I spend a lot of my spare time thinking about iG’ers, specifically why am I so disgustingly successful with girls, so easily and naturally, and why is every other guy on this planet seeming to be completely “in the dark” without me?

I swear, only about 1% of guys are decent with women. I do mean JUST DECENT, not even “good” or “great”. It’s really strange how guys manage to consistently “not get” girls. What is really baffling is that, in truth, it’s so EASY… Just Love Women is the highest truth you will ever hear about this subject. Once you hit this level, this state, looking back you guys won’t believe that you ever “failed” in the past. It’s amazing how these little insecurity illusions get in our way so consistently. And how amazing is it that women are equipped with incredible insecurity detectors that are about 50 times better than most men will ever realize?

I’ve spent the last twenty years trying to break this down, both scientifically and spiritually, especially the last three years with iG and this “teaching/sharing” role I’ve decided to take on.

Especially the last three weeks, I’ve been with this hot Polish chick, just the two of us… my “job” simply being to get her completely and utterly devoted and in love. And as usual, there were a couple little challenges, but in the end it was easier than breathing.

I’d say that being HUMBLE is probably the very first thing to get handled. I don’t mean that fake-humble crap people are into, I mean just really thanking God for every little thing that is good in your life. The knowledge that humans are literally incapable of love, humor, intimacy, joy, happiness, or success in any endeavor without the assistance of DIVINITY or “light”, which is almost like the complete opposite of ego.

Even in sports, for example I play a lot of 9-ball billiards, and I’m one of the best in the country. But I won’t allow myself to feel good that “I” made a decent shot. No, in truth, this particular body access a certain frequency of consciousness typically labeled with the word “excellence”. And it is a GIFT.

Good with girls? Same thing. It’s a gift. I would lose the gift if I lost the gift of being HUMBLE about it as well. Obviously i sound arrogant when i post about girls, Circles, and the like, because to be truly humble I shouldn’t even talk about it. But, I’m choosing to teach it, so who can blame the poor unsuspecting girl who finds “ideaGasms” website and starts reading my blog? Of course I sound like the most arrogant douchebag alive because I’m talking about “how to get ‘bisexual-only’ girls” in an extremely open way. I would probably “jump to conclusions” about me too.

So being very humble is probably number one. That, and sense of humor. Oh my God is humor ever important.

Greta has a really well-developed sense of humor. She’s not that funny herself, but she is a great AUDIENCE. Actually she’s starting to get really funny, I’m rubbing off on her. Humor has a structure, that’s all. She laughs fucking hard at my jokes, stories, antics… I love “open” girls like this. You feel like a rock star in their presence, and it tends to bring the best out of you.

I became somewhat addicted to making her laugh, simply because it brings so much Joy into our lives.

And, I’m noticing, now more than ever, just how retarded most people are in the humor and laughter department. Very few people can, and ever do, make me laugh.

So, we were recently analyzing my humor structures, and most of the time it boils down to my just noticing what my ego thinks (paranoia, jealousy, anger… you know that ego of yours, it’s the same one we all share collectively) and then openly voicing those thoughts in an exaggerated manner.

So we sit there making fun of our ego’s all day, and it’s extremely “healing” and enjoyable.

For example…

Greta is “big boned”. Not at all fat, but not the skinny model leggy type of chicks that are the most popular among white men. She’s got the big fabulous natural firm tits, and the ass that doesn’t quit. BIG ASS, but really “shapely”. Big tits, blong hair, tight jeans, cowgirl booties… You know what I’m talking about. Shhhwing!

Of course, she grew up feeling self-conscious, and secretly wishing she was more like her sister, who more closely fits the model profile (nice ‘n’ skinny).

So like, if I’m with Ghita and cannot see where Greta is in the store, I’ll shout, “Ghita… where’s the fat one?”

Making fun of ego… Mine or hers.

If a girl is very insecure about something, she better not let me notice what that is, because I’ll just keep calling her “fat” or whatever. I’ll suggest different “sausage and white protein diets” she can try… I’ll just keep harping on it, pretending I’m serious. It’s very cocky/funny, but specifically targeted for ego & insecurities.

Or some dude chats her up. The ego instantly goes into “sperm wars” jealousy. Then paranoia. Not that I’m paranoid, but if I was really stuck in low consciousness like a computer geek or something, I might feel paranoid “I’m NOT truly loved” and inadequacy thoughts would arise, so what I’ll do is encourage that type of egoic programming to express itself… So I’ll “get paranoid” and role play this a little bit.

Or if you’re in a Circle, you know the girls are just human and there will, at times, be jealousy. It takes a lot of spiritual devotion to transcend something as basic as jealousy, so patience on your part is definitely required. They’re just human. People are extremely sensitive, deep down.

Since I just spent three weeks in Costa Rica ALONE with Greta, I know that deep down, Ghita probably felt a little jealousy. Obviously after three years doing Circles together, she’s certainly not upset, and she trusts me immensely. But still, I know she at least wondered if we had a lot of sex and stuff like that.

So last night when we got to Montreal, Ghita was still feeling a little under-the-weather (cold, fever, sniffles,) and certainly not in the mood for a threesome, so I joked, “Hey, why don’t you lie down, and Greta and I can show you all of our new cool sex moves that we learned from fucking all day long is Costa Rica?”

Not that funny in text, probably, but this got some extremely hard laughs from all of us last night. I’m simply taking an insecurity or tension spot and exaggerating it to the fullest. It’s very healing, and it sure beats “talking about the issue” all night long in a logical, analytical fashion, like I know most of you guys are doing. But why talk about stuff when you can just laugh at it instead?

Humor is really EASY when you stop fighting the ego and just roll with it, and make fun of it all day long. Just take whatever insecurities that go through the head, and emphasize them, express them in a very humorous, exaggerated manner. That’s all humor is, it’s exaggeration.

George Carlin (my fav. comedian) helped a LOT over the years. I wanted his structure, so I played all his CD’s on repeat, nearly every day for about 1 1/2 years, even when I was sick of hearing him, I still listened. Because I knew it’d rub off. Carlin basically makes fun of the human ego, if you think about it. He’s an “ego channeler”, so to speak. It seems that the BEST humor has to do with expressing and exaggerating ego structures.

But, there so much more to it, it would seem. Because I see guys doing this already, yet they come across as lame and pathetic, and not actually funny. Either too cocky, too funny (lame), or the joke just dies on the operating table.

One has to start with a very solid inner-game base, otherwise they seem try-hard, and too dependent on getting a laugh to feel good about themselves. Like if the girl doesn’t laugh, they try harder and harder and just end up energy-vamping her.

Yeah, I’m usually making jokes all day, but it’s mainly to entertain myself.

I’ll think more about this, it’s a seriously important subject matter for those working to get good with women. Without real, uproarious laughter in the date/relationship/circle, there is no chance of any real success - NONE.

And, a woman is to be re-seduced every single day, all over again.

Humor is the way to true love.

I’m honored that so many people (!) actually read this crap.

Blessings,
Stephane

Hey guys, here’s a forum post I though you’d all enjoy.

Girl 3 - LTR. We had an AWESOME relationship that was all over the map. “Shy”, clingy, very emotional, bisexual, and VERY VERY HORNY. She keeps texting me and on MSN asking me what I’m up to, things she’s gotten like DVD’s or games. Gets upset when I tell her I’m going to a restaurant and says things like, “That’s my favourite place, you know that. I want to go, why won’t you take me.” Any attempts to get her to come out and she shys away.

This isn’t a “guarantee” or anything, so proceed at your own risk, but in my experience, a LOT of girls that are like this just want to be “FORCED” and yelled at.

Some guys HATE it when I talk like this, but again, it’s not your behavior - in this case, it’s *not* VOLUME OF VOICE that is good or bad… let’s not judge vocal volume here… volume is neutral. It’s the intention BEHIND your behavior… if you’re standing in compassion, it’s all good.

When a girl says stuff like “That’s my fav place, why don’t you invite me?” and then she actually SHYS AWAY when I do invite her?

I know what that means!

“GET YOUR COAT ON, QUIT BEIN A PAIN IN THE ASS, AND MEET ME THERE AT 8pm!” (click!)

It’s just her programming.

“Judgment is Mine”, sayeth the Lord.

I try to abide by that, and not judge a girl for needing, or wanting, verbal spanks. In fact, it’s kind of annoying, but also kind of cute, and DEFINITELY gets the polarity plumbing going. These type of girls secretly LOVE IT, they love that i “get it” and calmly, authoritatively, tell them exactly what I want them to do. Some girls even advertise themselves on the internet as SLAVES TO BE *OWNED* because they want to feel this way so much. They want some schmuck to tie them down and yell at ‘em all day… a bit too hardcore for my taste though

Hey - I *prefer* girls who aren’t programmed like this, but it’s not a total deal breaker, not to me it isn’t.

She’s opened up some fears to me though, like she’s afraid of being alone, she’s been dating other guys and they all use her and her heart keeps getting broken.

And, she LIKES IT.

Her ego likes this, ego looooooves victimhood and broken-hearted’ness.

So, with compassion and teasing energy in my voice, and a twinkle in my eye, I’ll say things like this to those girls –> “Oh poor you, admit it, you’re creating this, you choose these guys and you know they’ll do this to you, it’s because you secretly love the drama, the highs and lows, the emotional sex and breakup sex, especially since you’re a woman, you love the challenge, the ego tripping, you love going ‘who the fuck are YOU to treat ME like that, don’t you realize how awesome I am?!?’ and you love the juice, especially as a woman, you know I’m right, hahaha that’s why you’re giggling, hey I’m not judging you, but admit it, you LOVE the drama, and you love guys who actually make you FEEL EMOTIONS intensely in your body, this is how female plumbing gets wet, you bitch!”

She’s giggling, and shocked, so I end with with, “GOD! Women are so stubborn and BEAUTIFUL! Thank you God for giving me these magical creatures!”

She’s laughing hysterically, and then it’s “Come over, NOW, I want to see you” and…………

Bing, bang, boom… she’s mine if I so choose… I’m the ONLY guy who understands her - predictably the only guy who “gets it”. Know thy woman better than she knows herself. It’s the surest way to get laid, for those of you that are as hungry as I used to be.

Haha, IRONICALLY, the more you know women, the more compassion and wisdom you have, and you end up not really wanting to fuck them anymore, because you feel sorry for them, and their inherent, child-like ignorance becomes a turn-off, you feel OVERWHELMED by the amount of training they’ll need to catch up to your level of consciousness.

DOH!

If I had to sum up what most women are like, if i was to stop right now and ‘channel’ the inner psyche of 99% of all women on this planet, it would sound like this:

“BUT I’M SCAAAARED!”

(Not just women, but men too. Fear is the one thing that most people almost *never* transcend. Secretly, we ENJOY it.)

This was a girl I attempted threesomes with, she was into it until we actually started talking to girls and almost closing the deal then she would freak out and back out of it. No amount of explaining to her that we’re sharing TOGETHER would get past her fears of her losing me to another woman.

Yeah, this is probably the MOST common fear, which is the fear of losing the guy to a hotter chick.

This, of course, stems from the old “I am not enough” issues of feeling inadequate, and the female tribal programming alpha sperm-war stuff.

I used to wait for girls to calm down first, because once the fear of loss kicks in, no amount of logic will get through, too much emotion stands in the way of you, her, and reasonable thinking.

Later on when she’s calm, I’ll go, “You know, it’s amazing how ignorant the human ego is. Just try to imagine - you win the lotto. One million bucks cash. Then, you win the lotto again - this time, TWO million bucks in cash.

Now, do you throw away the first million dollars, simply because you won the lotto again?

No! Of course not! So how dumb can you be, to think I would throw away a perfectly good girlfriend who brings me MORE GIRLS?”

I say this in a way that’s extremely funny, with good timing and comic delivery.

Then comes the ol’ goose and golden eggs sory…

“There was a farmer who had this amazing goose who could actually lay GOLDEN EGGS for him.

Every single morning, without fail, there would be ONE GOLDEN EGG waiting for him.

But soon enough, the farmer started to get greedy, and impatient, and started yelling at the goose, “I want more eggs! I WANT MORE EGGS!” …and then he got so impatient that he actually KILLED the goose.

Then he started crying because he realized that the greed had blinded him, and now he would have no more golden eggs!

You’re the goose, baby! (Chris Rock voice) Now go and get me some golden eggs!

“BABY… Do you realize the level of JOB SECURITY you would have for bringing home girls?! Don’t you know what TENURE means??

Are you blind? Would you even want to BE with the stupid bastard who actually throws you away for bringing home a HOTTER CHICK?

*Why* would you want someone who’s that stupid?!

Any chick with half-a-brain will be reframed and reassured after that, trust me.

After all…

It’s THE TRUTH.

Another truth is that eventually, once they get over jealousy programming and get a girlfriend or two who transcends jealousy also, they will be happier and more fulfilled in this kind of relationship, TENFOLD.

I know because I’m currently living it.

At first though, you can’t help but to feel like a complete asshole for pushing the envelope like this, but deep down I always knew this was the highest level of relationship possible in the human domain, and that intense faith in my beliefs kept me going through those dark nights when the girl is crying and afraid to lose you and going through intense jealousy pangs and basically, ego-death.

But today? Just take one look into Ghita eyes, it’s enough to make a grown man cry… she is so peaceful and beautiful and happier than any girl ever witnessed thus far on planet Earth. And Greta, she was easy, and almost 100% “ready” so she jumped right into the Circle with ease and the eagerness of a child on Christmas morning. “Training” her was a walk in the park compared to most girls.
Blessings all around,
Stephane