“Other Men Are Like Rubber”

***QUESTION***

Hi Stephane,

I have been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years
now.. things have been great until a few months ago where
some “fights” arose. One thing that came up was that she
wanted to “try” other people… But she also wanted to
keep our relationship.

Ok she is young, 18. To me this was ludicrous… but I
do understand with her being young and not had any real
sexual experience besides myself… But still this is the
thorn in our relationship.

Any of your insight would be great thanks,

~Dan

>>>MY COMMENTS:

When a woman loves you, but also feels the need to
“shop around”, no matter what her age is, you can’t
help but wonder, “Am I not enough?”

Let’s pretend for a moment that you are the Master
Creator of your own reality, and that EVERYTHING IN
LIFE is your sole responsibility.

Including this.

So how did you CREATE this reality for yourself?

How is her desire to “shop around” actually YOUR
creation?

…I’d like to introduce a concept that I call, “Other
Men Are Like Rubber”.

Now, most people confuse Love with Neediness.

And I’m sure you’ve heard of the following old saying -

“If you truly love someone, set them free… If they come
back, they are yours truly.”

Let’s take this a step further. Your girlfriend wants to
“date” other men. Maybe this is true, or maybe it’s JUST
A TEST.

Women love to feel that their man is a “man on a mission”.
In other words, they love to feel that our mission in
life has more pull than even THEY DO.

This turns women on immensely.

On the other hand, NEEDINESS or “Co-dependency” is a huge
turn-off.

When a woman says, “I love you very much, but I’m young and
I need to see other men”, DO NOT take it at face value.

Women are not like men. Their “word” is NOT their bond. When
women say things, it’s usually just a reflection of how they
are FEELING in THIS MOMENT in time.

In five minutes from now, her entire belief system and values
can easily do a 180-degree turn…

You’ve all seen women change their “opinion” in a nanosecond.

Feminine women use their FEELINGS more than they use their LOGIC.
For this reason, don’t take the things that they say at FACE
VALUE. Nothing is written in stone, and as I’ve said before,
“All plans with women shall be considered TENTATIVE PLANS.”

So when your girlfriend says, “I want to start seeing other
men”, what she is REALLY saying is, “In this precise moment
in time, I’m scared that you are not Yang (masculine) enough
to handle me. You’re too needy, and it’s turning me off. I
really want to feel more HEART from you, and less mind-control.
I really hope that saying I want other men will wake you up.”

In that moment, you need to display COMPLETE NON-NEEDINESS,
otherwise you’ll “fail the test”.

Next time a woman tests you like this, you need to PRESCRIBE
THE SYMPTOM.

She supposedly wants other men?

Fine. What would a Compassionate, Non-needy Yang Man who Loves
Unconditionally and Honors the paths that people choose for
themselves do?

For example -

Woman: “I feel the need to see other men.”

Stephane: (No resistance) “I understand.”

Woman: (Already feeling my strength) “But doesn’t that upset
you?”

Stephane: (Deliberately not answering) “I want you to be happy.
I don’t want to own you. If you need to go off on your own path
right now, I will honor that.”

Woman: (Getting emotional) “I love you, it’s just… I don’t
know. I just…”

Stephane: (Now taking it a step further and prescribing the
symptom) “My love for you is UNCONDITIONAL. If you want to see
other guys, I know plenty of guys that I can introduce you to.”

Woman: “But I don’t WANT other guys, I LOVE YOU STEPHANE!!!”

*TEST PASSED WITH FLYING COLORS*

>Other men are like rubber. If you push your woman onto them,
she will BOUNCE off of them and back into your arms.

Thanks for reading.

Be well,
Stephane
www.ideagasms.net

PS - The Girlfriend Training Program -
http://www.ideagasms.net/girlfriend-training-program/

I just put together my Circle in Los Angeles with Ghita, Greta & AmyJo,
and it is, so far… perfect. These particular girls are “built” for this
lifestyle.

We’re filming a documentary about our Circle, which includes a KILLER
seminar the girls and I just did in L.A., my best “work” thus far,
jam-packed with “female psychology”, spiritual goodies, and a taste of
what my life is like, living in Circles with three women.

Funny, we ran into Neil Strauss when we were having breakfast in
Hollywood, when he saw the Circle the look on his face was… priceless

So yeah, Greta can get a Visa from Poland to the US, but cannot get into
Canada… and BESIDES, I’m really sick of canadian winters, so we’ll be
apartment hunting tomorrow, we’re probably going to get a place in
Manhattan Beach.

I belong in L.A., my Circle is actually *accepted* out here.

In other places like Montreal, London, Europe and so on, people get REALLY
freaked out when they see me with 2 or 3 women, but OUT HERE??

Hahahahaha… they just assume that I’m a rock star.

“He’s probably a rock star, hence all the girls hanging off of him.”

And then, they turn back around and go about their business. SOME people
get a bit freakish, but not nearly as much as in other places in this
crazy repressed judgmental sexually-obsessed world of ours. Los Angeles is
the home of many freaks of nature, including Hugh Hefner with a circle of
his own at the playboy mansion, so it’s all good.

Once we find our apartment, I’ll be flying to Montreal with Ghita and
AmyJo, while Greta stays behind to “nest” for us.

We’ll collect some of our belongings, and more importantly, we’re going to
record the “Circle QnA” seminar in Montreal, I have quite a few people
waiting for this event to happen and I don’t want to let them down.
Assuming the footage is also good, we’ll add this seminar to our new
Circle Documentary as well.

The documentary is going to be called, “The Girlfriend Whisperer”, haa. I
think of the best names for products, do I not?

Much Love from Los Angeles,
Stephane