Dr. David R.
Hawkins. The current state I am in is undoubtedly the
590’s on his Map of Consciousness. To reach 600 is to
reach Enlightenment.
9. Selfless service.
10. ‘Zen surrender’. When high energy emotions arise
(fear, desire, anger, etc.) the technique is to hold the
feelings in awareness until they pass. The idea here is to
do nothing other than to be aware of each and every passing
sensation as it arises.
11. Affirmations. For example, “Jesus Christ is my Lord and
Savior”, or “Everything is happening spontaneously and
automatically of its own”, or “The only thing I know for
certain is that I Exist”, or “This world holds nothing
that I want”, or, “Only God is real, all else is
perceptual illusion”, etc. These come in handy when the
mind and emotions are difficult to manage. The technique
here is to simply repeat, like a broken record, spiritual
truth, which is more powerful than ego.
12. Context meditation. The technique is to hold the
totality of the body-mind in awareness. One merely holds
one’s existence in awareness, unswervingly, so as to
become progressively identified with consciousness/context
rather than mind/ego/body/content.
13. The refusal to be identified with thought/mind/context.
Denounced, thousands of times, the voice in my head, which
is seen as an imposter; the residuals of animal/ego
programming. Viewing the mind as an “it” rather than a
“me.”
14. Awareness of breathing. Try to be aware of each and
every single breath from the moment one wakes up to the
moment one falls asleep at night.
15. Picturing the earth in my mind, and radiating compassion
towards everything and everyone. Picturing all humans
reaching enlightenment. Praying, “I am a Servant of the
Lord, please use me, I am willing to die in order to
decrease mankind’s suffering.” Picturing the Light of God
going through my heart chakra and healing the world.
16. Using the above techniques, it progressively became
possible to let go of all fears and desires and to live my
life on the ‘crest of the wave’, i.e., the exact moment
of now/foreverness. The mind has become progressively
silent. Only thought fragments remain. It is possible,
today, for me to remain thoughtless for up to 30 minutes at
a time. Bliss states are continuous. meditation has become
effortless, automatic, continuous, even during ordinary
activities such as writing or conversation.
My current symptoms include:
1. Frequent headaches. They have been coming and going for
about one year now. These feel like intense cabin pressure,
like when one is on an airplane when it is landing. The
brain physiology has been changing, as though it were being
re-wired to be able to handle more intense energy fields of
consciousness.
2. Feelings of ‘puffiness’, especially in the extremities,
e.g., hands, feet, face, etc. feel as though they are
‘puffing up’ like a balloon being filled up with more air
than it can handle. This feels blissful, but also somewhat
painful, uncomfortable.
3. Periodic vision changes. Colors seem more colorful,
brighter, vivacious, and alive. These changes come and go.
Slow motion, like everything is suspended in timelessness.
My focal point of perception is now dissolving into
nonlocal awareness. Everything and everyone looks very
beautiful, and they are seen as being within me, rather
than ‘out there’, they’re all ‘in here’. Sensitivity to
light.
4. Periodic auditory changes. It is as though one can hear
even a worm traveling across a leaf in the forest, and yet
paradoxically, there is an infinite silent energy that
washes over my hearing which drowns out the mind as well as
the world.
5. Frequent loss of balance, coordination. My body is
becoming weightless. It feels like it is floating. Rather
than being inside the body, I see the body as being inside
of me, the nonlocal contextual field of consciousness. It is
an “it”, like a pet.
6. The awareness of automaticity and synchronicity.
Everything in the world is seen to happen automatically of
its own. If I think about doing the dishes, the intention
itself then pulls the body up and it then walks over,
automatically to the kitchen. As though it were being
controlled remotely. All actions are effortless.
7. Loss of appetite and the need to sleep. The infinite
silence coats the stomach and dissolves the feelings of
hunger. As I try to sleep at night, I merely end up
meditating in a state of bliss. I eventually do fall asleep,
but it is a light sleep and then I awaken a few hours
later. I usually need very little sleep. As the mind’s
activities cease, so does the need to sleep.
8. Infinite inner silence. A powerful energy field grows
stronger each day, and it is disappearing my mind/ego. I am
becoming one with consciousness itself.
9. Difficulties with memory and communication. Memory loss.
When my wife, for example, talks to me, it often takes a
while before I understand what she has said. It’s like
I’m becoming stupid. And yet I know everything. I can
usually tell when people are lying or possessing a hidden
agenda.
10. Out-of-body. I have experienced this phenomenon only
twice, where my soul left the body for a brief few seconds.
11. Samadhi. I’m becoming one with consciousness/awareness,
which is nonlocal, immobile, silent, diffuse, etc. I am
becoming one with my Father in Heaven.
The reason I’m contacting you is simply that Enlightenment
is such a rare condition. The changes are spectacular, and
they are also happening to my beloved wife, who is also a
devoted spiritual aspirant. I seem to be a few steps ahead
of her, but only a few. It is nice to have each other as a
confirmation of sorts.
I believe this process should be documented. Surely, our
brain wave patterns can be looked at. Our serotonin,
oxytocin, etc., levels must be “off the charts” — the
bliss can be very intense. Surely the process of reaching
‘no mind’/enlightenment must be of interest to you. It
was very difficult to reach this current state, and it is my
hopes that the scientific study, analysis, etc., of myself
and my wife would be of great service to mankind.
We are currently in california with nothing better to do
with our time. We run a small internet business which helps
to sustain us. We have nothing but free time on our hands,
and are willing to travel. We wish to offer ourselves to
science, so perhaps you (or someone you know) would be
interested. Has the reaching of enlightenment ever been
precisely documented and studied? I believe I will reach
this state in a matter of days or weeks.
Sincerely,
Stephane Hemon
======================
Dear reader, I don’t expect any replies, believe it or not. I’ve tried contacting churches, spiritual communities, etc., and they never even reply. Enlightenment is so rare that people won’t believe you when it is happening to you. That, combined with the unconscious proclivity of the ego to avoid Divinity to maintain sovereignty, along with spiritual envy, seem to be the main reasons for this. People can hardly be blamed because they are so unconscious and oblivious to these ego tendencies which are operating outside their own awareness. Most people truly do not know why they do what they do, so they should be forgiven on that basis.
They should at least check me out and test me. Hook my brain up to a machine and look at the phenomena, or something. Those who are reaching Enlightenment should be protected and preserved, should they not? I have heard that about 50% of those who reach this state then leave the body and die. In such a world, I now understand why they leave.
-Stephane
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Stephane

“The Qualifier” (Additional Clarifications)

*QUESTION*

My question is quite simple. You say it is like shopping.
But where to go shopping? OK, I know there are clubs,
parties, etc, but it has never been my living style. I
always kind of let, even waited, for life to happen. I know
there are lots of girls I could have fun with. There are two
things here. On one side, there is lust, urge in my body
that I hope to be able to overcome some day. On the other
side, I could even manifest Love with help of some of these
girls, in spite of not finding them so incredible as the
girl above. So… Are my “qualifying policies” extremely
strict? Should I loosen them? Or are these policies
something very valuable that should not be given up?


>COMMENTS:

“The qualifier” is something that is very complex and includes your beliefs
about women, your views of sexuality, your level of consciousness, your
projections and repressions, romantic fantasies and memories, and so on. All of
these factors, and more, hold together like a filter in your mind/perception
and affect your vision, hearing, data selection and storage, intuition, and
more. With all of this complexity, now you have to go out into the world and
meet women who have their own “qualifier” (mate selection) programming. With
all this incredible complexity, you see how it could take a lifetime of
reflection, meditation, and contemplation, along with education,
psychoanalysis, to really get a solid grasp on this.

Chances are, if you’re not enjoying a healthy and abundant dating life, your
‘qualifier’ has flaws and needs to be updated. Somehow, you’re filtering out
opportunities for companionship. The main things to look for in a woman are
integrity, plus sense of humor, as well as the capacity for forgiveness. Those
should be the minimum qualifications because without basic integrity, love is
not going to be possible. Without a sense of humor, you’re likely in the
presence of danger. And without the capacity for forgiveness, you’re going to
make human mistakes and then be hated for them, plus the woman will usually
slander (destroy your reputation) you with anyone who will listen to her.

So we’ve got humor, integrity, and forgiveness. How to effortlessly attract
these kinds of women into your life is by working on perfecting those three
qualities within yourself. You then automatically radiate out an energy field
that tends to pull such women into it. You’re lighthearted and constantly
making jokes and everyone you come into contact with is laughing heartily, you
have integrity and therefore courage, true strength and confidence, and you
also have the ability to quickly forgive the mistakes of self and others,
therefore, an emotionless joy shines through your eyes which cannot be faked
because it stems from compassion.

As for the complexity of ‘the qualifier’, what happens is simple. Integrity,
humor, and forgiveness/compassion are nonlinear, nonlocal, and absolute
qualities of the field of consciousness, which is the source of your mind, and
as such, these qualities of consciousness are many times more powerful that all
of the complex programming within the mind. By practicing humor, forgiveness,
and integrity, all the time, continuously, the power of these energy fields
will come in and heal all that is ‘wrong’ or lacking within the mind. Note
that even Forest Gump, the idiot with an IQ of only 75, lived his life within a
constant stream of miracles and blessings, because even though his mind was
lacking, his heart was wide open at all times, no matter what, and so his
Spirit saw to it that he was “taken care of.”

Those who life a life which is committed to the level of absolute and total love
to the very best of their ability are in great demand in all areas of life.
They get any job they apply for, and quickly advance within the company. Men
feel greatly honored to be their friend, and women tend to drop whatever
they’re doing for the chance to be with the truly heart-centered man because
they can intuit that he will be able to offer true intimacy.

In the infinite complexities of the modern world, as well as the modern mind,
there is only ONE variable that sets the quality of life, and that is the degree
of the absence or the presence of love. It is therefore the only thing worth
worrying about or striving for in this life. Thanks for your question.

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon


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Stephane

“The Qualifier”

***QUESTION***

Hi Stephane,

I find your materials very eye-opening and wanted
to ask if you could please explain “the qualifier” to
me, in a nutshell. You’ve said that it is one of the
most important paradigm shifts to experience in
the pickup/dating domain, so you have my undivided
attention! :)

>>>COMMENTS:

“The Qualifier” is the fundamental paradigm shift that is
needed. It’s very simple, but can be enormously difficult
to fully comprehend. It’s one thing to read and to ‘know
about’ something, but that’s very different from actually
‘becoming it’. For example, it is one thing to read about
Australia, but that does not make you Australian.

“The Qualifier” takes time plus dedication, patience, and
fixity of purpose before it finally “clicks” (integrates). When
it does finally ’sink in’, pickup and dating automatically
become easy and joyful.

It marks the difference between being the salesman versus
being the consumer. If you are the salesman, then you have
to try to convince the consumer that your product is
valuable. On the other hand, as the consumer, you’re not
trying to convince anyone of anything, but are merely
trying to gather information about the available options
so that you can make an informed decision.

This paradigm shift marks the difference between seeking
approval, versus simply seeking to know the truth about a
woman’s essence. The man doing pickup is to completely let
go of ’selling’ and embrace the fact that he is actually
merely ’shopping’. (Negative emotions such as social
anxiety soon vanish.)

The naive salesman is trying to use force (persuasion,
convincing), whereas the consumer is the one who has the
power. The salesman is trying to ‘get’ money, whereas the
consumer is merely trying to decide if they wish to
‘give’ money.

So, the qualifier style of pickup is one where you let go
of pursuing/begging/desiring/selling/gaming, and instead
substitute those common attitudes with simply wanting to
see if the woman possesses the spiritual qualities that you
insist on having in a girlfriend, e.g., integrity, sense of
humor, emotional intelligence, etc. We live in a world that
is frankly filled with negativity and deception, and the
world of dating is no exception. In the search for someone
who is capable of Love, it is therefore imperative to
develop emotional detachment, as well as the ability to
quickly gather pertinent information, hopefully within just
a few seconds or minutes. (I want to know NOW if she has
integrity or not, and not in six months from now after she
has slept with my best friend.) The qualifier, you might
say, is very attractive to students who no longer wish to
suffer in the dating world. Frequently, most students have
gone through all of the various “dating systems” only
to end up feeling confused, cynical, and hurt. When enough
suffering has been endured, the desire for spiritual truth
grows strong.

At first glance, “the qualifier” attitude, when applied
to the context of pickup/dating, may sound arrogant, but
that is only when it is being viewed from the position of
still being identified with neediness/desire, as well as
sympathy. It also stems from a misunderstanding of what
integrity and nonintegrity mean, which is a whole subject
not suitable for a public newsletter. Being able to tell
the wolves from the sheep is quite advanced, and yet
without this very fundamental skill, the chances of ever
enjoying a truly successful love life are slim to none, as
can be readily seen in today’s world where many people are
either divorced, or else pretending to be happy in order
to ’save face’ and ‘keep the peace’.

“The Qualifier” is a very clinically-detached position
that comes out of an absolute intolerance for ‘evil’. Thus,
it is in deep alignment with truth and valor. Just by
itself, however, we can see that it is still missing
something, and that something is joie de vivre. Thus, when
you can add humor, love, and emotionless joy to “the
qualifier” paradigm, you’re completely done learning
pickup and dating because those were the only necessary
ingredients all along.

Meeting women then becomes a joy, rather than an awful task
or dreaded situation. When rejected, you no longer feel
sadness or shame, because “the qualifier” is actually
immune. Rejection can actually even become somewhat funny,
and at the same time you feel sorry for people (compassion),
not because you’re ‘better’ than anyone, but simply
because you see how much they suffer needlessly, whereas
your own suffering has all but come to an end (as a
consequence of having let go of false perceptions).

Note that it can take a lifetime or three to accomplish
this paradigm shift, as it requires an intense willingness
to surrender fears, desires, beliefs, and everything that
stands in the way of this paradigm so that it fully ripens
and settles and matures. The desire to experience true
Unconditional Love has to mature into a rock-solid decision
and a commitment. Wishful thinking and rose-colored glasses
have to fall by the wayside in the search for true Love, which
is both an ‘inner’, as well as an ‘outer’, search.

To go from wishing for love to actually becoming and sharing
Love with a worthy partner is a very major decision that
gains momentum and eventually supersedes all other
ambitions.

Although the world of today is very familiar with personal
love, it does not know what Spiritual Love is. “The Qualifier”
is merely a useful tool to be used along the road to discovery,
and is to be discarded later on as Knowingness replaces or
eclipses the intellect.

Thus, the purpose of intensive programs such as Womanize is
to gently enable this very major shift to occur. In most
cases, the program will need to be studied over the course
of several years before it all finally “clicks.” The
literary style (as well as the speaking style in the
accompanying videos) is strong and declarative, rather than
the more common manner of writing/speaking which tends to be
more tentative or provisional. This is because the truths
shared are based upon the absoluteness of spiritually-based
subjective Revelation, rather than intellectually-based
experiences, memories of accomplishments, or opinions. The
style of presentation is designed to help facilitate a very
major paradigm shift which is actually well beyond
intellectual comprehension.

WHEW! Thanks for your question :)

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon

http://www.ideagasms.net/how-to-womanize/