Stephane Hemon, ideaGasms FAQ

“You teach unconditional love, but if I love everybody unconditionally won’t I just turn in to a weak and needy wuss?”

You’ll turn into the opposite of a “needy wuss” because unconditional love greatly loves and values its own life, and not just the lives of others. Those who truly love their own life will not tolerate negativity or manipulation from others, nor do they themselves manipulate others. That said, they do not attack the negative, but merely avoid it, as they prefer to accentuate the positive.

The majority of the teachings in the dating community that teach about being an “alphamale” who is ostensibly “not a wuss” because “he doesn’t apologize for his manly desires” is very naive and limited, as is “cocky funny” and the desire to cause attraction in others. Frequently, online dating schools actually reverse the truth about love so that it becomes associated with weakness. In reality, however, nothing in this world is as strong or powerful as Love, which is not desire, infatuation, or emotionality at all but is actually devoid of those things. True Love is an emotionless state of joy, and it arises from the awareness of the Source of one’s Existence, which is the field of consciousness, i.e., God/Divinity.

The way to reach the state of Unconditional Love is to let go of every thought, opinion, emotion, and belief that stands in its way. It then auto-reveals itself as a silent knowingness and becomes one’s true identity, well beyond one’s identification with the body-mind. This state is many times more profound than can be imagined or understood intellectually.

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“Why did you start ideaGasms?”

I followed the best-known teachings of the “online dating community” to their ultimate end, and thus entered an extremely agonizing state in which the belief that “love is a naive non-truth and relationships are merely all about animal instinctual drives and ego programming” presented itself. The thought that “love is not real” was like a nightmare, and it felt like I was being presented with a choice of either continuing to be a “naive idiot who believes in love” or to accept the “cold, hard reality that love is just a romantic fantasy.” All of this was not verbalized as such, but was more like a general feeling of intense pain in the center of my chest.

Love had always been my sole purpose for living, my raison d’etre, my primary concern in life. It took precedence over everything else. Without the existence of love, the only choice for someone like me would be to commit suicide. This agony was intense, and I curled up into a little ball on the floor and fell asleep whimpering and sobbing.

The next day when I awoke, the whole world seemed to have been transformed. Colors were brighter, things seemed to move in slow motion, and everyone looked beautiful, radiant, and very lovable. This state only lasted for a short time, but it resulted in the goal to achieve Unconditional Love “no matter what.” I wanted that state/condition to become permanent, so I launched ideaGasms because I knew that I would have to immerse myself in speaking, writing, etc., and becoming Love. It took a little longer than I hoped it would take, and the road was more painful and difficult (and publicly embarrassing) than I could have ever imagined, but today this state has become my permanent condition. Love isn’t something I “do” or “feel” as an emotion. Love is what I am. This is difficult to describe, and the world is very suspicious and skeptical concerning such matters.

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“What is your goal as the teacher?”

For at least one other person to reach this state. My wife (who was a student before we were married) has reached it, so we’ve both succeeded in this. It would be nice to see one more person reach this state before I die, but I’m overjoyed when I merely see the student putting in a sincere effort. With willingness, they’ll reach the goal in due time. I don’t care how far along the path someone is, I only care about their teachability, which is a quality very few students possess. The average student will read and listen, but they will not put anything into practice. However, if they immerse themselves in the materials to re-read and re-listen and re-watch everything, they will soon begin to understand the profound significance of all this, and there will then be an intense “fire in the belly.” This is when they become teachable, because nothing will stop them. Once the “fire” is there, you couldn’t stop them even if you killed them. No train wreck can put out such a fire because it is a spiritual experience.

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“What does it take for a student to really ‘get’ the things that you teach?”

They need basic integrity, otherwise they will not understand a single sentence on this very page. In other words, if you are left-brain dominant, I won’t be a suitable teacher for you. But if you are right-brain dominant and are therefore capable of comprehending many non-linear spiritual values such as humility, integrity, and empathy, I consider you to be quite “ripe.” Unfortunately, it’s not possible to even “hear” me if you’re left-brained, and actually the left-brain is totally paranoid about right-brain phenomena. It doesn’t trust spiritual reality because it can’t.

That said, as someone who teaches, it is my spiritual responsibility to believe in you. Not a single person on this planet is hopeless because everyone here comes from Life. You are Life, and all of Life is evolutionary by design. When a student comes to me, I hold in mind that Unconditional Love consciousness is his or her eventual destiny. Before that can happen, they must first let go of thinking they know everything already. This is the great delusion almost everyone suffers from. People presume that their own view of the world represents Reality. Most people are not open to new learning, because that would mean they have been “wrong” all this time. But, it isn’t that you have been “wrong”, it’s just that you have been limited. The key to happiness and love is to gradually become unlimited.

In the context of teaching about relationships, most people often naively presume that they know everything already and that it is the world which is always at fault. They have romantic fantasies whenever they encounter someone they like. They expect that someday, they will find someone who understands that they already know everything. They secretly desire someone to come along and confirm their own narcissistic viewpoints, and they presume someone will eventually come along who can read their mind’s, give them exactly what they want, and make all of that pain go away. To help someone let go of this delusion is extremely difficult because it is a delusion that helps them to avoid responsibility and accountability. Thus, we fantasize about love because we are unwilling to become love. For that, you have to let go of all of your non-love, and people don’t want to face these things because it would make them feel guilty or ashamed.

In truth, the only way to find love in this world is to become it, and that is something that is easier said than done. However, if they are coming to me, it’s my job to envision that they are going to reach Unconditional Love, and then to do whatever I can to help them see all of the ways they are still in denial. You try to get them to see how they are pushing love away and making excuses and holding onto certain programs. If they have the humility to be able to admit, “My mind doesn’t know what reality actually is”, they become open to seeing things differently. They become dissatisfied with negativity and suffering and being angry and afraid all the time, and they become willing to stop “looking” for the right person and instead, to become that person. The so-called “special one” can only be found when you, yourself, have become such a person.

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“What does your Inbox look like? What kind of emails do you get?”

I mainly get emails from people who are appreciative of the articles, and I also get emails from people who are on the verge of breaking up, or they’ve just been cheated on or something like that. They’re usually willing to learn something when they are in a lot of pain. I also get a lot of frustrated 20 to 30-something-year-old virgins, and an enormous amount of men who are shy and thus unable to approach women, or unable to convert things into a solid date. Most men are so accustomed to rejection and “flaking” that they don’t even think anything else is even possible. Naively, most people assume looks and status are all that matters, while others naively assume that only “game” (conversational ninjahood) is what counts. Many times more than these mundane factors, it is your level of self-awareness that is the most potent area to work on.

I also get a ton of “hate mail” from people who don’t understand what I teach, i.e., left-brained people. They almost always suffer from the illusion that they already know everything, and this is tragi-comical because in fact, just about everything they know is totally fallacious and even downright dangerous. If you pursue your ego, it’ll take you straight to hell every single time. If you’re suffering in your life and are unhappy, it’s because you’re aligned with false ideas. Nothing in your life is the fault of someone else. Finding “the right person” is not possible when you, yourself, are the “wrong person.” It’s not possible to find happiness in this world. For that, you must go within. To go within, you need to remove your belief systems. Nothing the world believes is actually true. Smoking doesn’t cause cancer, beliefs cause cancer. Guilt also causes cancer, but let’s not go there. Anyway, the number one thing left-brained folks love to do is to condescend me and try to set me straight. They cannot be blamed for this condition. Jesus and Buddha have both stated that the only “sin” is that of ignorance, which is not a consequence of “evil” but is a consequence of the innocence of the human mind, which is extremely naive and easily programmed.

I also get so much spam that I must hold some kind of world record or something. I get hundreds a day, with a surprising amount of offers to look at people having sex with farm animals. Are people really that into farm animals? I probably have more email filters and spam-blockers than anyone you know, and they still manage to get 20+ spams to my Inbox, daily. Nothing can stop the spammers and the bloggers! They are like gum stuck to my shoe.

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“Why is there such a strong emphasis on spirituality?”

The Spirit is the same as Consciousness itself, which is the very source and substrata of your existence. Although the left-brained person thinks I’m speaking jibberish, Jesus, Krishna, and Buddha would disagree with the materialist-skeptic. It’s not possible to change your life, reduce your suffering, enjoy a healthy relationship, overcome shyness, get your pickup and dating life in order, lose weight, heal an illness, and live a life that is filled with great sex, laughter, joy, and happiness without learning about spirit/consciousness.

More than learning “about” spiritual love, you must also be willing to become it. We humans pay great lip service to love, we sing songs about it and make movies about it and say “I love you”, but it is just talk, and talk is cheap. To understand Love, you need to identify yourself as it. For that to happen, it has to become your number one priority in life. If it’s number two, you won’t get there.

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“I am new to this stuff, do you hate me because I’m stupid?”

It’s not possible to “hate” anyone in this state. In fact, to even have a hateful thought would be very subjectively painful. Hatred is unthinkable at this point. Compassion is not something I “do” or “think”, it is what I am progressively becoming. In this state, people are not seen as stupid, immoral, or evil, they are seen as merely lacking in love. All humans are lovable by virtue of their source being Divine. While the majority of mankind is not aware they are Divine, I know that they are Divine in the very core of my Being. Moreover, I don’t see people as being victims or perpetrators of each other, I see everyone as merely being the victim of the ego itself. It is the ego/mind that precludes this kind of simple awareness.

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“What is your role and responsibility as someone who teaches love, pickup, sex, relationships, etc.?”

I see my teaching function as having three main roles and responsibilities. First, I must try to inspire the student by continually striving to perfect myself, i.e., to seek Enlightenment every single day without exception. Second, to help the student remove their denial. Most humans are really just in a state of denial. And third, to expect excellence; a teacher needs to have the courage to help you see your limitations, while also being considerate of your feelings. In other words, you help them to become aware of the ego’s narcissistic pride, negative thought patterns, fallacious viewpoints, etc., while doing your best to keep them from falling down into self-hatred and shame by helping them to expand their awareness of context and meaning.

I’m not responsible for the student’s progress, but I am responsible for my intention and effort. The rest I leave up to them, and to God. Frequently, they do experience shame and end up hating me for life, either secretly or very overtly. It comes with the territory.

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“I am already advanced with women and dating, is there anything I can learn from you?”

It depends how you define “advanced.” If you’re the best pickup artist in the world, or even the best pickup instructor, you’re not very advanced because if you were, you would no longer live that kind of lifestyle. “Scoring chicks” is very mundane and unimpressive. Although the masses see you as a “hero”, the more spiritually evolved person sees you as an innocent/naive child. The majority of the women you sleep with are non-integrous and thus incapable of empathy and love. There are also karmic consequences to this. Mostly it involves cynicism, depression, disillusionment, misogyny, self-hatred, and frequent trips to hell.

I myself, one night in deep meditation, had to clear out tons of ‘karmic baggage’ due to an abundant dating life, so I know what these guys are going to someday experience once they decide they truly want Love in their lives. Jesus said you do not get to Heaven until you have paid up every last cent. Every lie, every belief, every opinion, all the pain you have caused others, every mistake you have made, all the innocence you have lost. Every hair on your head is counted; that’s a fact. I wouldn’t argue with someone like Jesus. I can recall nights when I was lying in bed, shaking, shivering, whimpering, etc., and even almost “puking” these energy fields out of my psyche. All the shortcuts I took, all the half-truths I told women to get them into bed, all the porn I indulged in my youth, and all of these hundreds of memories of past dates and broken relationships kept coming up all night long until I passed out from extreme exhaustion. Subjectively, it felt like I was a junkie coming down off heroin or crack-cocaine. It was horrible, and so I have an idea of what it means to “pay up every last cent.”

What scares me is that I’ve never been much of a “badboy” in the first place. I’ve slept with a lot of girls, yes, but I’ve always been considerate and very loving. I’ve said and done stupid things, yes, but none of them were really “that bad.” I recall only cheating on somebody once, and I was only about sixteen at the time. So, I see these “pickup instructors” telling their stories of sexual conquest and innocence lost, and they don’t realize that they’re playing games with their Eternal Soul. Hell isn’t a punishment, but is merely the natural consequence of one’s decisions, actions, and especially one’s intentions. I’m thinking of some of the most well-known pickup guru’s, and I really do feel sorry for them. “Every last cent” is not a joke. Anyway, it seems that we humans need to learn everything the hard way, so I’m not “anti” community by any stretch of the imagination. It helped me to hit a “rock bottom” state, and thus to make significant spiritual progress. In 12-step groups, it is a well-known fact that addiction frequently allows people to hit “rock bottom”, which is a state of inner hell that can cause the ego to finally let go. Bill W., the founder of AA, also hit “rock bottom” and then went on to become rather Saintly and to then be in a position to help millions of people. A well-known teaching in spirituality is that one can only go as high as they have been low. Every single human being on this planet serves all mankind, often in unrecognized ways.

The perfection of love and relationships is many times more “advanced” (and thus difficult to achieve) than the world realizes. Unless both partners are consciously seeking Enlightenment and seeing/feeling/experiencing impressive progress on a daily basis, seven days a week, 365 days a year, they are still very much in denial. To not seek God is to be in denial.

The state of unconditional love is the level of consciousness where true happiness becomes possible. Cookies, blow-jobs, fancy cars, high paying careers, ice-cream cones, video games, and social approval do not even come close. As I discovered, even daily threesomes do not lead to happiness. Funny how these things usually lead in the opposite direction if you’re not careful.

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“Why doesn’t your wife, Greta, teach?”

She makes an appearance on the forums every now and again, but being Polish, her English is good-but-not-great. She will likely start teaching at a later date, but right now she’s more interested in first reaching Enlightenment. Currently, we’re working on a huge program on sexuality, and she has been contributing some articles of her own. Also, the majority of my students are men, and frankly, I can teach them about how to be with women much more clearly and any woman ever could, by virtue of the fact that I have so much experience with women. I also know how to speak to the “online dating community”; I know all the lingo, I’m very familiar with what everyone else is teaching, what the dualities and traps are, and I know how men think.

The world is also quite judgmental and often confuses a Polish accent with stupidity. Men also often presume themselves to be “better” than women. So these are just a few reasons why she doesn’t teach, but there are more.We’re happy to run ideaGasms as we run it today, and have no complaints.

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“Many people credit you with being a genius and say that you have helped them tremendously, while others attack and demonize you. Why is there so much ‘love/hate’ surrounding Stephane Hemon and ideaGasms.net?”

Genius is confused with a high IQ, but actually it merely denotes one’s ability to offer an unusually high degree of insight in any given area of human life. In this case, ideaGasms reflects a decidedly high level of wisdom regarding pickup, dating, sex, and relationships, which is a gift which can be offered to the world thanks to a lifetime of enormous drive, devotion, perseverance, concentration, etc., as well as an abnormally high commitment to spiritual integrity and humility.

Genius merely reflects the ability to bypass the intellectual mind and thereby access high-energy ‘attractor fields’ within the non-linear domain of consciousness itself, and is therefore a Gift. Genius is something that is accessible to all, however, few are motivated to discover it. The average person is not interested in truth at all, but instead seeks merely to confirm their own viewpoints, usually via social validation from others. If you can run a blog or even get on ‘The View’ and have others agree with your opinions… this is “happiness” for most people. The truly mundane is apparently considered satisfactory in this world.

The way society frequently handles their geniuses is to demonize and attack them, or else to be indifferent toward them and to completely ignore them. Any history major knows that. There’s only a small percentage of people capable of appreciating genius and learning from it. I’m certain that Carl Jung, being a genius himself, would agree.

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“If someone confidently states they are gifted or even a genius, doesn’t that mean they lack humility?”

No, it does not. Most of the so-called humility that goes on in the world is actually only pseudo-humility and thus a form of prideful play-acting. True humility does not need to posture, or else pretend that it doesn’t know the truth about itself. It is OK for a genius to know what they are, just as it is OK for a beautiful playboy model to know she’s beautiful. It’s not necessary to play dumb.

The majority of geniuses characteristically intuit that they are merely Gifted, thus, they give thanks to a Higher Power instead of narcissistically taking credit. True genius does not come from a personal self or ego. Genius is therefore not seen as “me” or “mine”, nor does it lead to feeling entitled or special.

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“Many people have said that they truly enjoy your articles and recordings, but that your frequent use of the word “God” makes them uncomfortable.”

The are usually four main reasons for this. One, the narcissistic core of the ego is in direct competition with God. Its primary motivations have to do with greed/gain as well as protecting the illusion that it is the source of its own existence and is therefore a sovereign, separate self. Thus, we often resist the “G-word” and do not even understand why. Most people are largely unaware of why they think what they think, decide what they decide, feel what they feel, and do what they do. People ask, “Why is meditation so difficult? My mind drives me crazy!” Well, your mind is in competition with the Almighty. Now that you have been made aware of this, the competitiveness itself has already been weakened. The simple Awareness of the ego’s inherent programs is, in itself, very powerful; awareness is many times more powerful than the ego, which is nothing but a series of programs.

Second, many have had very negative family and church upbringings, such as negative depictions of God as being prone to human weaknesses such as jealousy and anger and revenge, as well as the unfortunate religious proclivity to be obsessed with sin and righteousness.

And third, the majority of atheist’s are secretly attempting to alleviate guilt by pretending there is no God and therefore no accountability for their actions.

And fourth, the naive still presume God is a human-like person, sitting on a throne in some faraway place called Heaven. As Jesus correctly stated, “The kingdom of Heaven is within you.” If the word ‘God’ makes you uncomfortable, realize it can be substituted for words like Truth, Love, Consciousness, Awareness, Allness, Universe, Non-duality, the Garden of Eden, Heaven, Krishna, and so on.

A further recommendation at this point would be to frankly get over yourself and your narcissism. To even state that a word makes you “uncomfortable” is very childish and arrogant. Although narcissism is popular, it leads in the direction called hell, which is not a place, but is an inner condition linked to anguish and suffering.

I like the word ‘God’ because I experience Love when I say it, but I don’t experience nearly as much Love when I say, “the universe” or “the field of awareness.”

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“Are you Enlightened/Awakened/Illuminated?”

Not yet. The state I am in currently is that of Unconditional Love, or semi-Enlightenment, as is my wife Greta. It is more-or-less the level-of-consciousness which is experienced by some very well-known people such as the Dalai Lama and the current Pope. They are not Enlightened, but they are not exactly ordinary either. They are said to have one foot in the Divine World, and the other foot in the concrete world of form. That describes my experience also.

At almost all times, there is a band of energy (called ‘kundalini’) which very noticeably flows up the spine and into the back of the brain. This energy then goes down the front of the face, and the entire body is “bathed” in endorphins, oxytocin, etc. In meditation, this condition often reaches intensities that can be somewhat painful, as if the hands, feet, and head are filling up like balloons from within, and simultaneously getting crushed from without, as if by enormous water or air pressure. There is also a constant ringing in the ears, but it is exquisitely pleasurable. The five senses are also very noticeably enhanced. It is as though one can hear a worm traveling across a leaf. Visually, everything appears more radiant, colorful, luminescent, and alive.

Experientially, this current condition/state is actually almost identical to the state of being high on pure MDMA (“Ecstasy”). Thoughts are few and far between, and there is a profound inner silence which is actually in the foreground, whereas in the state experienced by most humans, the silence is either in the background, or else it is not even noticed at all. My state is one of almost continuous joy, peace, love, bliss, and happiness which is constant about 98% percent of the time. This is not the joy of a sudden pleasant turn of events, nor the result of the accomplishment of a goal, but is a constant state that has no external cause.

This isn’t to say that this state is perfect. No, the other 2% can be extremely agonizing and can even reach degrees known as the “dark night of the soul”, which is actually a dark night for the ego itself because it is dissolving and disappearing fairly rapidly at this point. It’s as though the closer you get, the faster you get closer and even closer still. God pulls you in like a giant, all-powerful electromagnetic or electrostatic field. At times, in meditation, there are states of satori and samadhi, as well as visions of outer light (light which is actually inner, but appears as though being outer). While these advanced states of consciousness are known to be a sign that Enlightenment (a silent-mind condition which is preceded by “ego death”) can happen any day now, there is also a humble knowingness that this may also take many more years. At this point, “time” is of little concern. When one feels like a purring kitty at almost all times, there’s very little desire or ambition or even thoughts about the past and future.

A notable accompaniment to this current state/condition is an uncanny ability to be able to tell who is integrous and who is not. This comes as a knowingness, and not via the intellect. Although I can teach discernment with impressive clarity and elucidation, not a single student has thus far been able to learn it to any significant degree, although a few are by now well on their way. Discernment of essence is a consequence of the field, and not of the intellect. However, the information shared does “sink in” and it assists students to reach this state. When you can tell the difference between that which is integrous vs. non-integrous, it’s mainly because you’ve let go of judgmentalism. As the so-called ‘third-eye’ begins to open (spiritual clarity), your actual eyesight will change like you wouldn’t believe. It’s like being high on magic mushrooms. It has nothing to do with seeing ghosts or “other dimensions”; it is all about being able to see the difference between perception/appearance versus essence/meaning/truth. This is where you can finally see the wolf if sheep’s clothing. Nobody can fool you, con you, or mislead you anymore. My discernment isn’t perfect yet, but it’s usually more than sufficient.

People are great actors and I think they all deserve Academy Awards. The amount of deception, and especially self-deception, that goes on in the world is about ten thousand times greater than most people realize. My wife and I are usually in a state of shock half the time.

There’s no desire to read books or to learn anything new anymore. It can be somewhat difficult to read books, as most of them are highly complex with too many pointless details. For example, recently in a medical clinic waiting room, I picked up a copy of Time Magazine because some of the articles seemed very interesting. But, as I opened the magazine and attempted to read, I became overwhelmed by the enormeous complexity and over-explanations in each article. I just want to know the essence of something. In this state, reading a 2000 word article just to learn one or two things seems very overwhelming and pointless. The world is enamored with complexity, and while I’m certain the articles in that Time Magazine were probably good, I just couldn’t be bothered. To use the intellect requires enormous amounts of effort and energy, more so than the average person realizes. You realize this as you learn to let the mind go, and find out that you barely require any sleep anymore. At this point, a few hours a night is sufficient, and there has also been a marked decrease in appetite. My wife has been experiencing these same symptoms almost verbatim, so it’s nice to have a confirmation that I’m not going crazy or else just imagining things.

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“I get paranoid when you teach this ‘non-integrity’ stuff. I’m suspicious of everyone now. How do I know whom I can trust? I’ve become afraid of my own granny! My dog looks like he is just using me for food.”

You can only trust about 15% of humankind (about half of Americans), and your dog sincerely loves you. The first thing you can look for is to simply observe how much a person values their own life, as well as how much they value the lives of others. The problem, of course, is that even the people who hate themselves and others are often very functional in society. They are teachers and priests, students and world leaders, rich and poor. Instead of paranoia, I recommend a healthy caution. Love your brothers and sisters, but keep your eyes wide open. Lend them books, and see which of your books come back.

And most of all, stay away from those who don’t have a sense of humor and can’t laugh at themselves. Any psychiatrist would tell you the same thing: The humorless are dangerous. Also take a look at anyone who can’t admit their downside (although many are clever and love to openly share their flaws so as to make you think they can be trusted).

This is the best I can offer anyone on a public website. To truly learn this from me, you’ll need to become a student and come join us on our forums so we can get to work. Unless someone reaches the level of consciousness which includes all of the above-mentioned symptoms of the Unconditional Love state, true discernment is not likely. Although I am very impressed with O’Reilly! He hasn’t reached unconditional love, but he does have an uncanny talent for spotting the wolf in sheep’s clothing. As a rule of thumb, if O’Reilly doesn’t like or trust someone, that person is non-integrous. Moreover, those who find The O’Reilly Factor disagreeable (or even hate it) are themselves usually non-integrous, as is about 75% of the media currently in America. About 50% of the internet is also completely non-integrous, which is currently the world’s greatest source of propaganda and disinformation.

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“There’s quite a few bloggers all over the internet who criticize you, and even accuse you of criminality. I just don’t know who to believe anymore.”

Approximately 85% of humanity is non-integrous, as can be scientifically demonstrated using (kinesiology) muscle-testing. All of the people who accuse me of criminality are not only incorrect & completely non-integrous, but they clearly have malicious intentions. The majority of them are ex-girlfriends, ex-students, ex-friends, and even some of my own family members. Again, using muscle-testing, all of these people (without exception) have been found to be non-integrous, as the muscles go weak in response to holding each of them (or their blogs) in mind. One can simply navigate to any one of their blogs, for example, or to hold any one of these bloggers in mind, and the muscles will go weak. On the other hand, holding this author and/or this website (ideaGasms.net) will cause the muscles to go strong. As Dr. John Diamond correctly states, “Your body doesn’t lie.”

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“You have often been accused of being a cult-leader.”

The accusation is fallacious (non-integrous), as a cult-leader is interested in controlling the lives of their followers. I have no such interests and clearly never have.

I do, however, insist that the students who post on our forums are humble, courteous, and have a sincere desire to learn. If they are not happy about what I teach, I sometimes insist that they find a teacher who is more suitable to them. This has nothing to do with controlling their lives at all, but has to do with protecting my own, as well as protecting my students from negativity. The duty of a shepherd is to keep the wolves away from his flock. A teacher is supposed to keep the rebellious students out of his classroom so that he can do his job in peace. If someone is not on my forums to learn from me, common sense would have them going somewhere else. The average person is not ruled by common sense or even basic morality and ethics, but by negative emotions and belief systems.

Without exception, each and every single person online who slanders and libels me was someone who I banned from our forums, otherwise they are ex-friends, family, and ex-girlfriends whom I “banned” from my personal life for a variety of reasons, including the fact that they revealed themselves to be non-integrous. When people feel rejected, watch your back. Also, as any honest man who has had many girlfriends will attest to, the majority of women will usually slander you when the relationship is over, especially if it was they who brought the most negativity into the relationship to begin with (and therefore had to be dismissed). They frequently then seek social validation/agreement and will frequently go to almost any length to get it. To bear false witness against you is something they will literally enjoy. “Playing the victim” is many times more popular than we realize. (We don’t realize it because we ourselves still play it to an extent.)

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“Are people your students, or are they merely your ‘followers’?”

To even want “followers” is very childish. What would I do with followers? Have them follow me around? I would have to rent a bus or something, and I would constantly have to look over my shoulder to make sure my “followers” are still following me. Then I would have to take attendance to make sure they don’t wander off and get lost. No thanks. I’m just here to share what I have become with others, in the hopes of helping them to relieve some of their suffering. A cult leader wants to control the personal lives of his followers, but I don’t even ask students for testimonials. So much for being a cult leader. In fact, many students have tried to behave like ‘followers’ and I had to ask them to leave the forum. “Hero worshipers” are weak, and weak people are dangerous.

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“You used to date three women at a time. Does that not make you a cult leader, or in the very least, a controlling egomaniac?”

It only means what people want it to mean. The true purpose of my dating multiple women in those days was to try to understand the female ego as best I could. These kinds of experiences with multiple girlfriends has afforded me an education that would make even the best psychiatrists drool. Books are one thing; three women in bed is quite another. Although this lifestyle eventually had to come to an end, the lessons I learned from all of this have been priceless. For instance, I learned that there is no such thing as a “bisexual” woman. It’s usually just a seduction game they play so as to seem more valuable in the eyes of men. Although they can be very convincing, they are still merely play-acting. Too bad

Furthermore, I learned how to generally be able to detect when I am being lied to, as well as how to tell when someone is deceiving themselves. The main thing that can be said about my previous lifestyle is that it indeed “seemed like a good idea at the time.” As Robin Williams has said, God is very mean because he gave man a brain and a penis, but only enough blood to use one at a time.

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“You’ve been accused of saying that ‘free speech’ is not welcome on your forums.”

As long as the intent behind one’s ‘free speech’ is integrous, I’m fine with it. Students are encouraged to share their views, questions, and concerns. If they disagree with something I share with them, I am open to a discussion so long as they are not trying to force their own opinions or proselytize. I do, however, reserve the right to make my own decisions regarding what is, and what is not acceptable on my own private forums.

Opinions are worthless; the only thing that holds any weight with me is verifiable Truth itself, as revealed by the Great Teachers of Enlightenment, e.g., Gandhi, Theresa, Jesus, Hawkins, Buddha, Maharaj, Huang Po, et al. What I am doing with ideaGasms is to apply the very Highest Truths towards pickup, dating, sex, relationships, and marriage. It’s possible, for example, to go out and conduct yourself in a way with women that leads you directly towards the Gates of Heaven, e.g., see my latest Womanize program.

It is my responsibility to stand in integrity. To allow others to control the way I run my own forum would be non-integrous as well as immature and stupidly irresponsible. Inasmuch as I literally teach people how to detect and handle “wolves” and to walk away from them, it goes without saying that I am someone who is going to be consistently tested. Whatever you declare to the world is going to attract people to come by and try to test you; it comes with the territory. I’m not teaching things that are destined to be popular with the masses.

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“You’ve been accused of drinking alcohol and doing drugs, and that the sole purpose of running ideaGasms is so that you can support your habits.”

Again, all of the slander and libel found online is non-integrous and has malicious intent, i.e., to purposely try to demonize my reputation and thereby undermining trust. I have almost always been a recreational user of drugs and alcohol, and I have never hidden this from anyone. In fact, all of the people who complain about me are folks who used to come over to my house and “party” with me (usually afforded by my own generosity). Somehow, they always forget to mention the part of the stories where they themselves were having a very good time.

My favorite drug is MDMA, and my least favorite drugs are “pot” and cocaine because those drugs lead directly to paranoia and restlessness and shame. My favorite alcoholic beverage is red wine, particularly wine from Napa Valley, 2003. I’ve often recommended that people try to get their hands on some pure MDMA, as it can allow (integrous) people to experience states of unconditional love. The high of MDMA is one of the experiences in my youth which spurred me on to reach the state of Unconditional Love via the pursuit of spiritual truth and meditation. My current (all-natural) state is slightly higher than that which can be experienced when high on MDMA.

The reason we humans drink and do drugs is because we long to feel the Presence of our own Spirit. It isn’t the drugs that create the high. Drugs and alcohol simply block off certain aspects of the ego, e.g., unconscious guilt, shame, repressed anger, negative beliefs, etc. The “high” that we feel is actually the Presence of Spirit. As the ego is blocked off, the Spirit powerfully shines forth.

Having surpassed even the high state of MDMA, doing drugs and drinking isn’t all that spectacularly interesting anymore. I do enjoy a nice bottle of wine every now and again. Along with sex, it is one of the pleasures of being human. Also, doing drugs creates a karmic debt when the drugs are addictive. I’m almost certain that (pure) MDMA is non-addictive, but it is still a form of “cheating” and as such, I doubt it can lead to reaching a permanent high state. For that, you have to do your spiritual work by progressively surrendering the ego and turning your life into a meditation. (I’m also not a doctor and thus I don’t qualify to have any opinions regarding such matters. I should also mention that today, MDMA is now illegal in most countries.)

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“You’ve been accused of stealing other people’s ideas, so much so, that nothing you share has any value because it is all just ‘ripped off’. They say you’re a con who doesn’t practice anything that he preaches. It’s also been stated that you are incompetent in pickup, dating, and relationships.”

The opposite of these accusations is the truth. Again, the intent of such slander and libel is malicious. I am someone who has spent a lifetime learning just about everything I could get my hands on, especially in the areas of Spirituality, psychology, psychiatry, sexuality, NLP, medical/therapeutic hypnosis, and more. It’s quite possible I’ve read over 1000 books, and I have attended various lectures all over the world.

As for pickup, I’ve done thousands of approaches and have dated hundreds of women, and have experienced dozens of long-term relationships, and today I am married. If I am known worldwide for being able to live with three women at a time… is it even remotely logical or reasonable to presume I am incompetent at “pickup and dating”?

The pickup workshops I used to offer were so successful that I became somewhat famous almost overnight, appearing in newspapers, radio, television, etc. My track record is pristine, while the opinions of hate-blogs are not. Consciousness research reveals that less than 7% of humanity is even capable of integrous logic and reason. Moreover, the majority of the “dating community”, including its best-known teachers, do not understand what it is that I teach, nor can they understand my “style of game.” This is because the way I am with women and the kind of “pickup” I teach operates from the paradigm of acausality, whereas the majority of mankind still works within the paradigm of Newtonian causality. The difference is akin to water versus steam.

Inasmuch as the majority of people are unable to comprehend spiritual discernment, it is understandable that they do not understand how the way I am with women is really designed to discover if a woman is, or is not, capable of integrity and empathy. The world is generally interested in money and sex, and not truth or integrity. Not unless those things can be used to make money and get laid. Ask the average man if he would like to learn how to meet that pretty girl over there and get her into bed and he will shout, “Yes!” Ask him if he wants to know if she has integrity or not, and he will say, “Huh? What for? Why would I want to know that?”

The paradigm of unconditional love is very far removed from ordinary consciousness and is generally misunderstood, and even frequently reversed, whereby perception is confused with essence and meaning. What then follows is the sheep is mistaken as a wolf, or the wolf is mistaken for a sheep. (Incidentally, the way to discover if a woman is integrous or not is to simply love her without reservation and without attachment or desire. She will soon reveal her true essence.)

I’m in the teaching & healing profession, and one reason I teach and share information is to help others relieve their suffering. When they share what they’ve learned from me with others, I am overjoyed. The people who accuse me of “stealing ideas” are stingy and selfish. Their motives are based on greed, narcissism, pride, status, recognition, and especially vindictive hatred toward this author, and revenge. Some have been stalking me online for several years. Some are merely slandering me out of boredom and for fun, and some are envious of me. Rather than copying success, the majority of mankind envies it and frequently even demonizes and attacks it, e.g., the Middle East versus America.

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“People often complain that you don’t give your past teachers any credit.”

Rather than any specific persons, I prefer to give credit to human consciousness itself. All true genius originates solely from within the field of consciousness, and not from the narcissistic ego’s of humans. Just as I do not call anything “my” wisdom or “my” ideas because I do not take credit for the teachings, writings, and public speaking, I also rarely give credit to any specific persons. Rather than pridefully taking credit, it is best to simply give thanks to God. This is the true way of “giving credit where it is due.”

I have accorded gratitude and respect towards all of my teachers, without exception, and that has to be enough. We are all teachers and students with each other anyway. Do I really need to give credit to my mother each time I tie my shoelaces, because she’s the one who taught me how? Must I give credit to my English teacher each and every time I use the English language? Do we really need to keep track of the thousands of people who have blessed our lives, and remember to “give them credit” at every turn? Once again, the people who complain about this are non-integrous and they have malicious intent.

Comically, it is the very people who attack ideaGasms who’ve been some of my greatest teachers! I can now spot a wolf a mile away, largely thanks to them. The number of past teachers who complain about my not giving them credit is actually only one. It is likely that the rest of my past teachers would laugh and tell me this “giving of credit” is a total non-issue. True genius does not take credit but instead gives credit to the field of human consciousness. True teachers all know that they “stand on the shoulders of giants.”

That said, all who are on our forums will tell you that I do indeed give credit to my teachers. There is one in particular who I frankly revere, right out in the open for all to see. I don’t speak of Him in public because I don’t want to annoy Him with non-integrous “seduction community” people.

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“There are also bloggers who say that you are… x, y, z…”

Again, bloggers are just bloggers. Instead of going to bloggers to find out the truth about me, I recommend going to reputable professionals instead. Take these writings, recordings, videos, etc., and show them to a psychologist, or a psychiatrist, or a reputable spiritual teacher such as a Catholic priest or especially a Zen Master. Moreover, have a credible kinesiologist see if the human muscles go strong in response to my materials. Also try having them test out those bloggers. It’s possible to validate all of this scientifically. Ask reputable professionals, and get a second, third, or even a fourth opinion. As Jesus Christ has stated, those who sincerely seek the truth will surely find it. You can also go to a body-language expert and ask them to analyze the way I move and speak. Ask an integrous police interrogator to watch one of my videos.

All slander is non-integrous, even though the bloggers state otherwise. No matter what the motive, it’s decidedly ‘unclassy’ to mention any specific names. Notice I am not mentioning their names, and not even their blog URL’s. I’m merely standing up. Be weary of anyone who says anything that can be hurtful, especially via denigrating remarks, insults, judgmentalism, sarcasm, or ridicule. If, as many of these blogger’s state, they are merely saying such things because they are supposedly “so worried and concerned” about me, perhaps they should pray for me instead of attacking me?

When Mother Teresa was asked to attend an anti-war demonstration, she declined, saying that she would only attend a demonstration which is pro-peace, as opposed to “anti” war. Those who maliciously slander/libel/defame/demonize/denigrate me online are decidedly very “anti” Stephane Hemon as well as anti-ideaGasms — always a dead giveaway.

It’s not necessary to attack or vilify me. If my teachings and website don’t resonate with someone, they can simply go to Google and search for a more suitable teacher.

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“Why do you insist that students need to purchase a product to come to your forums?”

You don’t show up to class empty-handed without your books. Typically, the people who complain about such petty matters are generally non-integrous and therefore unteachable. By charging an entrance fee, it filters out the people who don’t really desire to learn. The great majority of online forums are filled with negativity, narcissism, opinions, etc., and the people there often condescend each other and “troll.” This is not welcome on our forums. Note that I also offer lower-priced products and have written hundreds of free articles over the years. My newsletters are not your typical “sales pitch” but instead offer true value. I don’t try to convince people to purchase the advanced materials, I simply give value for free and if they want more, great, and if they don’t, that’s OK too. Rather than heavily promote and market, I simply write articles and leave it up to the world to make their own decisions.

As any halfway decent teacher will tell you, the number of people who have the humility to be teachable students is actually very small. Most people don’t really want to learn anything but are merely seeking to reinforce what they already know. Astonishingly, this is even truer if what they know is fallacious, negative, and narcissistic. False ideas lead to defensiveness, social paranoia, and close-mindedness that is stubbornly immune toward any idea or any person that even remotely challenges one’s views.

The average human cares only about winning, being right, lust, greed, and feeling ‘morally superior’ to others. Realize that many would prefer to die and will gladly even kill others rather than to let go of their cherished illusions. I have just described billions of people here… whole countries and even continents! In this world, anti-ideaGasms blogs are to be expected. I see them as a sign of progress, not failure. In this world, the more people disagree with you, the higher your level of consciousness probably is. If they slander you, you’re likely way above the masses, and if they nail you to the cross and kill you slowly over the course of several long hours, you are God incarnate. Welcome to planet Earth! I’m just here to reach Enlightenment as quickly as I can, so that I can get the heck out of this world of dualistic perceptual limitation.

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“Why do you charge so much money for your products?”

I actually charge many times less than do the majority of the world’s online pickup, dating, sex, and relationship schools charge, plus I offer many times more “fire power.” In fact, if you can find higher caliber relationship materials in this world, I will gladly calibrate them (using muscle-testing) and if they are offering higher value than I am, I’ll happily refund your money. Moreover, I’ll thank you for sharing the information and will likely study it myself, as it is my spiritual duty to continually improve myself. I also often recommend that students who are having difficulty absorbing our advanced materials first study Tony Robbins, the Enneagram, and Steven Covey’s “7 habits.”

People frequently condemn and attack what they do not understand. The challenge with offering high-caliber materials is that the majority of mankind frankly does not understand them. The world usually wants complexity, and what I offer is simplicity. It’s therefore unlikely that I will ever become rich, famous, and well-known. If I didn’t need the money, I would offer my materials for free, charging only a very low fee to help pay for server costs and things like that. Since this is how I make my living, pay my bills, and support my family, I need to charge money. It’s not desirable to be a homeless teacher.

Furthermore, all of my current prices are determined via the use of muscle-testing (or else they are determined via what I call a “bliss test”, which is to hold various prices in mind and see which one of them increase my current bliss state and quiets the mind). We do the majority of our muscle-tests “blind”, and we confirm them three times over. I’m also on my forums 6-7 days a week, providing clarifications and answering questions. This takes time, energy, and effort. I do not even own a house or a car. So much for the fallacious notion that I make a lot of money.

Truthfully, ideaGasms is progressively a form of selfless service to the world, and I have been consistently under attack in one way or another since the day I started, back in 2005. In those days I was offering (spiritually) lower-caliber materials (such as an orgasms DVD), and I was well on my way to becoming a millionaire. When I discovered some flaws in my older programs, I promptly took them offline and they were discontinued. Truth is many times more important than making money, and Jesus Christ said it is best to store treasures in Heaven. So much for the opinions that I’m overcharging or that I’m just a greedy marketer out to support my drug habits. Those who say these things know within themselves that they are bearing false witness, and what astounds me is that most of these critical people have seen me agonizing over painful issues such as a failure to help a certain student, or else they’ve seen me turn down lucrative offers to make obscene amounts of money. That they are being run by feelings of envy, revenge, and the pain of feeling rejected is clear and obvious.

The pathway of Enlightenment is strict and narrow. Eventually, it becomes necessary to leave behind anything and anyone who is found to be non-integrous. The problem isn’t that you “hate” them, the problem is actually that you love them. This makes the letting go of certain people very painful (on both sides). I didn’t design the spiritual pathway to Heaven, I’m just trying to follow it as best I can.

* “Enter through the narrow gate; for the gate is wide and the way is broad that leads to destruction, and there are many who enter through it. For the gate is small and the way is narrow that leads to Life, and there are few who find it.”

* “Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits.”

* “Not everyone who says to Me, “Lord, Lord,” will enter the kingdom of Heaven, but only he who does the will of My Father who is in heaven will enter.
Many will say to Me on that day, “Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in Your name, and in Your name cast out demons, and in Your name perform many miracles?” And then I will declare to them, “I never knew you. Depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness.”

–Jesus Christ, excerpts from Sermon on the Mount

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“You speak of Unconditional Love, but then say that people can be ‘non-integrous’. Is this not itself a judgment?”

No, it is not. The question itself stems from the misunderstanding of what judgmentalism means. A judgment
about someone is actually just a personal opinion based on limited human perception. What I am teaching is
discernment, as opposed to judgmentalism. In a practical manner of speaking, these are diametrically
opposed. To know if a thing is poisonous or not does not equal judgmentalism. I know anthrax is poisonous,
but I don’t “judge” nor “hate” it. I don’t hold any personal opinions about anthrax. It merely is what
it is. I’m quite thankful to know what it is, so that I can avoid it and thus prolong my life.

Furthermore, it is important to clarify what Integrity actually means. To be integrous, a person is able to
intuit that life itself is really an integrated Oneness. It’s not possible to intuit this via the left side
of the brain; this is a right brain phenomena. It’s been demonstrated scientifically that about 85% of the
world is still left brain dominant. They are therefore non-integrous, as one’s left brain dominance precludes
all spiritual awareness.

The left brain, in a nutshell, has to do with linear sequential processing and basic narcissistic (selfish)
animal gain. Survival is the only thing that matters here, and sexuality is a distant second. It’s not
possible to value the lives of others or to have empathy at this level. As consciousness evolves and the
right brain predominates, life is intuited as a Oneness, therefore, a person will, for the very first time,
become able and willing to consider the lives and the feelings of others and to take responsibility for one’s actions. Thus, Integrity means accountability.

A snake, for example, is not capable of intuiting the intrinsic value of others. To the snake, you are just
food, or else you are an enemy, or you’re just ignored altogether. Snakes aren’t “evil”, they are simply
being what they are. Snakes lack spiritual awareness; they are loveless. When you look a snake in the eye, it
doesn’t exactly hold empathic and warm eye-contact with you. To the snake, you’re essentially just a
‘thing’. (Life is purely selfish in the lower levels of consciousness.)

Then, as consciousness evolves, even animals develop the capacity for spiritual awareness. You can look into
the eyes of a dog or a cat, and the cat knows that you are Life. Your dog is capable of holding eye-contact
with you, and it is capable of even loving you, as is the purring kitty.

Although all snakes are non-integrous, and all cats are integrous, this isn’t so in the realm of humanity,
where only a minority of humans are capable of Integrity, and therefore capable of valuing the intrinsic
worth of the lives of others. This makes human life particularly difficult, as we very often can’t tell the
wolves from the sheep. In this century alone, the cost of not being able to discern the difference between
integrous leaders and non-integrous leaders has cost us the lives of over 100 million people. If it wasn’t for
the high level of consciousness of Winston Churchill, for example, it’s very likely that Hitler would have
ruled the world. He was actually only months away from winning WWII. Hitler was a wolf in sheep’s clothing,
and Churchill was a very highly evolved sheep, so to speak. Churchill was capable of Love, and Hitler was
not. Truthfully, dogs, cats, and even sheep are more evolved than 85% of humankind. To make matters worse,
humans are incredibly clever at camouflaging what they are and pretending to be evolved. We see whole
countries getting duped by non-integrous leaders, and worse, we often get conned into believing that our
integrous leaders are non-integrous. For example, I know at the very core of my being that George W. Bush is
an integrous man. One look into his eyes and I can tell he is not a snake, but is more like a kitty than
anything else. Michael Moore, on the other hand, is a humorless snake. He has no Beingness, no spiritual
awareness whatsoever. This isn’t judgmentalism, but mere statements of fact that can be clinically and
scientifically verified via muscle-testing (see Dr. John Diamond).

Discernment is, in fact, the most critical thing a person can ever learn. This can save you years of needless heartbreak and pain, and it can also save your life.

Inasmuch as I teach advanced pickup, dating, sex, and relationships that are based on Unconditional Love, it
becomes critically important for students to be able to tell if someone they wish to date is capable of
integrity and therefore empathy, consideration, owning personal responsibility, and love. It’s not possible
to have a healthy, positive, loving relationship with someone who isn’t capable of love. This doesn’t mean
they need to be judged for it; people are merely being what they are, and all people are lovable. They may
not be ready for a relationship, but that does not mean they’re unlovable. Thus, judgmentalism is one thing,
and discernment is quite another. You don’t need to “hate” those who are incapable of love, but you do
need to avoid them. Jesus Christ suggested we avoid the wolf in sheep’s clothing, and I am inclined to try
to follow His advice precisely and to the letter, and to help my students to do the same.

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“In 2008, why did you let go of dating three women at a time? What made you decide to get married to only one woman instead?”

In a nutshell, I discovered that it isn’t possible for a woman to let go of jealousy until she reaches
Enlightenment. As long as an ego remains, so does jealousy. Furthermore, from experience, I came to realize
that jealousy is a dangerous emotion. It automatically leads to the desire to kill; it awakens Freud’s Id,
so to speak. Therefore, ‘polyamory’ itself (in any arrangement) is very unwise, as it is akin to trying to
build a house during an earthquake. It’s not possible for a woman to enjoy an unconditional love level of
relationship when her jealousy is constantly being triggered. Initially, I had (naively) presumed jealousy
could be transcended, but actually it cannot. For that, one must reach Enlightenment, at which point human
relationships themselves are also transcended.

Another reason I let this lifestyle go is that during that time, Greta and I reached the level of
Unconditional Love, which is a state that is so impressive that it is unmistakable. The whole world literally
transforms in this state, and for the very first time it becomes possible to discern the wolves from the
sheep. This includes not only the discovery of who is non-integrous, but it is also accompanied by a
powerful subjective understanding of what all of this actually means. It isn’t an intellectual understanding
at all, but is an intuitive subjective knowingness.

This lifetime has also been characterized by a theme that can be described as an enormous drive to discover
the truth about why some women have cheated on me and others have not. Astonishingly, it was discovered that one of the main reasons for this is that it’s not possible to understand the value of Loyalty when a person
is still predominantly left-brained. Once this really “clicked”, I was then able to let go of a great
amount of inner pain which I had been carrying with me during most of this lifetime. I now knew, on a very
deep level, why so many women cheat, and even why they cheat when they appear to be fully ‘in love’. One of
the main reasons I began living with 2-3 women at a time was frankly because it afforded me the position of
being able to “study women under a microscope”, so to speak. Once the duality of “why women cheat (or
not)” was fully and completely resolved, the desire to continue on with this kind of lifestyle faded away.
Once you’ve learned what you had originally set out to learn, it’s time to move on.

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“Now that you’re married, are there any plans to have children?”

No. The only priority for this lifetime is to reach Enlightenment. My wife and I are currently fluctuating in
and out of high states, which makes it somewhat difficult to function in the world. In such states, there is
no more ordinary motivation to “do” or “get” or even learn anything. Even the desire to think fades away,
and the mind periodically falls silent. It would therefore be irresponsible for us to have a child and then
slip into a state where we are unable to attend to his or her needs.

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“Why don’t other spiritual teachers talk about sex and pickup?”

It’s often been said that sexuality is the most difficult area of life to master, and that it is often the
very last thing people usually ‘figure out’ before reaching Enlightenment. Sexuality itself is very often
tied to desire, guilt, shame, anger, etc., and is usually associated with the most pain. To lose one’s
reputation, one’s career, or even one’s physical body can be very painful, but nothing seems to come close
to the subjective agony of losing a sexual-love relationship.

To the average person, sex is something that is being run by animal desire. Moreover, sex is usually held in
one’s mind as being something that is “just physical” (carnal). Out of these two limitations arise every
single sex problem known to man, e.g., frigidity, addiction to lust, issues with orgasms, impotence, et al.
To resolve these two critical issues is frankly very simple, but in practice, however, it is easier said than
done because it tends to unearth incredible amounts of unconscious guilt and shame, which are the two lowest
and thus most painful of the human emotions.

Human life is excruciatingly difficult, and most people are beset by all kinds of very basic issues
pertaining to survival itself. This world has still not even discovered the solution to the most mundane
issues such as world hunger, the environment, and overpopulation, and peace between nations.

Until we humans have mastered the basics and can manage to survive long enough to even start thinking about
high energy sex and love, the majority of mankind is not likely going to be “ripe” for these kinds of
advanced teachings.

Besides sex, even the word “pickup” is usually associated with sleazy “pickup artists” who are being run
by sexual desire as well as the need to prove their desirability. The current “pickup schools” are
collectively on a very mundane level of consciousness, and the vast majority of them are still non-integrous.
What I am attempting to do with ideaGasms is to help resolve many of the dualities inherent in this field. As
the dualities are resolved, eventually there is a profound paradigm shift that takes place in the student in
which they evolve beyond “getting” and into “giving.” That is, from selfishness to selflessness. This too
is very simple, but is easier said than done. The rewards, however, make the trip many times more worthwhile
than can be anticipated or even imagined.

To speak very frankly, I have a pretty “dirty” job. All day long I hear about sexual problems, porn
addictions, debilitating shyness, rape, etc., and the majority who come to ideaGasms are still non-integrous,
and many are even mentally ill. Subjectively and experientially, they are quite literally in hell. Thus, I’m
subject to attack on an almost daily basis, and most of my students are still quite unteachable. Only a small
handful of them are going to improve their lives, and that has to be enough. Although the world of so-called
“self help” is very popular, realistically it’s only a very small minority of people who have the ability
to change, evolve, and grow. In 12-step groups, the very first step is all about admitting you have a
problem, and that without the help of God, there is no hope. “Will power” is fruitless. Inasmuch as the
majority of mankind is either unable or unwilling to take that very first step (and therefore snap out of
denial and reach basic Integrity), no matter what I teach, no matter how clearly I teach it, and no matter
how much heart and caringness goes into my work, the fact remains that it is not possible to change your life
until you turn it over to the care of God. This isn’t a religious lesson but a hard spiritual and scientific
fact of life. The ego is built on narcissistic pride, and until a person is willing to let go of thinking
they know everything already and that they are a separate/alone/egoic entity separated from Life itself,
it’s not possible to understand what I’m sharing nor learn even one iota of it, let alone discover
unconditional love itself which is something that is characteristically only discovered by about 0.4% of
humans.

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“That sounds ominous. Why do you even bother?”

An “ideagasm” is really just a cute word that means ’satori’ or ‘reframe’ or ‘paradigm shift’. I am
overjoyed when this phenomenon occurs within my own consciousness, therefore, I am also overjoyed when it
occurs in others. If I can help a small number of people to experience this type of expansion of context and
meaning, their own level of consciousness then rises and they automatically help to counterbalance the less
evolved persons who are still innocently non-integrous. When you raise the sea level, all of the ships are
also raised, as the popular saying goes. I work hard on raising my own level of consciousness, and having
reached a level that is extraordinary (at least for this world), teaching isn’t something I am but is merely
something I somehow ended up doing. I’m blessed with a certain ability/talent to speak, write, and explain
things to people in ways that are easy to understand. When God gives you a talent of some kind, you had
better put it to good use. Having spent this lifetime devoted to the mastery of pickup, dating, sex, and
relationships, as well as devoted to spiritual evolution for its own reward, it brings me an inexplicable
ecstatic joy when I help someone relieve some of their own suffering. Frankly, I wouldn’t know what else to
do with myself in this world, other than teach. This is something I’ve always done; people have always
been inclined to ask me questions.

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“What do sex and picking up women have to do with spirituality?”

Your very existence comes from the Divine non-linear spiritual realm termed ‘consciousness’. The world of
form is but a world of effects; the manifest is caused by the Unmanifest. To be even more accurate, the
manifest is synchronous and concordant with the Unmanifest, and on an even higher level of understanding,
the manifest and Unmanifest (the linear and non-linear) are actually one and the same.

When sexuality, pickup, dating, and relationships become ‘infused’ with the inner awareness called
‘Love’, which is really an awareness of non-duality, true happiness and even ecstatic joy then auto-result.
It’s then possible to understand that sexuality is not merely a physical experience, and from then on it
becomes a way of expressing unconditional love and even experiencing states of Oneness with our partner and
even with Life itself. If you’re single, for the very first time ever, it finally becomes possible to
approach a complete stranger without shyness, ‘approach anxiety’, social paranoia, and defensiveness.
Transitioning from the ‘pickup’ to the ‘date’ and into a healthy ‘relationship’ then becomes smooth,
easy, and very joyful. Relationships themselves are then free from conflict and suffering, forever.

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“Do you teach women as well?”

While the great majority of things I teach are indeed applicable to both sexes, I have decided to focus
primarily on teaching men — particularly men who are involved in today’s online “dating community” simply
because I saw an opportunity to serve in that domain.

Currently, we are putting together a huge program on sexuality, and it is mainly for women, although the
majority who are likely to invest in it will likely be men because they’ll be interested to know how to help
re-contextualize a woman’s beauty, sexuality, and nurturance in such a way that helps the woman in their
lives heal themselves on those levels. Although humans usually presume beauty and sexuality are “just
physical”, in reality, beauty is a quality of Divinity, as is sexuality. This program is still in the very
first stages of development, so I hesitate to say anything more about it until a later date. It is not so
much being written by a person, but by the field of consciousness itself. I will add that when sexuality is
healed by elevating it to the level of unconditional love, sex doesn’t become ’stale’ or ‘boring’, but
looks more like an amazing porno flick, with the main difference being that it is a porn which is ‘infused’
with true Love (and zero guilt). This is the level of true sexual healing as well as deep fulfillment.

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“What are your plans for ideaGasms in the future? Are you going to continue teaching about dating and relationships, or transition into another area, such as Enlightenment?”  

There are no ‘plans’ or ‘goals’ or any kind, other than the projects we’re working on today. We try to
live a life which is on the ‘crest of the wave of the eternal now’ to the best of our ability, allowing life
to unfold automatically and spontaneously of its own, while surrendering all fear and desire to God as it
arises.

(Additional FAQ info coming soon.)

Many Blessings,

Stephane Hemon
ideaGasms inc.