*QUESTION*

My question is quite simple. You say it is like shopping.
But where to go shopping? OK, I know there are clubs,
parties, etc, but it has never been my living style. I
always kind of let, even waited, for life to happen. I know
there are lots of girls I could have fun with. There are two
things here. On one side, there is lust, urge in my body
that I hope to be able to overcome some day. On the other
side, I could even manifest Love with help of some of these
girls, in spite of not finding them so incredible as the
girl above. So… Are my “qualifying policies” extremely
strict? Should I loosen them? Or are these policies
something very valuable that should not be given up?

>COMMENTS:

“The qualifier” is something that is very complex and includes your beliefs
about women, your views of sexuality, your level of consciousness, your
projections and repressions, romantic fantasies and memories, and so on. All of
these factors, and more, hold together like a filter in your mind/perception
and affect your vision, hearing, data selection and storage, intuition, and
more. With all of this complexity, now you have to go out into the world and
meet women who have their own “qualifier” (mate selection) programming. With
all this incredible complexity, you see how it could take a lifetime of
reflection, meditation, and contemplation, along with education,
psychoanalysis, to really get a solid grasp on this.

Chances are, if you’re not enjoying a healthy and abundant dating life, your
‘qualifier’ has flaws and needs to be updated. Somehow, you’re filtering out
opportunities for companionship. The main things to look for in a woman are
integrity, plus sense of humor, as well as the capacity for forgiveness. Those
should be the minimum qualifications because without basic integrity, love is
not going to be possible. Without a sense of humor, you’re likely in the
presence of danger. And without the capacity for forgiveness, you’re going to
make human mistakes and then be hated for them, plus the woman will usually
slander (destroy your reputation) you with anyone who will listen to her.

So we’ve got humor, integrity, and forgiveness. How to effortlessly attract
these kinds of women into your life is by working on perfecting those three
qualities within yourself. You then automatically radiate out an energy field
that tends to pull such women into it. You’re lighthearted and constantly
making jokes and everyone you come into contact with is laughing heartily, you
have integrity and therefore courage, true strength and confidence, and you
also have the ability to quickly forgive the mistakes of self and others,
therefore, an emotionless joy shines through your eyes which cannot be faked
because it stems from compassion.

As for the complexity of ‘the qualifier’, what happens is simple. Integrity,
humor, and forgiveness/compassion are nonlinear, nonlocal, and absolute
qualities of the field of consciousness, which is the source of your mind, and
as such, these qualities of consciousness are many times more powerful that all
of the complex programming within the mind. By practicing humor, forgiveness,
and integrity, all the time, continuously, the power of these energy fields
will come in and heal all that is ‘wrong’ or lacking within the mind. Note
that even Forest Gump, the idiot with an IQ of only 75, lived his life within a
constant stream of miracles and blessings, because even though his mind was
lacking, his heart was wide open at all times, no matter what, and so his
Spirit saw to it that he was “taken care of.”

Those who life a life which is committed to the level of absolute and total love
to the very best of their ability are in great demand in all areas of life.
They get any job they apply for, and quickly advance within the company. Men
feel greatly honored to be their friend, and women tend to drop whatever
they’re doing for the chance to be with the truly heart-centered man because
they can intuit that he will be able to offer true intimacy.

In the infinite complexities of the modern world, as well as the modern mind,
there is only ONE variable that sets the quality of life, and that is the degree
of the absence or the presence of love. It is therefore the only thing worth
worrying about or striving for in this life. Thanks for your question.

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon

 ***READER QUESTION***

Dear Stephane,

What, in your opinion, are the fundamentals for living a
truly wondrous life? Looking back on your life, what has
helped you through the more difficult times? What is the
difference between those who lead a great life versus those
who do not?

>>>COMMENTS:

Perhaps the very first key to a wondrous life is to admit
that the Source of your Life comes from Divinity and not the
ego/mind, nor does the Source of Life come from an
intellectualized ‘big bang’ theory/opinion or some kind of
random, accidental event. The Source of your Life comes from
Divinity; you are a child of God and therefore truly Divine;
Life comes from Life.

This is the very first key to a Happy, Joyful Life for it leads to
fundamental Integrity, as well as a sense of inner security
and accountability.

Perhaps the second key to living an incredibly rich and
fruitful life is to admit that there are indeed people on
this planet whom are more evolved than you are. In some
cases, there have been human beings who have reached such an
incredibly high state of evolution within themselves that it
is literally not even possible to imagine, via the human
intellect, just how evolved they truly are. In some cases,
even the term Lord is appropriate, such as in the cases of
Buddha, Krishna, and of course, Jesus Christ.

These are what I feel, at this juncture in my life, are the
two most important keys to life. One, to simply admit that,
“I have no idea where I came from, I have no memory of my
beginning, nor do I have any idea where I’m going.
Therefore, I did not create myself, clearly, but I have been
Created. Life comes from Life.” And two, simply admit
that there are those more evolved than yourself and seek
them out; relinquish your opinions, and listen to what
they have to say. Although people do love to read, rare are
those who truly listen.

Now, the problem with the “God-word” is that it has been
utterly distorted, so much so, that the depictions of God in
the Old Testament are actually somewhat demonic. God
supposedly suffers from psychological disorders (including
jealousy, hatred, and revenge). Although, over 2000 years
ago, Jesus Christ said that God is Love, humans still cling
to their Old Testament. That we are “slow in the head”
doesn’t even begin to describe just how ignorant we truly
are.

The simple act of admitting, “I, of myself, am ignorant”
does not lead to humiliation but to Humility. The human mind
is ill-equipped to discern ‘truth’ from ‘non-truth’ and
even, in many cases, it cannot even discern the very basics
such as being able to tell the ‘good’ from the ‘extremely
rotten’. Thus, in the willingness to admit, “I, of myself,
don’t know much about anything”, it takes one through the
door to Integrity and this is when the true search begins.

Human life is excruciatingly difficult and horribly painful.

That humans even manage to live through the first 20 years
of life without jumping off a bridge or at least getting
hooked on drugs to commit ‘passive suicide’ is enormously
impressive.

After many years of intense devotion to ‘truth-seeking’
(often to the point of tears and frustration and personal
anguish and despair that have reached levels of unnameable
intensities) looking back at all I have lived through, as
well as observing the hardships of other humans whose lives
have possibly been over 100,000 times more difficult than my
own life… that human beings are actually capable of living
through even one single human lifetime impresses me, shocks
me, and places me in a state of Awe that is resulting in
tears as I write these words.

Human life is horrendously difficult, and the simple fact
that people are actually attempting to live out their lives
totally alone and without the awareness of the Presence of
God in their lives… To not know the basic truth that
Divinity is the Source of your own Existence… to not even
have this very basic truth to be able to count on… and to
continue ‘plowing forth’ day after day in a world filled with
dangers, traps, chaos, war, lies, criminality, poverty,
disease, torture, and… the amount of suffering in this
world is so astronomical that as I wrote these last few
words I needed to step outside, wipe off my tears and smoke
a cigarette!!

That people actually try to live out their lives alone and
without prayer, contemplation, meditation, and the constant
re-reading of spiritual texts to remind them each and every
single day of their lives that they come from Divinity…
one can’t help but feel enormeous compassion for people.

Although religionism is a good start, unless it matures into
spirituality, a truly blissful and happy life is not likely.

It is one thing to hold a belief/opinion of God in mind, but
it is quite another to acknowledge that God is the Source of
your Life and is therefore Within you. Jesus Christ said,
“The Kingdom of Heaven is within you”; He did not say that
Heaven is ‘out there’ somewhere up in the clouds or in
some other time or place. So this is probably the main key
difference between religionism and true spirituality, as far
as I know. Religion tends to see God as an ‘out there’
human-like parent, while Spirituality recognizes God is
‘in here’ as consciousness itself. Spirituality sees Life,
Love, Consciousness, Awareness, and God as all one and
the same thing.

Perhaps every man would be very fortunate to ask himself:
“While lying on my (rapidly approaching) death bed, of what
good will be my opinions?” When seen for what they are,
opinions are inherently worthless. Therefore, to simply
acknowledge that there are some Beings on this planet who
have evolved themselves to such a degree that it is not even
possible for us to comprehend them intellectually… is a
very good place to start. To hear that there is such a thing
as Truth is already a great Blessing, for many have not even
heard of such a thing.

To find an appropriate teacher is likely the greatest
Blessing of all, because a teacher has traversed through the
many pathways and pitfalls and can tell you where the
landmines are. In my lifetime, the greatest Blessing of all
came on the day when I discovered my teacher, and since
then, I have married a good woman and together we have
practiced surrendering to our teacher’s wisdom (by letting
go of our own opinions) a little more each day, as best we
can. The rewards have been multitudinous and in some cases
what the world calls ‘miraculous’.

There are many great teachers available, and some of them
are appropriate at certain times in your life, yet won’t
likely be very appropriate later on. Every human being is a
teacher to the lesser-evolved humans, and a student to the
humans which are more highly-evolved.

There is an old adage: “Teach only Love.”

Therefore, once you’ve even heard that there is such a
thing as Love, if you can find someone who is even slightly
more advanced than you are and they teach Love, do not throw
away the opportunity or waste any time. To have even heard
of Love is already a profound Gift from God that, when seen
for what it is, is your Divine ‘inner calling’.

Love is the Source of your Life; the greater your degree of
awareness and understanding of this simple spiritual fact,
the greater your life will become.

A great place to start discovering Higher Awareness right
here and right now (and actually quite rapidly), is to make
the decision to stop with the inner talking, commenting,
editorializing, and useless babbling within your mind.

Although this may be difficult in the beginning due to the
addiction of inner rambling and the pleasure derived from it,
it very rapidly leads one to the discovery of the Presence
of God within. Bliss-Ecstasy-Joy states will be almost
continuous, as all doubt progressively dissolves in due
time. Just be quiet and the rest will come to you.

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon

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