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Archive for December, 2007

ideaGasms author Stephane
   Stephane

“The Only Cause Of Death Is Karma”

(44 votes, average: 2.93 out of 5)
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***QUESTION***

Stephane,

My girlfriend has become addicted to cigarettes. I think her smoking habit is repulsive. It makes her smell and taste unpleasant, but besides that, I love her and watching her willfully do harm to herself is upsetting to me. This comes up often. For a few months she was making a concerted effort to quit, or at least reduce the amount she smoked. She wouldn’t ever smoke while she was around me because I told her how unappealing I found it. She’s begun smoking again when we’re out together and it pisses me off. I’ve been giving her snippy, sarcastic one-liners to let her know it pisses me off but she rolls her eyes at me and keeps at it.

Am I a tool, or what? How can I LEAD her into healthier habits?

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Getting her to quit smoking will only result in a huge power struggle that will kill the relationship.

Get her smoking organic tobacco, and make sure she gets one organic vitamin C a day. Then, no harm will come.

Tobacco is not deadly, it’s the CHEMICALS that that create problems. Native Americans always knew this, but greedy Americans took over and put addictive chemicals in them. Actually, what is unhealthy is the PESTICIDES (bugs will consume over 25% of the tobacco when we grow organically).

Also note that every human being’s death-date is already pre-determined, sooooo there’s nothing to worry about - your girlfriend will die when her day comes, and nothing outside of her will kill her. And the same thing applies to you. You may now take a deep breath and chillax ;)

This is why fuckers in their 20’s die of “second-hand smoke” and fuckers in the 90’s smoke huge cigars. People die when they are kamically MEANT to die. Taking care of our health is CUTE, and it makes our bodies feel good and strong, but ultimately the only “cause” of death is karma.

Blessings,
Stephane

ideaGasms author Stephane
   Stephane

“I Only Date Bisexual Women”

(18 votes, average: 4.44 out of 5)
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***QUESTION***

Hey Stephane,

First, thank you for the BGTP… it has changed my life! I have a
question:

What do u say when a potential second girl asks if you have
a girlfriend? I’ve had a number of women interested in my recently,
manytimes when my girlfriend isn’t around, and when the word “girlfriend” comes up I
can tell that they slot me into ’swinger’ or ‘player’ category.

What do you say?
Thanks and happy holidays!

peace

Rob

>>>MY COMMENTS:

Circles are an extremely high-consciousness relationship to get into, in fact, they are the highest level of relationship there is. And, because of this, the women we need to attract for this lifestyle to work are literally in the top 0.4% of all humans walking this Earth today.

Yes, according to consciousness research, only 0.4% of the population actually have real COMPASSION in their consciousness… This is the level 500+ on the scale of “zero to 1000″.

Once a person is able to tap into the universal field of compassion, unconditional love, etc., this is when they start leaving the mind and world of duality, projections, etc. and actually begin to percieve the world as it truly is. Compassion is when we start busting out of the matrix, so-to-speak, and this is why I urge people to use the 5D Compassion formula so much. It’s like a bridge that can lead us out of the false linear reality and into the true non-linear reality.

(I will soon offer the 5D Compassion for free)

To get back to your question, when you ask me HOW one should tell new girls that they are in a relationship and looking to build a Circle, I know that you’re still coming from a “seduction” or mind-control place. Like, you want to “be careful” with your words, so as to not scare girls away.

The thing is, we’re literally looking for the top 0.4% of highest consciousness ranking women IN THE WORLD. Mathematically speaking (back into LINEAR thinking, but only to make a point) this means we must talk to a minimum of 250 women just to find ONE WOMAN WHO WILL BE CHILLED OUT ENOUGH TO LIVE IN A CIRCLE.

Looking at my own rather extensive life experience, I’d say that one in 250 is about right ;)

So all of this is to say, “JUST TELL HER THE TRUTH”.

Don’t waste your time trying to “phrase it right”.

When girls are attracted to me, and they ask if I have a girlfriend, I just go, “Actually, I’m into alternative relationships, a little something called Circles…”

If I sense she won’t be able to handle it, or if she starts interrogating me about it (this happens a LOT), I just go, “It’s just a peronal choice made between consenting adults, if you want to ask me about it sometime, you can, but right now I’m here to have fun”. (Or something dismissive like that)

When they CAN handle the truth, I just tell them the truth… “I only date bisexual women. They like girls, and so do I. Which kind of girls do you like?” and they will literally TELL ME.

Sometimes, the girl will light up like a Christmas tree and genuinely want to know everything about me.

But most other times, they get defensive, and try to interrogate me about it. When this occurs, I try to be as dismissive as possible, and I try to avoid answering their questions.

When they are GENUINELY curious, and really want to know everything about me (and about Circles), I am ALSO quite dismissive, simply because most girls assume that whenever a guy opens his mouth that he is trying to qualify himself to her.

So, I say things matter-of-factly, with little or no emotional expression, and I don’t divulge more that they asked for… As a rule of thumb, I like to keep the conversations I have with women ABOUT THEM, instead of about me, myself, and I.

So yeah, I tell them the truth, without trying to make it sound “safe” or “appealing” or anything like that… I just say things like, “A circle really isn’t a big deal, it’s kind of like having a family, and we all love each other and help each other to grow, and eventually the goal is to become Enlightened.”

Now, since my girlfriends trust me so much, and they know I’m not one to give his power away to women just because they are “so pretty”, I’m in a position where I can “break the rules” and literally seduce the girl home with me, and throw her on top of the pile.

But since you guys are new at this, I recommend getting your current girlfriend to do your dirty work for you… It MUCH easier for a girl to pickup a new girl, bring her home, and get her into a Circle than it is for most guys to pull this off.

Also note that while I enjoy teaching girls how to pickup smoothly, I still do not think this is the right way to build a Circle. Have you heard the saying, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”? Well, when the COUPLE is ready, the CIRCLE will appear.

If you have any more questions, you know where to find me. Plus I have a few new YouTube videos coming out this week.

Blessings,

Stephane

ideaGasms author Stephane
   Stephane

“Owned Sub Asks: Can I Learn To Squirt On My Own?”

(14 votes, average: 4.64 out of 5)
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***QUESTION***

Hi Stephane,

I am a 40yr old woman and the only orgasms I have ever had are clitoral stimulated ones that I have achieved myself.

I have never climaxed with a man..ever.. and to be honest the ones I have had are nothing special. I dont actualy cum I just get the rush up my body for a few seconds and RSI lol!!

My question is..do you think buying the dvd on the female orgasms will help me experiment as I am now on my own and would like to have a little more fun with myself? lol

I was a previously “owned submissive”.

Yours in Anticipation
-Woman

>>>MY COMMENTS:

It’s difficult to learn this alone because much of it requires:

1. Someone who can massage your entire body, with some very specific “pressure points” etc.

2. Your Heart should be VERY open as well, and Heart is MUCH more important and any “techniques”… I have two new girlfriends and I got them both having these mind-blowing orgasms with ZERO massage and techniques. It’s because I helped them to feel understood, accepted, cherished, healed etc. and once a woman’s Heart blossoms open, her orgasms will be incredible.

All of this is to say that you CAN learn this on your own, but it might be more difficult than if you had a loving partner to help you out.

I suggest you download our video anyway, and if you can’t get there on your own, eventually you will attract someone into your life and you can show them the goods and learn it together.

Next, I find it very nteresting that you just happened to mention that your were a previously “owned submissive”.

I’m not your shrink, but I’m going to take this to mean that you are hinting that you want my opinion about that as well. hug

The thing with extreme domination/submission is that it feels incredibly good on a biological, lust, animal level… hence the attraction to those energies. And, dom/sub dynamics are not to be judged or condemned, they are not good or bad… dom/sub dynamics simply ARE.

I too have played around with these energies, although I have not “owned” anyone but I have gone quite far with this type of stuff just to learn about it, and I have to tell you that just the thought of having a submissive woman tied to my floor and reduced to a thing turns me on too… I think this turns almost everybody on, because the human body and ego that we all have are basically just animals.

The problem with such extreme dom/sub dynamics is that while this feels good to our lower selves, it does NOT feel good to our Higher Selves. Playing around with extreme dom/sub energies can feel good in the moment, but it also causes the Heart Chakra to close… it closes us off to higher levels of bliss, joy, unconditional love, and so on… so it prevents you from accessing higher levels of consciousness that you need to be in if you want the kind of orgasms that we teach in our video.

When you mention that you were a previously “owned submissive”, AND you’ve never had satisfactory orgasms, AND I know that I can CONSISTENTLY give women INCREDIBLE orgasms by going through the HEART…

If you want the kind of orgasms that you see in our video, more than anything else you’ll need an Open Heart… The extreme dom/sub stuff is CUTE, but it won’t allow you passage, and in fact, it will actually PREVENT you from going higher and higher… Being somebody’s “slave” will only feed the ego and “human plumbing”, but it’s Heart that we need to access… TRANSCENDING duality is what gets us there… you need HIGHER consciousness, not LOWER consciousness.

If you are familliar with Chakras (levels of consciousness), dom/sub dynamics are played out ONLY in the lower three levels of consciousness, and Heart is the one that is next up the ladder, it’s the one you need to access.

(I realize I’ve just said it three times now, I’m pretty tired today ;)

Blessings,

Stephane

ideaGasms author Stephane
   Stephane

“She Wants A Girlfriend… *gulp* …WITHOUT ME!”

(22 votes, average: 4.82 out of 5)
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***QUESTION***

Stephane,

My girlfriend is bi and insists that she wants to experiment herself and possible date separately a woman and me at the same time. Also, she says she prefers to date other bisexual married women so that “neither one of them are tempted to leave or cheat on us men”.

This makes me feel really uncomfortable - especially with the idea of her having a separate relationship from me. It’s like a David D role reversal (she would be dating multiple people instead of me!) Also, she is insecure with me dating another woman while she has another girlfriend since she is bisexual and “I don’t understand and should only need her.” We have up until now gotten along reallly well and still have a great love life, but this is creating a lot of angst and drama in our relationship. She says says she wants to have an intimate relationship with a woman and that most woman won’t want to be a third wheel etc…

Any advice and does your program address these issues? How do I turn this into a circle instead of two rays in opposite directions?

I look forward to your response,

-Sincerely,

-AG

Dear friend, you’re mentally insane.

I will explain.

You are letting your insecurities get the best of you.

Deep down, you’re afraid that she might SWITCH TEAMS on you and never come home… like she might just become a “lesbian” and leave you.

Listen, if you suck with women, if your Heart is closed, if you’re an ass-kisser, etc. then YES… your fears are “correct”.

But if you know how to be a man… if your relationship is good and healthy, and POLARIZED… if your woman is trustworthy and she can trust you… there is *nothing* to worry about.

In fact, it is often best for you to let your girlfriend have girls on the side, especially at first, while getting her ready for Circles, because this is how she will learn how to be “the man” with other women.

She will come home with all kinds of questions about how to handle X, Y, and Z issues and little “tests” that girls will throw at her, and then you can teach and train her… she will appreciate learning this IMMENSELY.

Now, I KNOW that your girl is saying dumb shit like, “Men should only need one woman” and other nonsense like, “most women won’t want to be a third-wheel” and even, “I should just date bisexual women who are MARRIED!”

Haha, YES… she is sadly mistaken on all counts… but, she is just NAIVE.

She needs EXPERIENCE.

The reason my girls are happy to invite new girls into the relationship is simply because our relationship is SO GOOD that they would literally feel SELFISH for not sharing me with other women. If you have my products such as the GTP, BGTP, etc. then it becomes obvious that I know what I know about women and that’s that. Being good with women is actually EASY, so long as your Heart is TRULY open.

I can help get you there, but you’ll have to meet me half-way.

If you had my stuff, you would have reframed this girl in two seconds.

First you get them squirting, so they start BRAGGING about you to all their friends, and literally inviting girls over for some squirt trainings.

While this is going on, you fix their Chakras, you get their emotions back on track, so they are feeling good, healthy, and pretty soon they radiate… THEY GLOW.

With The GTP, you have all the frames for passing tests, stopping arguments, and getting to the core of all issues with EASE. And with the BGTP, you become a serious blackbelt.

HOW would I have handled this girls objections?

Standing on my head and laughing, that is how.

This stuff is sooooo easy once you know what I know.

Let’s look at her first silly objection:

“I only wanna date bisexual women who are MARRIED”.

My response: “Great, so now you’re encouraging women to lie cheat on their husbands… do you even know what bad karma MEANS, dum-dum? It means jealous husband chasing us down the street with sawed-off shotgun… NO THANK YOU.”

Next one…

She said she wants married women so that “Neither of us will be tempted to cheat on the men”.

So she just confirmed that YES, she is often tempted to cheat on you with other men.

At least now you know the truth.

Will you two be able to face this honestly and look at how you are BOTH screwing this relationship up? Because you are BOTH responsible for this.

Next, she doesn’t want YOU to be with other women because “you should only need her”.

Sounds logical and good on paper, except it’s pure insecurity getting the best of her. She is really just saying, “You’re a wussy-boy who gives his power away to me, so I KNOW that you can easily be controlled by another woman… and I can’t take that chance and risk losing you to someone who is hotter than me”.

When she sees that you have a SPINE and take NO CRAP FROM ANYONE, INCLUDING HER… she will trust you.

Also note that saying, “You should only want one woman” is like looking at the forest and saying, “You should only need ONE TREE!”

Abundance is something you can both share together, and no worries - women only want mutiple male parters when they cannot find real men who understand them fully and help them to blossom. When a woman finds her “oak tree”… she doesn’t care about, nor want, more men.

For real.

The fact that your girl is ‘’shopping” just shows me you don’t have (or you didn’t LIVE) the principals in the GTP program.

You’re so lost it’s overwhelming ;)

Next, she says “most women won’t want to be a third-wheel”, yet another FALSE way of looking at this.

When people view each other as equals, there is no “third-wheel” consciousness… NONE. The girls become BEST FRIENDS and it starts to feel like you have a FAMILY… that is what Circles are about.

My friend, I will easily “allow” my girlfriends to have “female side-dishes” because…

1. It teaches them how to be “da man” with other women, so it ups their game.
2. They will compare the girls to me, and I will invariably always always always come out on top.

I don’t say this to impress you, but to impress UPON YOU what can happen when you increase your consciousness -

Get the GTP, BGTP, Chakras, and Squirt Video.

SINK OR SWIM!

Blessings to you both,
Stephane