***POPULAR QUESTION***

I have Cracking The Male/Female Code Volume One and am
starting to get good at seeing the ego-based patterns in
people; detecting ‘energy vampires’ and people who are not
trustworthy, not fundamentally honest and integrous.

This makes me worry that I am becoming judgmental.

>>>COMMENTS:

Discernment and judging are decidedly not the same thing. To
know that a certain chemical is poisonous does not mean one
has to attack or vilify it, but simply avoid it via the
wisdom of caution. Similarly, a lion will gladly kill and
eat you; this does not mean one needs to judge and condemn
all lions as “evil.” A lion is simply being what it is.

Discernment is clinically-detached and has compassion.
(Compassion is the refusal to suffer based on incorrect
notions, limiting beliefs, fallacious ideologies, and
dualistic perception.)

Discernment does not condemn others, people, places, things,
etc. — it simply avoids them out of humility and the
respect for one’s life.

If there is a crack in the sidewalk or a hole in the ground,
discernment simply walks around the hole, while judgment
yells at the hole and tries to get it to become a ‘non-hole’.

Discernment accepts others as they are, while judgment
rejects, resists, condemns, hates, and seeks revenge.
(Judgment wants to “win”, be “right”, and gain “good
feelings” in the process.)

Discernment simply Witnesses and Observes quietly, standing
back to silently appreciate the beauty; it refrains from
getting over-involved in things or with people on a ’solar
plexus’ or emotionalized level.

Discernment is inclusive of the Totality of All That Is,
while judgment tries to exclude.

Discernment accepts that the infinite field of
consciousness/awareness loves everyone equally, for
consciousness and love are one and the same thing; judgment
holds onto and clings to the kindergarten notion that
unconditional love is “not fair.”

Discernment can observe the ego’s in others and be thankful
that one is being shown the true nature of one’s own ego.
Judgment represses one’s own ego, pretends that it isn’t
the same as the ego of others, goes into denial about it,
and then projects itself out onto others.

Judgment arises out of the guilt and shame of having
an ego.

It believes the ego/mind/personality/intellect and
associated animal-instinctual drives are ‘the me’ and
therefore personal. It then condemns itself and others,
using labels such as “sin”, “evil”, “wrong”, or “immoral.”

Discernment simply Witnesses the collective animal ego from
Compassionate understanding, rather than condemnation or
guilt. As guilt dissolves, there is no more need to project
one’s “dark side” out onto the world or to try to change
the world “out there” because, when seen for what the
ego/mind really is, the world itself is really “in here”
(i.e., perception).

“There is no need to change the world, for the world you
see does not even exist.”

–Ramana Maharshi

“Judgment is Mine, sayeth the Lord.”

–Scripture

“To choose chocolate does not mean one must then hate and
attack vanilla.”

–David R. Hawkins

“It isn’t fair that God loves everybody equally!”

–The Human Ego/Mind

Discernment is one thing; judgment is quite another. The way
to get off judgmentalism is to simply accept that your own
ego/mind is inherently ‘animalistic’ and therefore greedy,
lustful, paranoid, prideful, and ignorant. By accepting the
downside of the ego and refusing to identify with it as
‘the me’, it then becomes like a cute (and highly
entertaining) pet.

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon

***A QUESTION FROM INDIA***

This is [name omitted] from India, the renowned spiritual
country. This is true but now there are so less spiritual
followers in India that you cant even find them. I am an
occasional reader of your archives. Well I have been to
meditation camps where I have learned what is pure
spirituality and karma which is exactly how you describe it.
Well I am right now searching for the right meaning of LOVE.
Well I know learning about religion is almost like learning
about love. But still I am too uneducated to understand it.
Stephane if you can enlighten me in this context that would
be of great great help.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

An education is not necessary, and can actually become a
hindrance as it often results in the illusion of “I already
know all that stuff.”

Love is an invisible energy field of consciousness which
radiates and permeates throughout all of life, however, most
people are largely unaware of it. Love is beyond form, yet
inclusive of form. Love, Truth, and God, and Krishna, are
actually all one and the same thing.

All that truly matters in life is actually invisible (e.g.,
happiness, love, joy, spirituality, etc., and again, these
words ALL mean one and the same thing).

To know Love, you must become it. Love is not an emotion,
but is a way of being in the world. It expresses itself as
your devotion to the Truth, your kind smile to the stranger
on the street, your willingness to be polite instead of
rude, and your ability to be kind with others for the pure
enjoyment of being kind, instead of as an act of
pseudo-kindness because it is the ‘right’ thing to do.

To quickly reach the state of Unconditional Love, you must
approach the following with a certain ‘Rocky Balboa’
attitude, which is a rock-line, unbending, unwavering,
laser-like fixity of focus and devotional dedication:

Be kind, generous, forgiving, and compassionate towards all
of life in all it’s expressions, including with yourself
AND even with your own thoughts, without exceptions,
excuses, rationalizations, justifications, and other
self-deceptions.

Become like a ‘raging bull’ in your attitude toward this
spiritual practice. Make it a priority above everything
else in this world. Love is Power. Commit to this
simple spiritual practice — without exception — and you
will be “richer” than the most educated followers of
religious dogma or ecclesiastical doctrines.

Everything ‘material’ is meaningless, therefore, focus on
your Spirit above everything else. You never know when
your body is going to perish, therefore, waste no time in
your spiritual quest to perfect yourself. Nothing is more
important than, or should take precedence over, your
spiritual evolution.

As you follow this, you will begin to make significant
spiritual progress in a very short period of time. Be
cautious: when certain people see the Love/Innocence
emanating through your eyes, many of them will try to seduce
via charm, lust, wit, sarcasm, etc., and attempt to destroy
you due to malice, envy, and hatred of spiritual Truth, as
your presence is intuited as a threat to those who operate
from selfish pleasure and narcissistic greed and hold
dominion over significantly large portions of the population
(e.g., the media). Love and forgive them no matter what, but
beware of the wolf in sheep’s clothing for they are the
rule rather than the exception, and simply avoid anything or
anyone who is fundamentally dishonest. Many spiritual
aspirants and teachers have reached Unconditional Love and
have been ensnared by these traps and fallen. Therefore, it
is best to be informed about this well in advance.

Print this email and stick it up on your wall and re-read it
constantly. Expect your ego/mind to put up resistance, as it
is of animal origin and is innately infantile. Expect your
ego/mind to ’squirm’, and forgive it continuously.

Learn to Witness your mind, rather than identifying with it
as ‘me’. (This does take some practice.) Rather quickly,
you will progressively become One with Krishna and come to
know what is true Love, which is a subjective experience
that is truly beyond words. It is not an either/or
condition, but a progressive inflow of ‘kundalini’
(spiritual) energy which activates the chakra’s as you
progress (very similar the mercury in a thermometer which
slowly rises in response to heat). The experience of this
energy is profound, and can knock you speechless and send
you into tears of gratitude or states the world will find
difficult to understand. Thanks for your question, and
Godspeed on your inner path.

Many Blessings,
Stephane Hemon

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