QUESTION FROM A WOMAN:

I am a single bisexual woman who is very feminine, confident, straightforward, truth-seeking, and inter-dependant. I have used the same technique you described with men, only to have the men respond by shrinking into their egos and quaking in their shoes. The technique works on women without a second thought. Any suggestions for working this with men?

Peace and blessings…

MY COMMENTS:

Yes, most men are sheep, not leaders.

Women ask me this one all the time, and I don’t have much advice for women. The thing is that when I change the MAN, the women also changes. So, I work with men.

But, I will say this: You will usually attract your reciprocal. Get to work on yourself, on overcoming your fears, get to work on your Chakra, on meditation, on your physical attractiveness. As a woman, I’m sure you know exactly what improvements you can make, to get yourself ready for the day when a “real man” comes along.

I wish I had more to offer, but I don’t.

(Guys - they are out there, waiting for you to “man up”.)

QUESTION FROM A MAN:

Stephane, running a circle of three women sounds more like a pain in the ass than anything else. All these posts of yours only talk about “spankings” and how to overcome arguments and such problems. Why do you bother?

MY COMMENTS:

Let’s exagerrate this and imagine that on an average day, I need to spend 10 minutes “spanking” each girl, for a total of 30 minutes a day.

For the other 23 hours and 30 minutes of the day, I’m surrounded by loving, sweet, caring, beautiful, healing, balanced Yin Energy women, and we are having the time of our lives. They support me in many ways, they help me to run ideaGasms, they cook for me, clean for me, run errands, schedule appointments, do research for me… what I get in return for helping them to move beyond the painbody is IMMENSE. They are my family.

But, I rarely talk about the good stuff, you are right.

How much value would you guys get if the only thing I posted was, “I got a three-way blowjob this morning. Veronika did my laundry while I meditated in the bath, then we went out for lunch, and Ghita was so sweet because she jumped on me and hugged me so tightly that I fell over and knocked somebody’s wine all over them… then we went shopping, and to the movies, then I read a book to the girls and we all massaged each other. Then, we were very hungry, so the girls made dinner while I posted on my blog. Then, we had some more sex, followed by cuddling and laughing and giggling and cooing.”

Sure, you might get a BONER and a good, strong dose of JEALOUSY… but that is hardly valuable learning…

The reason I mainly post the “spanks” is because, well, it’s why you’re all here. I look at the questions you guys send me, and they are all about how to overcome certain specific challenges or “tests” that women offer us… You’re here because you want to learn how to be the “pack leaders” in a strong, dominant, balanced, and heart-centered way. I’m the Ceaser Millan of women, I’m The Chick Whisperer

Blessings and spanks,
Stephane