*Question From A Young Woman:

Stephane,

I am going to be nannying over the summer. While I have NO problem with the two step sisters; they’re amazing, love me, and is sooo open emotionally, and appreciative, his half sister on the other hand…it’s a totally different story.

She likes me and I can tell she wants to open up to me. She laughs at
everything I say. She’ll even copy me with stuff. However, she’s also INCREDIBLY aloof. I know she’s not trying consciously to be aloof. She’s very closed emotionally and depressed. Definitely pissed that her mom got married and she had to leave her home and move into another place with a man she isn’t close to. I know that’s an issue for her - she doesn’t feel at home.

My question is this…I am prepared to be patient, but I know that by
spending a good amount of time with me this summer, she will by default
become a bit more happy.

But is there anything you would suggest that I can do? Any exercises?
Anything to get her to not withdraw so much? Do I just need to continue
building trust, but never give my power away? I have a lot of compassion
for her and I really deep down in my heart just want her to
be happy.

Any help - I would really appreciate. I really love her and want her to
be happy, open, and feel free.

Love always,
A.J.

>>My Comments:

My suggestion is, as usual, “Lead by example, and spank when they’re out of line’.

Like meeting a cat for the first time… we let the cat come to us… We don’t say, “Hey cat, stop being so aloof, open yourself up and come sit here.”

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